big problem with DD not listening

kmhunt11

DD has a quiet time in her room every afternoon for about an hour.  Recently she's started climbing up and standing in her windowsill.  I sometimes catch her at in (and immediately pull her down and make a big deal about it), but I think she does it quietly a lot and I don't catch it.  I am so scared that the window will break and she's going to fall out!  She's 3 floors from the ground, and I don't trust the construction of this house.  It's a rental, so I can't put bars on or do anything else structural.  We've told her the dangers and that if she were to fall out she wouldn't be able to be a big sister, or go to school, or play outside.  We've told her it is just as dangerous as running out in the street in front of a car.  I had another talk with her about it today before quiet time and she agreed not to do it.  I asked her if she did afterward and she said "just a little."  I don't know what to do.  She knows it's wrong and bad and dangerous and does it anyway.  She can't function without quiet time and I can't be in there with her.  I listened closely today and heard no signs she was doing it.  She's not the kind of kid that will sit on the couch or anywhere else for a quiet time.  She's so wild she needs to be confined to her room by herself to chill out.  Suggestions?

the_jackpot

You need a window guard: https://www.onestepahead.com/catalog/product.jsp?productId=536437&cmSource=CrossSell&relatedProductId=536980

Or rearrange the furniture to block the window. She is 3 you can't expect her to make the wisest choices.

fignewt74

I think you absolutely need some sort of window guard.  In the meantime, I would insist that she stay on her bed for quiet time (this is what we do.)  I would put duct tape over the window sill to deter her, that will also allow you to see if she pulled the tape off to get up on the window.  DS and I went through some major growing pains with staying on his bed for quiet time, but it has gotten a lot better recently.  He knows there will be consequences if he doesn't (he has to stay in his room for an additional 5 minutes for each time he gets out of bed), and I give him whatever toys he wants for his hour.  Mostly he plays with his fisher price laptop, his Tag, his babydoll, and his guitar.

Good luck!