Slight rant/Upset..

tstaggs2012

So I'm 22 weeks pregnant... And babies father and I have been going through a lot of things.. We're not together... He keeps saying he wants his son.. But wants nothing to do with me.. He has only been to two appointments that were general checkup.. Doesn't seem to care about the ultrasounds I bring to show him.. Doesn't seem interested in going to the drs appointments 2 1/2 hours away to keep an eye on baby for heart problems... But he wants his son... His father even had the nerve to call me last night after we had a big blow out to tell me not to come around and that I'm not wanted.. And that babies father would be responsible and pay his child support.. Which in turn I said I didn't want a dime of, nor if he were going to continue down the path he's been on do I want him to see Jaxon... I'm heartbroken... It hurts to not be wanted.. And I'm even more heartbroken that there might not be any chance for Jaxon to be raised by both of us..  I know I'm strong.. And I have every ability to do it on my own without depending on babies father... But its the idea... And now I have another long 2 1/2 hour drive to the doctor.. and 2 1/2 hours back... And still not a word since last night from babies father... It seems like the rest of this pregnancy is gonna be long and an emotional struggle..

CBKMRB

If he doesn't want to be involved then he doesn't need to be involved.  Maybe just send him an e-mail now then and with updates on your appointments and stuff and that's it.  Don't even engage with his dad, he shouldn't be getting involved with you and ex's relationship.  Don't say no to child support, promptly file after the baby is born.  Focus right now on yourself and your baby, everything else will work out eventually.

Also, why is your OB 2 1/2 hours away?

tstaggs2012

He sent me a facebook message today to tell me he wanted to give me a check for baby things.. Which I accepted because it is his son.. But I've only thanked him for the money and told him how the baby was (had an appointment today). We were very civil. Just seemed tense after a big blow out.. I had to make trips 2 1/2 hours away for level two ultrasounds and to visit a pediatric cardiologist for a fetal echo to check my little guys heart, because that was the closest area that had the equipment available. I live in a teeny town so it was my only choice lol. I know I just have to take things one day at a time. I know I'm not the first to go through or nor will I be the last but it's great to find an online community that I can get advice and support from.

intdesigner925

Your story sounds similar to mines. My ex ended our relationship after 9 years when I was 8 months preggo I started getting depressed,half eating and not sleeping.  He started missing drs appointment too and I got to the point where I just didnt want him there because it wasnt like he cared anyhow. I was even hospitalized and he didnt care to come saying he had "stuff to do" how nice *rolls eyes* He gave me this spill about how he was gonna be there for our daughter and she'd come first( before the new girlfriend) etc etc. Needless to say he has been lax in the fatherhood department and never ask me if she needs anything. He has maybe gotten her diapers on 4 or 5 different occasions which isnt much so I decided im not gonna beg or ask him for anything I'll let the courts do the talking so my daughter gets what she deserves. I tried to let him do things on his own but no he isnt capable so I did what I had to do.  File for CS as soon as your baby gets here even if you feel you dont need it, its what your baby deserves.

I will say its gonna be an emotional rollercoaster for awhile part of that is hormones and the other part if because your probably hurt, I know I was. Heck im still trying heal but day by day it gets easier and I never wanted my daughter to grow up this way thats not how I saw things. Everyday will get easier though. Stay focused on your health and the baby.