Let's Talk About Age, Baby!

jjunne

In my perfect world I wanted 4 children, close in age to be born between my 30th and 35th birthday.

Now I am 32 with no children. I would seriously be happy with one. My cutoff would depend more on my overall health, not my age. 

mork

buckeyebaby814:

Ok Mork.  So every time I refresh the TTCAL page and I see your thread title, I get 'Let's Talk About Sex' in my head

You know I did it just for that reason!   

hollowway

Well, I'm 21 and DH is 30. We've had one loss. I want to be done having kids by the time I'm 30 and we want up to 3... With him being 30, we're starting now hoping to avoid any infertility on his part... Now if only my body will stop deciding to reject babies.

Malka7997

I think no matter what I say my thought process on this one always changes. When I was a younger my plan was marry by 23 start having 3 kids by 25 done by 30. Hahaha that was a joke I guess I never realized how hard it would be to find the "right" man to do this with. Then add my IF issues at 25 by the time I was 29 I started getting in the mindset of thinking of all the things DH and I could do without kids. Then we found out we were pregnant and had DS at 30. After that we wished for at least one more but didn't want to get our hopes up in case he was just a spurt of really super good luck. I always said I wanted to be done by 35 but I'm turning 33 in just over a week and as it stands now I'm not sure I could stop trying.

DCWJes

Well, I am 27 and DH is 37. I guess for us it's different because we have DD. I never thought I would find someone who would want to be a step parent to my DD, but I found him. I never wanted a huge age gap between kids, but I can tell that isn't going to happen. DH still thinks of me as young, when I can feel my biological clock ticking. Ha! oh well. We haven't really thought of a cut off per se, I would say probably when I hit 35ish. We will see.

Sorry I don't have a definite answer for you. 

karencz

I'm 29 now. I was 28 when I had DD, but when we started trying I would have been 27 if we had been successful right away. That's about my "low" end cut-off. Ideally we would like 2 or 3 kids hopefully by the time I'm 34 or so.

VikingQueen

I'm 22.. I always wanted to be done by the time I was 25 for some reason.. no idea why.. just seemed like a good age to me. That was also when I was 19 and getting married. Now that I am going through a divorce I would like to be married and hopefully have atleast one baby on the way by the time I'm 30. I would say at this point I hope to be done by the time I am 35 but that can change depending on the circumstances.

illinigal

I wanted 2 kids and I wanted to be done be 35.  I never imagined it would take this long.   Imagine my excitement, when IVF #3 brought us twins and I was due on my 35th birthday.  Unfortunately, that was too good to be true and we lost our twin boys.  I no longer have an age cutoff, but I'm not sure how long the RE will let me cycle with my own eggs.  I don't have any signs of slowing down yet, so that is good.  I would still love 2 kids, but if it takes too long and is too difficult on us to get one healhty baby, we may have to stop at one. However, as it stands now, I have no intention of stopping until we get at least one.

edinger3

I'm 34 (35 in September).  My DH & I wanted 3 kids.  My goal was to have one pregnancy before 35.  Now, I'd be happy with one baby...no matter how long it will take. 

rex94

I'm 24. I have an age cut off of 30. Honestly, I want to be young when my kid is out of the house and when they're growing up. 

We only want one kid. This decision was solidified by the 2 losses so far. Once I get a kid, I'm done with all of this.  

peloquinJ

I'm almost 28. I would like to be done by the time I am 36, but I don't have a hardfast age where I would quit for sure.

My parents were 38 when they had me, but were in their mid-late 20's with my two brothers. We grew up with different lives, which is not really to say that one was better than the other, but I was always jealous of all the things my parent's did with them that they didn't have the energy for with me. Of course my brother's were always quick to point out that our parent's were better off when they had me so I got more opportunties to do things that cost more money like lessons and camps.

I also worry about the increased risks of birth defects since I work with adults with developmental disabilities. I love the individuals I work with and they generally are so upbeat and make me smile, but I see how much of a struggle their parents go through and I can't imagine how hard that is.

RequiresExalted

I just turned 29 in December.  MH is 35.  Maybe a little over 2 years ago, I was ready to start TTC, but he wasn't.  He insisted we buy a house first, and I know better than to push a big issue like that if somebody's not ready.  But, I did ask him if he thought it was reasonable to think we'd have at least one kid before I turned 30, and he said yes.

A year of TTC, and two losses later, I'd be thrilled just to be KTFU (and stay that way) by 30.  I don't have some magical cutoff date for when we'd stop, but I'd prefer not to be much more than 35.  We only want 2, and MH says he'd like a few years in between.  (Haha, planning! :P)

I used to joke that when we got together, he wanted 0-2, and I wanted 2-4, so we compromised on 2, and of course I secretly hoped I'd be able to talk him into a third.  Now?  I want a baby I can take home.  I'd love it if we make it to two.  But with the hell this last year has been just trying to make #1, I'm certainly not going to push for more than 2, if we're even that lucky.  I'd love to be done by 35.  If not, 40.

buckeyebaby814

mork:

buckeyebaby814:

Ok Mork.  So every time I refresh the TTCAL page and I see your thread title, I get 'Let's Talk About Sex' in my head

You know I did it just for that reason!   

LOL.  Aaaaaaaaaaaaand I you  

KaleighsYaYa

My husband and I will both be turning 30 this year. 

We'd like to have four kids. (I'm one of three and my husband is one of nine children.)

We haven't talked about when we will stop trying. 

 

thatlauragirl

I'm 33 and dh is 36. My personal cut-off would be 40 but my dr would like it to be sooner rather than later. I had some serious previous complications including preeclampsia and cardiac issues and as a result I'm at higher risk of developing them again. Apparently advanced maternal age also increases risks so between my personal history and the normal ama risks, things are a little trickier for me.

That said, I don't know what I'll actually do if 40 comes and goes and we're still trying. Not sure I could give up solely based on a number. I just pray we all have our lo's safely in our arms long before we get to our individual age limits.

linz85

Ha.

I remember being in highschool, and wishing that I could be like my Mom, pregnant at 22. I always wanted 2 kids by the time I was 27.  I'll be 27 in August, and hopefully, maybe pregnant again by then? Who knows. I know we're young but its definitely hard especially when all my friends are getting pregnant.

 

I will not put a cut off on anything unless a Dr or my body makes me probably.

I just want one healthy baby at this point.