Pros and Cons to 3 Kids

FormerlyKrista555

We hope to have 4.

We are very fortunate that I am able to be a SAHM and I enjoy it. It's all I've ever wanted to be.

Financially, we live debt-free and live well within our means so that we can have a good savings.  Again, I recognize that we are fortunate and that not everyone can do that, or would even want to do that.  We sacrifice a lot of things that other people may not want to. Doesn't make them wrong or us right, it's just what we've chosen to do.

 We live in a low cost of living area, and DH is going to school for engineering which pays pretty decent.

There are no guarantees, of course. Anything could happen. But for us, 4 just sounds right and has since the beginning.

FWIW, I came from a family of 5 children, but with all of us pretty spread out in age.  There are 16 years between me and my oldest brother, for example.  The 5 of us still managed to work out having an awesome relationship.  I love my siblings very much and feel very bonded to them.

WhitePicketFence

designer_wifey:

I'm about to have #2 and this will be our second baby boy.  I feel like we will have a third, b/c I always envisioned having a daughter and would like to try once more to see if we have a girl.  If we have a boy though, I would be happy as well.  I really don't think we will go for 4, unless I feel that our family is not complete.

This is exactly how I feel...but in reverse since we have 2 girls and think we would like to try one last time for a boy. We're (or I should say I since DH is fine with whatever I decide) are somewhat on the fence about #3 at the moment. I'm right in the thick of 2u2 right now with a teething baby who is up all night and a toddler going through the terrible two's. I'm a SAHM and the girls have been exhausting lately. Also, we only have a 2 bedroom home so we'd have to move if baby #3 came along. I don't feel done yet though so who knows. I'm waiting until DD2's birthday to really start thinking about it.

dale5689

I have two, 23 months and 11 weeks.  My whole life I've wanted three children however met my husband later in life (38) and had my babies later in life (40, 41).  I have two stepsons as well that are here every other day.  I do not feel done and would do anything to change circumstances slightly so we could have a 3rd.  It is hard for me to think about being done.  I have the two best babies in the world and am blessed and so very thankful for them but because I love kids so much I would trade anything so we could have a 3rd together but it just won't happen for my hubby.  We're already looking at 4 college tuitions and at my age I'd fear any complications and why take a chance when I had two wonderfully healthy and perfect pregnancies?  So I have to be done but don't want to be  

CaitlinJ22

I am due with #3 in June and have never wanted only 2 kids. I am one of 3 girls, and more than anything I hated the spacing we had, 3 and 4 years apart. I didnt feel close to my sisters until I was older. Which is why I love having my kids close and age and so far they are very close. 

I would love 4 or 5...but we shall see. m/s kicks my butt and I felt like I wasnt a great mom for 3 months when pg this time. But thats short lived and I know its worth it!

I love kids and so does DH. They are a blessing. We are good financially, and I can SAH. I love where we live and raising our babies here. DH is an only child and would love as many kids as I want. 

For me it was a feeling, I felt I wasnt done early on.  

We take it one baby at a time...if you asked me a few months ago I wouldve said 99% sure we were done at 3....but now I am thinking 4 is possible  

kjennnn

We will be done at 2, for several reasons. I work FT and that most likely won't change. I want to be able to dedicate as much time as possible to the two we have as well as considering activities, etc that they will want to be involved with later in life (sports, dance, etc)...this way we can split up if need be. Also, we want to be able to give our kids as much as possible (help with college, weddings, etc) and feel that we can do that comfortably with two. I will also be 35 at time of delivery with DD, DH will be 39 and neither of us want to have kids past 40, so that is another factor. In addition, we love to travel, and travelling with a family of 5 (or more) becomes more complicated (multiple hotel rooms, cruise cabins,etc)- I come from a family of 5, so know this first hand! My sister also has 3 kids and the youngest seems to always get "shafted" as far as activities...i.e. nephew has baseball and niece has soccer on Sat mornings, so she can't really do any activites that meet Saturday morning without a major schedule issue. Also, there is almost always two vs. one - two of them always team up and exclude the third. My siblings and I used to do this too. Just some of our reasons for being 2 and done!