My turn... DH vent

2BMrsMcW

Maybe yesterday was a bad day for DH's everywhere. Including mine...

A few weeks ago, I was invited to an event at a local bar to celebrate local craft beers. DH is a big fan/supporter of craft beers, so I let him know of the event. He said we would play it by ear. So yesterday morning, I reminded him that the event was for last night. He told me that he was very tired and dragging all day so he didn't think he wanted to go.

I told him that going would interrupt our usual night routine and I needed to know as soon as possible what his final decision was because I would need to plan for feeding and naps for me and DS. Plus, DS was having a difficult/fussy day, and the dog was being super needy. DH said he would rather come home, rest, and spend time with his boys.

DH brings home dinner because he was too tired to make it. We ate quickly and I proceeded to feed DS while DH changed. He sends me a text message from across the house saying that a friend messaged him asking if we were going, and letting me know that he (all of a sudden) wasn't feeling so tired anymore.

I told him that I was interested in going because we had not prepared, but if he REALLY wanted to go, he should. I of course thought that he would realize that we had a rough day and that he would WANT to spend time with his family, and therefore not go. Instead he told me that he was waiting on confirmation that his friend was there and then he would go. This turned into an argument and even though he didn't go, I still ended up taking care of DS all night by myself - which was no picnic. As of 7:30 this morning, he has slept a total of 2 hours since 8:00 last night.

Then, when he got up for work this morning, he had the nerve to ask me why I didn't wake him up to help me try to get DS to sleep. UGH!

Thinkerbelle80

I'm sorry, I don't really have sympathy for you.  If you didn't want him to go, you should've been clear and said so.  How is he supposed to read your mind and know you mean the opposite of what you say?  This is just stupid.  Then, you got into an argument with him because he didn't know you didn't mean what you said?  Then, he was perfectly willing to help you through the night but you didn't wake him up.  So, that somehow gives you the right to complain about how he doesn't help you?  

2BMrsMcW

Yes, I realize I said he could go, and I don't expect him to read my mind. I expect that when he tells me that he wants to to come home and spend time with his family, that he comes home and wants to spend time with his family.

I was also just making the point that he complained all day bout how tired he was. I felt like we were arguing, in part because he was so tired, so I let him sleep. Then he gets up and complains about me letting him sleep. 

Just feeling like we cannot get on the same page lately.

JWSchwarz

I love how you're the one up all night but he's the one that got the nap! Mean mean mean.