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mommy1987smurf

i'm having a girl and at first i told everyone that i was going to name her after myself just change up the spelling. but last month when me and my kids father was on speaking terms we decided to give her his name! my mother really doesn't care for my kids father when i was pregnant with my son she got mad at me because i decided to make him a jr instead of the name she picked which was Camony (i didn't like it). So now i dont know if wanna name my baby Aryel Nicole or Kaludia Nicole! I just know at the end of the day someone is going to be mad.

brookelynpaisley

You said "baby's father," not husband, so here's my advice:

Give the kid YOUR last name and YOUR choice of first and middle name. No offense asI'm sure he's the cream of the Maury crop, but if you're not married to the man and you're not even referring to him as a boyfriend, I wouldn't plan on the guy sticking around. I certainly wouldn't name the kid something HE wants only for him to become a dead beat and then you have a child with a name you don't love.

Also, you mean Ariel. And I don't know WTF Kaludia is. Do you mean Claudia? Stick with that spelling. Whatever Kaludia is, it's awful.

evaazalea

Why does a guy, any guy, need both kids named after himself? I'm not entirely sure what the name is but if your DS is Claude, your DD does not need to be named Claudia, this guy needs an ego check.

apc1929

I don't know what I am more confused about- that you would name a Girl with the fathers name (assuming it isn't unisex)  or that your mother would have any say in what your childs name is??  If you are mixing up Ariel to spell differently I would say please don't-- its sooo much prettier with the i  and since you aren't changing pronounciation why make it different than you?   Kaludia is just terrible..  Claudia is far far better..  Nicole is nice

9yrsLater

TysMomPlusOne:

Why does a guy, any guy, need both kids named after himself? I'm not entirely sure what the name is but if your DS is Claude, your DD does not need to be named Claudia, this guy needs an ego check.

This! 

526SadieSadie

::crosses fingers:: please please please be MUD!!

krissyj75

brookelynpaisley:

You said "baby's father," not husband, so here's my advice:

Give the kid YOUR last name and YOUR choice of first and middle name. No offense asI'm sure he's the cream of the Maury crop, but if you're not married to the man and you're not even referring to him as a boyfriend, I wouldn't plan on the guy sticking around. I certainly wouldn't name the kid something HE wants only for him to become a dead beat and then you have a child with a name you don't love.

Also, you mean Ariel. And I don't know WTF Kaludia is. Do you mean Claudia? Stick with that spelling. Whatever Kaludia is, it's awful.

This.  Exactly this.  lol

Emiliana7

krissyj75:

brookelynpaisley:

You said "baby's father," not husband, so here's my advice:

Give the kid YOUR last name and YOUR choice of first and middle name. No offense asI'm sure he's the cream of the Maury crop, but if you're not married to the man and you're not even referring to him as a boyfriend, I wouldn't plan on the guy sticking around. I certainly wouldn't name the kid something HE wants only for him to become a dead beat and then you have a child with a name you don't love.

Also, you mean Ariel. And I don't know WTF Kaludia is. Do you mean Claudia? Stick with that spelling. Whatever Kaludia is, it's awful.

This.  Exactly this.  lol

I'm ditto-ing this too.

HannahO28

well I'm still trying to work out exactly what the post title means....

But OP, your children's father is an a*shole and you should not name another baby after him.   Nor should you name the baby Aryel (WTF is that?)

Name the baby Nicole. Or something else of your choosing that won't make her look like she was named by an illiterate 16-year-old.

LisaG09

brookelynpaisley:

You said "baby's father," not husband, so here's my advice:

Give the kid YOUR last name and YOUR choice of first and middle name. No offense asI'm sure he's the cream of the Maury crop, but if you're not married to the man and you're not even referring to him as a boyfriend, I wouldn't plan on the guy sticking around. I certainly wouldn't name the kid something HE wants only for him to become a dead beat and then you have a child with a name you don't love.

Also, you mean Ariel. And I don't know WTF Kaludia is. Do you mean Claudia? Stick with that spelling. Whatever Kaludia is, it's awful.

I'm going to strongly disagree that she shouldn't give the child the father's last name. Coming from a person who has seen a wonderful, loving, and stable man battle a very incompetent woman for HIS child, just because they aren't together does not automatically mean that he won't be there for the child nor does it dismiss his desire to have his child have his last name, as is custom. You are probably jumping to conclusions since this is her second child with the man.

