Well I'm in shock..

tstaggs2012

Babies dad asked me to come over yesterday.. I figured it was a set up.. And I still think he has something up his sleeve right now... He apologized. *GASP* He's never one to apologize... And he told me he missed me and that we were taking things slow but not together... I'm still in the single mom boat.. And I have a feeling I'm gonna stay there and just communicate about Jaxon with him.. I don't know if the relationship is what I want.. But I'm in shock and slightly confused.. Because he was totally against being around me one day.. And the next he wanted me to visit? It's almost like a trick.. I wanna believe he's realized what he's messed up.. But I have a feeling this is too good to be true.. =/ We have barely talked since our last big blow up... Last Monday.. So it's been a week without fighting.. Which is good.. But its just weird.. Like I said... I'm confused.. 

DHYGchica3

I don't know what to tell you other than men don't change. At least from my experience they don't... the first time we separated I let him come back home and things just went back to being bad again within a week. I'd keep my distance.

MsJosie

I agree with DHYGchica3. I left my ex when I was 2 months pregnant because of his abuse and drug use, then when I was 4 months pregnant got back with him because he promised to have changed and quit his drugs yada yada yada. A month later he was back to his old self and even worse. I feel so stupid that I even went back at all. So, no guys don't change. You need to protect yourself and your baby first and foremost.

scout426

I agree with others in that the probability of him changing his tune isn't going to be long lived.  But I do believe it is possible to change.  If I didn't honestly believe it then I would be dooming my future to a life of only picking very troubled souls.  I am learning new things about myself so this doesn't happen again.  I have been starting to do a little research on step programs.  i am trying to gather enough information so that I can create a program for stbxh and dd.  Maybe look into one that would fit your relationship issues regarding your child.

 

PrettyInPearls23

He's bluffing. End of story.

ETA: Why are you letting him dictate the state of your relationship anyway?

roxygulrjax

I looked up your past posts and got an idea on your story.  We are practically in the same position.  When I was six months along the father decided he wanted his daughter...just not me.  Last Thursday I got an email saying how he had messed up, he wanted his family together and so on.  I'm not going to lie...the email brought a smile to my face.  But it wasn't long after that working on our relationship was getting in the way of his single life/plans.  Only time will tell and actions do speak louder than words.  I would be very very cautious.