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Two Under 2
2 Under 1?
I've always heard of stories of people who got pregnant with a newborn. I've been scared to think of what might happen if we unintentionally conceived right now with a three month old. Not only would they have a similar birthday, but we might have 2 under one year. Are there any mommas out there who have experienced this so that I may have some ease in my thoughts in case this scenario happened?
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Re: 2 Under 1?
Did you seriously post or is this crap? Are you saying please assure me your life with 2U1 isn't total hell in case I happen to find myself in your most certainly horrible situation? Really? Are you having a pregnancy scare or just trying to make yourself feel better that you only have one under one? WTF!
Some people actually try to have their kids really close together to get the pregnancy and newborn stuff out of the way. The blonde Olympic beach volleyball player comes to mind. But I would assume that most with Irish twins weren't planning on it. We weren't but it has worked well for us. Is it hard? Yes. But it's hard to have two kids no matter what the age difference. There are some serious advantages - clothes in the same season, the older one doesn't know what it's like to be the only child and doesn't get jealous when the second comes along, they can very easily play together since they share toys, etc. The disadvantages - two in diapers, two in college at the same time, etc. Mine are technically in the same grade so we have lots of school decisions to make when the time comes that most other parents never even think about. You just what you have to do to get through it and try to enjoy it because it goes fast.
Not only did this happen to me (well, their birthdays are 3 weeks apart, so technically not quite 2u1) I actually planned for it.
I had a very good paying career when I worked full time. However, being home when my children were small was extremely important to me. If I spaced my kids a few years apart, that would be a few years we'd be losing my income or I'd be working full time/one of my kids would be in daycare. Not that there's anything wrong with that scenario, it's just not for me.
I couldn't have made a better decision. It was awesome to be pregnant with a newborn. I got lots of naps and my 2nd pregnancy was so much easier on me than my first when I had to work full time. It's much easier to care for an immobile child than an active one, so when I was in first tri with horrible exhaustion I was glad I could rest for 4 naps a day and didn't have to chase someone all day long.
When my baby was born I was still in that mindset of newborn care. My SIL waited nearly 5 years between kids and she felt like a FTM again. Now that they're 2 and 1, life in ways is easier than it would be with just 1 (or having 1/being pregnant again). They can entertain each other so if I need to clean/cook it's not like I have a whining child at my feet begging for attention. It really is fun to watch them grow up together. I can teach them similar things. My youngest is extremely advanced for her age because she's learned so much from watching me teach her brother/wanting to emulate him. We can keep out one set of toys and they're entertained by the same things being so close in age. I really love it and am so glad I didn't do a bigger gap.
Someone put on their cranky pants this morning.
The beauty of a public message board is that you can choose to ignore the "crap" you don't want to deal with.
OP - if you're really that scared of having 2 under 1, maybe try a more reliable birth control method? I just got the Mirena about a month ago and so far I really like it.
DD february 2010 | DS october 2011
*please excuse my typos, bumping from my iphone*
Thank you all for the insight! I don't have a pregnancy scare, just would like some perspective!
You're all superstar moms!
Um yes I had 2 under 1. I got pregnant when ds1 was 3.5 mo. I was ebf and had no PP period. The odds of this are like less than 1% but obviously possible. But this is how I know it was meant to be. Yeah it was very scary at first but I believe if God leads you to it, He can lead you through it. I am very happy with how it worked out.
Mine, too. DS2 was not planned and I completely freaked out when I found out I was pregnant again (we'd had fertility issues, so we thought an accidental pregnancy was near impossible) BUT it's been such a blessing. It's been nowhere near as difficult as I anticipated. Yes, we have some tough days, but that's true with kids no matter how far apart they are.
I think my tough days are coming about 9 months from now, when DS2 learns to walk and they're both taking off in different directions!
I did not find the pregnancy easy like PP did-- as my son was learning to crawl and learning to walk it was tough to chase after him while I was big, had horrible sciatic nerve pain and was supposed to be on bedrest for high blood pressure. And during the 1st trimester, there was no rest for me when I was sick and tired b/c I had an infant with colic and reflux. It was tough.
But now, I wouldn't have it any other way-- I love that I have two boys & I can't wait for them to grow up a year apart!
What's wrong with this? An unintended pregnancy is always a little scary and 2u1 would be even more so. I have no problem with her asking for a little perspective on how her life would be if it happened to her. Lots of people assume it's hell (although she didn't say that). I certainly did, up until delivery day. I felt overwhelmed by one baby, I couldn't fathom how I'd do it with two. But you do. You figure it out, you get in a routine and life goes on. Then, you share your experience with others who ask how it is. There's no crime in her asking.
My two daughters are 8 months apart.... and we couldn't be happier.
What I have noticed is that it was easier when DD1 was under a year old (she's now 14 months). Prior to a year, she was not showing any signs of "jealousy". Now she notices when we are playing with her sister. Granted, our playing has changed from coddling a newborn to ticking and cooing at a 6 month old so it is more inviting to DD1. Regardless, the four months that they were both under a year were easier than it is right now.
The way I see it... regardless of age differences, children will develop and go through different stages. Each comes with a new set of challenges. There will be times that it's harder to have them closer in age and times it will be easier.
I'm BF and on the mini pill right now. I asked about IUD, and my OB wont put them in because he has had patient scares (and I'm not sure if insurance covers it.)
I know that I'm pretty protected now, it's just hard to tell when you haven't had a period in over a year, ya know? Thank you everyone for your insight. It is so encouraging to know that the closeness is age seems to be overwhelmingly positive! I appreciate it guys!