OP. I like Ariel or Arielle Nicole. Assuming your name isn't Ariel, if your name is Ariel maybe you could give the baby a different Ari name like Arianna. Or a name with a similiar meaning as Ariel or it isn't entirely out there to give the baby it's own unique name that isn't tied to mother or father. It is best to spell names the orginal way to save the child from having to correct the spelling her entire life. Good luck!

brookelynpaisley

LisaG09:

brookelynpaisley:

You said "baby's father," not husband, so here's my advice:

Give the kid YOUR last name and YOUR choice of first and middle name. No offense asI'm sure he's the cream of the Maury crop, but if you're not married to the man and you're not even referring to him as a boyfriend, I wouldn't plan on the guy sticking around. I certainly wouldn't name the kid something HE wants only for him to become a dead beat and then you have a child with a name you don't love.

Also, you mean Ariel. And I don't know WTF Kaludia is. Do you mean Claudia? Stick with that spelling. Whatever Kaludia is, it's awful.

I'm going to strongly disagree that she shouldn't give the child the father's last name. Coming from a person who has seen a wonderful, loving, and stable man battle a very incompetent woman for HIS child, just because they aren't together does not automatically mean that he won't be there for the child nor does it dismiss his desire to have his child have his last name, as is custom. You are probably jumping to conclusions since this is her second child with the man.

OP. I like Ariel or Arielle Nicole. Assuming your name isn't Ariel, if your name is Ariel maybe you could give the baby a different Ari name like Arianna. Or a name with a similiar meaning as Ariel or it isn't entirely out there to give the baby it's own unique name that isn't tied to mother or father. It is best to spell names the orginal way to save the child from having to correct the spelling her entire life. Good luck!

I understand your point, but surely you're not naive enough to believe that your situation is the norm and not the exception. Let's be honest here. Having a second child with the guy doesn't mean he's present as a father. It means she screwed him more than once.

AprilAngie

apc1929:

I don't know what I am more confused about- that you would name a Girl with the fathers name (assuming it isn't unisex)  or that your mother would have any say in what your childs name is??  If you are mixing up Ariel to spell differently I would say please don't-- its sooo much prettier with the i  and since you aren't changing pronounciation why make it different than you?   Kaludia is just terrible..  Claudia is far far better..  Nicole is nice

THis 

LisaG09

brookelynpaisley:

LisaG09:

brookelynpaisley:

You said "baby's father," not husband, so here's my advice:

Give the kid YOUR last name and YOUR choice of first and middle name. No offense asI'm sure he's the cream of the Maury crop, but if you're not married to the man and you're not even referring to him as a boyfriend, I wouldn't plan on the guy sticking around. I certainly wouldn't name the kid something HE wants only for him to become a dead beat and then you have a child with a name you don't love.

Also, you mean Ariel. And I don't know WTF Kaludia is. Do you mean Claudia? Stick with that spelling. Whatever Kaludia is, it's awful.

I'm going to strongly disagree that she shouldn't give the child the father's last name. Coming from a person who has seen a wonderful, loving, and stable man battle a very incompetent woman for HIS child, just because they aren't together does not automatically mean that he won't be there for the child nor does it dismiss his desire to have his child have his last name, as is custom. You are probably jumping to conclusions since this is her second child with the man.

OP. I like Ariel or Arielle Nicole. Assuming your name isn't Ariel, if your name is Ariel maybe you could give the baby a different Ari name like Arianna. Or a name with a similiar meaning as Ariel or it isn't entirely out there to give the baby it's own unique name that isn't tied to mother or father. It is best to spell names the orginal way to save the child from having to correct the spelling her entire life. Good luck!

I understand your point, but surely you're not naive enough to believe that your situation is the norm and not the exception. Let's be honest here. Having a second child with the guy doesn't mean he's present as a father. It means she screwed him more than once.

Point taken. Perhaps I'm quick to jump on things like this because of my situation. It just bothers me that everyone always automatically assumes that fathers that don't choose to stay with their baby's mothers are 'deadbeats' and are trying to run out on their family. It's a hurtful term.

I didn't mean to hijack your post OP, carry on!

mommy1987smurf

Wow okay i've read everyone's thoughts and i truly dont know how to address them all at once but im going to try. 1st he isn't a dead beat we aren't together now but he is a key factor in my kids life! we dont have to be together to raise kids together! 2nd my name is aerial and his name is claudie. we saw online that you can spell claudia with a k making it klaudia same name still pronounced the same way. and aryel is still pronounced ariel. i didnt want to give he my exact spelling because of the hell i went thru well i was in school. and as far as my mo m goes i asked her which name did she like and she started throwing out names for me to take into concretion. oh and i choose to make my son a jr! im just really stuck on the whole dead beat dad comments. but hey i asked for your opinions and i got what i asked for thank you very much 

mommy1987smurf

thank you very much! i am truly taking your comment of "you cant please everyone" to heart