3 kids question

octoberbridesrule

How did you decide to try or not to try for a third child? I'm trying to figure out if I want to get an IUD to not try or use alternate forms of BC so we can try for a third child next year. I wondered what other people's reasons for trying for three were or why you're stopping at two. I'd really like to have three kids but my DH is unsure. TIA.

MrsWhiteonWhiteSt

To be 100% honest, we had only planned on 2 kids. I wanted 4, DH wanted 1. Our reasons for deciding on 2; We have 3 bedrooms on the 1st floor (and 1 in the scary basement, which is DH's "man cave") so each child could have their own room, we were scared of the idea of being outnumbered, we travel a lot and I can tell you everything is set up for 2 adults/2 children, money- we didn't want to worry about providing for our kids and I didn't want to have to put them in childcare.

Once I was pregnant I couldn't decide which I would be more excited for; a little girl to dress up and make our "million dollar family" or a little boy to be Justin's brother and his best play buddy. Well, I got both, I realized all my worries were silly and I feel like the family is perfect

 

jnk062602

We only wanted 2 for a lot of the same reasons - money, being outnumbered, vacas and vehicles easier with 2, our house has 3 bedrooms, even number so no one is left out.

We both only wanted 2 pre-kids, so it's an easy agreement. And now that #2 is here, I am happy to know this is the last time I'm going thru the newborn stage haha. 

BethPSU

We always knew we wanted 3.  For me it was more about the family dynamic later in life than the now.  I know it would be easier to stop at 2 just with logistics of transporting 3 kids, paying for 3 kids, etc.  But, I knew after I had Pierce that I was not done having babies or being pregnant.  We considered adopting (because we always wanted to), but for some reason I knew I hadn't closed the pregnancy chapter of my life and DH says only 3 so I guess we aren't going to adopt!  I would probably have 4 if it was totally up to me.  

It is a personal opinion, but I feel like only 2 kids feels lonely(certainly not now, but later on).  My DH only has 1 sister and they aren't that close and often times we feel guilted into being around to see his parents at the holidays so they aren't all alone since she lives in MD. I have a brother and a sister.  My brother has 3 kids and my sister has 3 kids and soon we will have 3 as well. Needless to say, my parents house is full of activity and is so alive whenever we are all together.  I loved growing up with 2 siblings and having them for our adult life as we get older and our parents age is really important to me.  I want to give the same support system (or at least opportunity for support assuming they remain close) to my children. Big families are so much fun!

Ashnmike528

BethPSU:

We always knew we wanted 3.  For me it was more about the family dynamic later in life than the now.  I know it would be easier to stop at 2 just with logistics of transporting 3 kids, paying for 3 kids, etc.  But, I knew after I had Pierce that I was not done having babies or being pregnant.  We considered adopting (because we always wanted to), but for some reason I knew I hadn't closed the pregnancy chapter of my life and DH says only 3 so I guess we aren't going to adopt!  I would probably have 4 if it was totally up to me.  

Exactly this! Minus being pg, of course!  

kac0807

BethPSU:

I knew after I had Pierce that I was not done having babies or being pregnant.

It is a personal opinion, but I feel like only 2 kids feels lonely(certainly not now, but later on).  My DH only has 1 sister and they aren't that close and often times we feel guilted into being around to see his parents at the holidays so they aren't all alone since she lives in MD.

This is why I want more than 2! It was just my sister and I growing up and we aren't very close. Never have been and now since we both have children we seem to be even farther apart due to parenting style differences and conflicts that always seem to arise when we're all together. Plus I always felt like it was kind of boring growing up with just the 2 of us. I don't want my children to go through this. I have always loved big families. I always love visitng friends that had them and my Mom comes from a family of 6, so when her and her siblings all get together it's just so much fun. SO much energy and so many fun stories they tell about growing up. They had a lot of tough times and were raised pretty much just by my Grandma becaues my Grandpa died when my Mom was 17, but they pulled through and are all close.

I always said I wanted 4 and DH wanted just 2 so we had settled at 3. Right now we're at the "let's see how things go with 2" phase, but I really don't feel done or want to be done yet.  We only have a 4 bedroom house and the nursery is really small and only good for a nursery and right now it's nice having a guest room, because my Mom stays with us a lot, so I don't know what we'd do about that. We may have to renovate, or move and/or the kids would have to share a rooms. So I guess we'll see what the future holds for us.