Transition from 1 to 2...

baseballcr8zd

Hi ladies!!!! I'm very excited/nervous to be joining you. We just found out were are expecting and my littely guy is almost 8 months old. Was the transition from one LO to two easier then the transition from 0 to 1??

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kcisthebombdotcom

1-2 was a lot easier. My 2nd LO is a dream baby and my oldest didnt get jealous at all.

The answers vary based on the temperament of the 2nd LO. If my 2nd LO had colic, I would have probably felt a lot different.

Qmommy

I agree with others... 1-2 was easier than 0-1.  I still laugh at myself for thinking life with 1 was hard.  The newborn is SO much easier than the toddler!  

Both have it's challenges but 1-2 is much easier.  It's just an extra person to love and care for.  Now ask this again when I have two toddlers running around.  

baseballcr8zd

Thanks ladies!!!!! I just hope LO #2 is as good a baby as DS.

bim38106

McRib:

waaaay easier. all of it. you know it won't last forever so the sleepless nights are a breeze, almost fun the second time around. good luck!

ditto this, and basically what everyone else  said It helped that DD2 was a super laid back baby and a good sleeper (but I also wonder if part of that was me knowing what I was doing...) DD1 on the other hand was colicky and an awful sleeper and the transition from 0-1 was extremely difficult for me.

I actually enjoyed the NB stage w/ DD2, whereas I hated it the first time around. And by the time DD2 was 3 weeks old, we were back in the full swing of things, at all our regular activities and playgroups, just with DD2 along for the ride usually sleeping in her carrier

jellybeanjean

Hey!  I recognize you from June 2011. 

I think I agree with every single comment -- from the second baby being harder (personality/crying-wise), to laughing that I ever thought a newborn was hard after experiencing toddlerhood with my first, to almost looking forward to those late-night nursing sessions with DS2 because it was our only alone time to bond. 

0-1 was tough for me -- such a mental game.  Going from 1-2 was a ridiculously easy breeze.  So much so that I was entertaining getting pregnant several months postpartum.  Now I'm glad that we didn't follow through on that whim as #2 is getting mobile, and I'm guessing this will be a whole new ballgame.

bim38106

jellybeanjean:

Hey!  I recognize you from June 2011. 

I think I agree with every single comment -- from the second baby being harder (personality/crying-wise), to laughing that I ever thought a newborn was hard after experiencing toddlerhood with my first, to almost looking forward to those late-night nursing sessions with DS2 because it was our only alone time to bond. 

0-1 was tough for me -- such a mental game.  Going from 1-2 was a ridiculously easy breeze.  So much so that I was entertaining getting pregnant several months postpartum.  Now I'm glad that we didn't follow through on that whim as #2 is getting mobile, and I'm guessing this will be a whole new ballgame.

hehe. Oh yes.... the hardest part of 2u2 for me has been the past 6ish months. DD1 is just ... well, she has a very strong personality So dealing with her tantrums and then DD2 turning 2 and starting to throw tantrums. Well, 2 kids throwing tantrums has been the toughest part of 2u2. But DD1 is about to turn 4 and is getting easier every day. So I'm hoping things will just keep getting easier. Until they're preteens/teens at least

kagl08

I must be the odd man out because it thought going from 1-2 was WAY harder than 0-1. My 1st wasn't the easiest baby either. She just fit right into our lives and it was almost like she was always there. She was so meant to be in our family at the exact time she came. We never really had too much of an adjustment period after she came.

Going from 1-2 is so hard but it is just now getting easier. The actual "having 2 kids" thing is a breeze! My 2nd is a dream too... He's just so good! The logistics are harder though. I can no longer just pick up and go. My whole lifestyle has changed, where as it didn't after I had #1. Going grocery shopping is a production and I have to mentally prepare. Family trips out are now a circus act! I have limited chances to bond with #2 because of the demands of a toddler.

Yes, I do agree that I have no idea how I could have every thought 1 baby was hard. I also agree that those latenight feedings with #2 were just the sweetest thing and I didn't dread them at all. Having 2 is so much fun! I don't regret it for a minute. But I definitely thought going from 1-2 was so hard. Although my DS fit right into our family and even though the logistics of 2 is hard to grasp, actually having him has been a dream come true. It's like he's always been here and we've always been a family of 4...

etude de la vie

going from 0-1 was easy for me. DD had colic for 4 months, severe reflux for almost a year, I had this really strict bfing diet and diet for her. She didn't STTN until 8 months but it was easy being a mom and only having one (being a SAHM). 

Having DS kicked my butt in so many ways. He had the same horrible sleep patterns his sister had (5 thirty min naps a day until 6 months old). I felt helpless because I was so exhausted from being up all night, and DD would wake up wanting to run around (like a toddler does) in the morning. He also had reflux and took forever to STTN. I also couldn't bfed him because my body was so worn out and I was getting recurring mastitis (5x in 3 months since my body couldn't really ever recover). I had NO help and DH worked mega hours. 

I just had this major anxiety about DD hurting him, or how to do simple tasks (like the market) would go. I had two babies but one was destroying my house while I was stuck on the couch (often sick with mastitis ) bfing DS. 

Now it is easier but it is an entire new set of challenges with both mobile and walking.  

RA1109

No comparison.  Going from 0-1 was an enormous shock.  Going from 1-2 was a breeze, in fact I thought it was easier than having just 1 in some ways, he just fit right in and is along for the ride.  By the time he was 3 weeks we were back doing the same old things, and I'm a SAHM who takes the kids out somewhere every day.

Both of my kids were easy babies, but my 2nd is an angel and my first is an awesome and very easy toddler.  With my first I suffered through his infancy wondering how anyone ever had 2 kids.  With my second I'm enjoying the late night feedings and everything so much more, I love him being an infant.  The experiences have just been night and day.

WhitePicketFence

Going from 1-2 kids was much easier for me than going from 0-1. Just having some experience under my belt was a huge help. DD2 is also a much easier baby so far than DD1 was.