Relationship / re-marriage question...

tsmomma42

If you're involved in a serious relationship what does your DC call your significant other? My son is 2. He has a good father who is active in his life. I'm engaged. I've known my current partner for about 6 years but we haven't dated that entire time. My son calls his father daddy (obviously, lol). He has started to call my fiance dada-name. At first I tried ignoring it and using my fiances name more often but he kept doing it so I made a point of saying "Nope. That's no daddy. That's XXX." every time he did it. He's still doing it though. Any tips to get him not to? I'm sure his father wouldn't appreciate him calling my fiance daddy. I've thought of trying to get him to use a nickname but I'm not sure what. Also, should I give his dad a heads up that he has been doing this and that I'm trying to correct it or just let it be?

CFjo2010

My husband and I both have children of our own, and have gone through the "name" issue. His daughter is now 6, but we started dating when she was 2. When we got engaged she wanted to start calling me "Mom", but obviously her mom didn't like this. So she calls me Mama Jo. My children are a lot older (12 and 8) and call my husband by his first name, and they call their SD Tennessee Mom. Basically we told the kids to call us whatever they're comfortable with. 

 Your son is really young and realistically your SO is in fact going to be a father to him. I think Daddy-name is acceptable and it seems to be what your son is happy with. His father may not be happy about it, but there comes a time when the parents need to set egos aside and let the kids be happy. 

PrincessFiona9

That's definitely true.

LO calls my boyfriend VV. She couldn't say Steven when we first got together, and now she just refuses to call him anything else.

Marksmommy321

I totally understand what you are saying. My boyfriend and  I have been together since my son was 9 months old and when he started to talk he started calling him "da-da" . I eventually got him to call him jon-jon. But it was really hard because he thought he was his dad since his real dad comes and goes when he feels like being a dad.

nanabanana06

My DD calls my FI Daddy. However, her real father is a POS and isn't in her life. So my FI is the one really being her dad and I'm ok with that.

DarthNBJenni

I've always taught the girls that my H is Eddie. Sometimes, especially when his daughter is over or it's been a month since they've seen their bio dad, they'll call him Daddy or Eddie Daddy. His daughter calls me Jennifer, but she sometimes refers to me as Mommy when talking to the girls (as in, their mommy). 

FyreFlyeRush

If you find it upsetting, continue to correct it. But dada-(insertname) isn't bad.  Find some nick name that's easy for him to say.  My daughter called her father Steve on the rare occasion she saw him until she was 12, and now she calls him Dad.

PrettyInPearls23

My DS calls my FI by his first name and will continue to do so unless he, under his own power, chooses to call him anything else.

 

I don't see any problem in letting your DS call your FI dada-name. He's going to be his step-father and father-figure in his life. If your X pitches a fit, that's when you can tell him that you tried correcting DS and it's not like you were encouraging it. If your X is anythign like mine, he probably won't believe you and it'll hurt his feelings that his child is calling another man "dada". Like a pp said, there's a time that parents need to push aside their egos and let their children do what they want.