Team Green pressures

dutton3741

My husband and I are Team Green and have resisted temptations to find out the sex of the baby in our ultrasound a couple of weeks ago as well as a Level 2 ultrasound yesterday.  We told family and friends months ago that we would not be finding out the sex and most seemed to be OK with it.  But now that we are sticking to our guns and still don't know, the annoyance from others is starting to show.  I've heard comments like, "Can't you have the tech write down the sex and give it to me?  I won't tell!" and "It sure would make it easier for me to buy you a gift if I knew the sex of the baby" and "I really think you're going to regret this choice."

I'm curious what other things Team Green people have heard and if there are any good snappy comebacks you can share when people say such insensitive things.  

Tash13

My SIL asked me to have the tech write it down and send it to her too! I told her that there was nothing about this baby being told to family before we know. I've also gotten a ton of pressure from other family members and colleagues. Who knew that the sex of my child was such a big deal to others?! It's so annoying that they feel so entitled to this information. Last time around we didn't tell anybody names until DS was born which caused an uproar. This time not telling names or finding out the sex so people are going extra nuts. 

Sawyerplus1

Ugh, how annoying! DH and I were team green with DS and are this time again, and have never received pressure like that from anyone. We've had people say stuff like "I couldn't do it", or "how will you pick names?!" (such a dumb question...), but never anything negative or rude.  I'd say just stop engaging with them about it; don't bring it up and if they bring it up, change the subject or walk away. It's stupid for other people to have such strong opinions on whether you find out or not, but if you ignore it hopefully they'll accept that thats the way it is and stop bringing it up. Good luck. 

dani2480

WTF. I'm all for finding out the sex at the a/s (and don't think I could wait until the birth, unless I had no other choice). But seriously, the people making those comments are way out of line. 

The first two are totally making things all about them. Really classy.

And the last one is just ignorant as all hell. Maybe they wouldn't have made that choice, but LOTS of people go "team green" for ALL of their children. If they "regretted" it, I doubt they'd repeat it. Unless of course the person means it as some sort of psycho threat.

 

SallySunrise

We were team green with DS, and to be honest, the way it annoyed others was kind of fun/funny to me!  Who CARES what they think?  If it is such a horrible experience for them to buy a gender neutral gift, then they just shouldn't buy one!  Seriously, I think it's so dumb that other people care so much.  It's YOUR baby, YOUR choice!

No one ever told us they thought we'd regret the decision; that comment was just plain rude!  I'm sorry someone said that to you.  We did get lots of the "well what am I supposed to buy for you then??" and I would just give them an I-don't-really-give-a-crap smile and say something like "Well, Oklahoma State gear is gender neutral!"  LOL

PhillyGal34

We are team green and have had a lot of period ask us to get the u/s to write it down for them and they won't tell. Umm yeah. Likely to happen.  I kindly remind people I didn't get a say in how they handled their pregnancy and they don't get one in mine.  

 

Ive also said the same thing when they get mad about us not telling names before the baby is born.

 

People need to get over themselves. This really doesn't change anything and until  no one could  find this info.  I find older people are more annoyed yet they didn't know!! 

PhillyGal34

Sorry   A lot of people. And until recently... It won't let me edit. I'm on my phone. 

AmberMH08

just tell it doesnt matter the sex its gonna be a lil green alien complete with antenne haha

ADub09

that is annoying, we haven't had any negative comments all have been positive such as "so glad you are doing it that way"  etc.

TheFutureMrsH2012

Wow... some people can be so unbelievable.I mean, really? Have the tech write it down so you can pass it on? I'd be at a loss for words. We're team green, and we haven't had anyone say anything like that to us. Then again, they're probably thinking it.

I'd just tell them that if they're so concerned about the sex of a baby, they should just haul off and have one of their own. Or, if they have that much of a problem with it and cannot respect our choice on the matter, they don't have to be involved in anything at all. 

August1807Bride

I think it would be funny to write "none of your business" on a slip of paper, seal it up in an envelope and give it to the people who ask that the ultrasound tech write it down for them

AC830

We were team green the first time around and most people were pretty supportive.  There were quite a few that didn't believe that we didn't know and thought we were just keeping a secret from them and it was always annoying that they would try to break us or over analyze everything we would say.

When people would ask us what we were having or a variation of that question my standard answer was "we aren't sure but we are hoping for a baby elephant."

The one that would rub me the wrong way was as soon as they found out that we didn't know they would ask what we were hoping for and my response would either be a short "a healthy baby" or another exotic animal of some sort. 

Bottom line, your uterus, your business, and everyone else needs to deal with it.

And why on earth would anyone regret not finding out?  

Asquared

August1807Bride:

I think it would be funny to write "none of your business" on a slip of paper, seal it up in an envelope and give it to the people who ask that the ultrasound tech write it down for them

Now that's a great idea!!  Haven't had anything like "you'll regret it"  that's just nuts!!! But I know it drives my mom crazy just because she wants to shop.  That's the only slightly negative feedback I've gotten.  I try to make it clear anyone who wants to buy a gift should just wait until after!

ericamanuela

Everyone is so different. I actually got a really hard time from people for wanting to find out the sex of our baby. People would say can't you just wait or there aren't many surprises in life, why ruin it. People were actually making me feel like I was being "technical" and unromantic about my own baby because I wanted to know the sex. I think sometimes no matter what you do people have their opposite opinions.

Molissa10

I think it's crazy that people think they have a right to know the gender of your baby!  If it gets too annoying just start telling people boy and tell others girl...eventually they will catch on and realize you made it up to shut them up.