New to Single Parenting but I desperately need to vent

MsKay88

So, my ex-husband and I have joint custody of our two beautiful sons. One is 6 and the other is 21 months. On Monday night, I got my boys back. Well, DS #2 was screaming when EX-H gave him back to me. Wouldn't let me hold him, which is really unusual. I had to talk to EX-H about something, so I sent the boys in with my parents. My dad noticed DS #2 waddling and wincing everytime he took a step.

After my EX-H left, I changed DS #2's diaper....OH MY WORD!!! His bottom was red and blistered and bleeding. Even his itty bits were blistered and bleeding! I called EX-H and he said he 'forgot' to tell me and he'd been using neosporin on it...

What idiot...what LAZY idiot lets their son sit in filth that long?! I know my son and I know he does not get diaper rashes easily. And, he wasn't even PINK when I sent him last Friday...So, he had to have been sitting in a dirty diaper for a while. AND THEN, when I sent the boys home with him tonight, he tried to blame ME for the diaper rash!!!

I AM SEEING RED RIGHT NOW! Someone please tell me that it will soon be legal to kill idiot parents soon. 

Sorry...rant over...

scout426

Vent away!  Diaper rashes suvk.  But do remember they can come out of nowhere and its not always a case of just not changing often enough.  It could be he ate something different.  It could be teething.  It could be a number of things.  If it becomes a regular thing then blow all the bells and whistles about it.  

MsKay88

This isn't the first time. When we were still married, I would leave for work at noon. I changed his diaper and gave him lunch before I left. When I got home at 10:30, Ex-H was passed out on the couch and DS 1 would still be trying to make food for him and DS 2. DS 2 would be in his pack n play in the SAME diaper I left him in (I began to mark them), covered in dirt and crying. He had diaper rashes.When I kicked Ex-H out (for trying to kill me), the diaper rashes stopped. They started back up again after Ex-H got partial custody. And, he doesn't get them when I have custody of him. So, something isn't right.

scout426

MsKay88:

This isn't the first time. When we were still married, I would leave for work at noon. I changed his diaper and gave him lunch before I left. When I got home at 10:30, Ex-H was passed out on the couch and DS 1 would still be trying to make food for him and DS 2. DS 2 would be in his pack n play in the SAME diaper I left him in (I began to mark them), covered in dirt and crying. He had diaper rashes.When I kicked Ex-H out (for trying to kill me), the diaper rashes stopped. They started back up again after Ex-H got partial custody. And, he doesn't get them when I have custody of him. So, something isn't right.

In that case I hope your x gets a case of some god awful std that leaves his manly parts burning and raw.  Who inflicts that kind of pain on a baby! 

lilhockeygurlMOM

OMG that's horrible. If this becomes a common occurence you could probably report him as an unfit parent. No parent should allow their child to suffer like that. Poor little guy.

CFjo2010

This is going to sound pervy, but take photos. Take pictures of his tushie before he goes to Dad's and when he comes back. If the rash is here when your son comes back, take him to the pediatrician and get it documented. We had a similar issue with my bonus daughter (I'm a blended family) when she came to us from her mother's: she would have awful diaper rash and then her mother would blame US for it. We did the photos and Dr visits to document the issue. The Dr recommend a cream (I apologize, I cannot for the life of me remember the name) and it cleared up even the most terrible diaper rash in just a couple days.

With enough documentation and Dr visits and photos you can probably lower his visitation, or at least scare him. It's not fun, but in the end it will be better for your little guy. Good luck!