When they threaten to get full custody it just reduces you to nothing. I knew it was coming. But, man it hurt. Left me sitting on the bathroom floor bawling my eyes out. I know he can't get custody. And, I know even joint is a long shot. It still scares the&:$$/&/& out you. A real man wouldn't use a child as leverage. wonder if judges see that. I guess it's proof that we care more about our kids than their NCP.
Re: I Know They All Do This But...
It's about control and intimidating you. Honestly, unless a really unfit mother is involved, I think the average guy likes their freedom, and only makes these threats (full well knowing they won't get the moon and the stars) just to make you feel fear.
How often do BD or XH actually get full custody... these guys know this, they are just doing it to get under your skin. Or they figure if they ask for everything at least they will get half of what they ask for.
I don't think any judge will think it's in your LOs interest to take them away from you.