About the amount of help needed post c/s

llizzyb

My OB doesn't like to schedule until a little closer to the due date, but for simplicity's sake, let's say my c/s will be on a Wednesday.

H would take off work Wed, Thurs, Fri, weekend, Mon, Tues, and return to work the following Wednesday. My mom (lives out of state) would come up for Wed-Fri while he's back at work. H would be home on the weekend. I would then be on my own for the following work week, which would be about 12 days post c/s. 

Am I being unreasonable in thinking I'll be fine at 12 days post-op at home alone with a newborn? I know there is the chance I still won't be driving, but my MIL lives about 30 minutes away and would be available to take us to appointments, drop off meals, run errands, etc.

biblionerd

I think physically I would have been able to manage, but I had AWFUL baby blues and would not have been ok because of that. I was still crying and overwhelmed so much. 

kcisthebombdotcom

After c-section #1, I was out driving, running errands, and doing everything at 7 days pp. I felt amazing. Of course it will depend on *your* body and *your* surgery if it goes that easily for you.

mlf625

I think you'll be 100% fine considering you don't have children at home already.  With just a newborn you can rest when he/she rests.  I think 12 days of help will be plenty.  I was driving within a week of each of my c/s.  My mom left when DS was about a week and a half old and we did great!  A little weepy, but great.  

RoxBride

I would have been fine, no issues being alone at that point.

Worst case scenario, ask MIL to come over, cook dinner, and watch wee one in the afternoon while you nap.

JG362009

I think you'd be fine physically. 

pepomntpat

Yup. Just make sure everything you will need for the day is downstairs (or on whatever level you plan to spend your day) and you will be fine!

Cotton

Definitely! I would say you'd be fine alone with your baby by then for sure.

Elizabeth

hopkins5

I was still really, really sore at that point, but could have managed.

jjhp2018

I think you'll be fine. My DH had to leave to go back to work on the river at 13 days pp and I was completely alone with no help from family/friends for the next 2 weeks and I did great!!

teacherlindz

It all depends on the woman. My best advise, get up and walking the second they allow you to!I did and have had the easiest experience. I was driving in 10 days and only needed help carryingthe baby upstairs for the first couple of days. Mg friend, on the other hand, said she wasdependent upon her dh for 3 weettks in all ways imaginable. Thankfully that was not my experience at all.

Daisy22

With all of mine I was on my own after 12 days and it was fine. The 2nd time around I had a 15 month old running around as well as a newborn and it was completely fine. As long as you don't have any complications which I didn't you should be fine.

With #3 I might have a little bit more help but I'll still be on my own by 2 1/2 weeks of course my older two now go to school 3 dyas a week so that will help me.

ChiTown Bridget

I think you would be okay at almost 2 weeks out, but everyone is different.

stuzyq14

At two weeks I could finally handle the stairs - but then again, I was trying to deal with two and couldn't get any rest because of their eating schedules.  I also had severe leg/feet swelling that didn't abate until after 3 weeks pp.  I think as long as you have someone to help with meals and possible heavy lifting you will be ok.

manda26

I wouldn't go around lifting heavy objects or anything, but you should be ok.

honkytonk_kid

I think you will be fine, especially if your MIL is close enough to help if you do need anything.

We came home on a Thursday, H worked from home on Friday, and went back to work Monday. I was fine at home alone with LO. People brought us food, so I pretty much parked my booty on the couch, BFing, eating, and watching Netflix. It was actually quiet lovely, lol.

swimiz500

biblionerd:

I think physically I would have been able to manage, but I had AWFUL baby blues and would not have been ok because of that. I was still crying and overwhelmed so much. 

This. Unfortunately, DH had to go back to work 10 days after my c/s, so I didn't have a choice.  My mom came like, the first day he was at work for an hour. Yeah, we were on our own, but we did fine.

I don't think you will have any physical problems. I felt really good by then. And at that point, DD just slept and ate. She and I never left the air conditioned bedroom except to walk across the hall to the air conditioned office to get a bottle from the mini-fridge (it was July), unless of course we wanted to. 

Xtine22

I was by myself all day like 10am-11pm a week after having a c/s because DH had to work. I was fine physically but like pp said I had a little bit of the baby blues. That is what I remember most about that day.

mieuxmieux

DH wasn't able to take off work when we had Kate. I managed just fine being home by myself with a newborn. We went home when she was 5 days old.

Redsoxchick

I'm 13 days PP now and spent today alone with LO and did okay. I get a little sore from moving around a lot, but I'm also only taking motrin(pain meds make me very ill) I was told however that I can't drive for 3 weeks and I can't pick up his car seat for 6 weeks...so technically I can't go anywhere with him for 6 weeks. If you have someone to help with things outside the house, like your MIL then I think you will be fine.