How early did you show with #2

SouthMinnieAppleMama

We are hoping to wait until we find out the gender to announce that we're expecting. I have a cousin who has been trying for a long time to conceive and we weren't even planning to have #2 yet. I'm wondering how long I can hide it, how fast everyone else has been showing and when everyone announced #2.

Also, should I tell my cousin privately so she has time to adjust before I announce it all to my whole family? 

andreagb

I have a very similar situation.  I too have a cousin who has been trying for a long time and we weren't really planning on #2 this early.  I did tell her privately because I know that when others have told her of their pregnancies it's upsetting and she usually needs time to mentally adjust.    I understand you want to wait but you may consider telling her earlier than the others if you have a close relationship.  It may be hard for her to hide her emotions if you announce in front of everyone.  If she knows beforehand she might do better....(that is of course if you can trust her not to say anything)

 I also feel like I am already showing and I definitely won't be able to hide it as long as with my first.  My SIL has a baby shower in March and I feel I will have to tell the family before then!

Manx4

I feel like it's totally obvious right now that I'm pregnant but I could just be my own worst critic.  I see a bump - others probably see that I'm gaining weight.  haha. 

I would tell your cousin privately - it's a very respectful thing to do.  Let her know you understand if she cries with frustration instead of joy.  I know she'll be happy for you but as someone who had a really hard time TTC, it's always a kick to the gut and a shock to the heart to hear a pregnancy announcement, much less someone on #2.  

pinkhappyheart

My bump popped out at 10 weeks. =(  It looks like a baby bump so everyone congratulates me but they think i'm much further along than i actually am. 

I would tell your cousin first.  She would appreciate the thoughtfuness, i'm sure.  Good luck!

SouthMinnieAppleMama

Thanks everyone. I just called my nurse and I think I'm 5w2d. I will be 10 weeks at another cousin's baby shower. My cousin who is TTC is on #2 and she doesn't have IF problems she just has very few periods a year and also the negative RH thing. I guess I was hoping to give her a little more time to get a BFP but I might just have my hopes up that it's right around the corner.

So...will I be showing at 10 weeks or 14 weeks (Easter)? I was hoping to keep it a secret until 18 weeks since on my first pregnancy I didn't have a bump until 18-20 weeks. Thoughts? Thanks for your comments! 

efortune

I had a very obvious bump by 15 weeks with #2. But I got pregnant when #1 was 3 months old...sooo

morgs8384

Ive only ever lurked on this board. but figured I would respond for at least a little piece of mind. I still have yet to show with #2. DS was only 5 months when I got pregnant, but I think since I had been back to the gym that has saved me some time. I didn't show with DS til 20 weeks. I would imagine by 15 weeks ill be popped. GL.

ak1234

SouthMinnieAppleMama:

Thanks everyone. I just called my nurse and I think I'm 5w2d. I will be 10 weeks at another cousin's baby shower. My cousin who is TTC is on #2 and she doesn't have IF problems she just has very few periods a year and also the negative RH thing. I guess I was hoping to give her a little more time to get a BFP but I might just have my hopes up that it's right around the corner.

So...will I be showing at 10 weeks or 14 weeks (Easter)? I was hoping to keep it a secret until 18 weeks since on my first pregnancy I didn't have a bump until 18-20 weeks. Thoughts? Thanks for your comments! 

Good luck with that   I had people gossiping at 8 weeks with #2...but I was only 8 months pp.

hecallsmecat

I was in maternity pants at 9 weeks with #2, but it was not totally obvious to others that it was a baby bump until about 11-12 weeks (didn't show until 20 weeks with #1). I am totally bigger this time around but I did get pregnant 2 months after having DD.

I would tell your cousin privately first. She may be a little sad or not react well, and it's probably better if that happens privately rather than in front of friends and family.

Good luck!

Mrs Dougherty

with DS#1 about 12 wks andi could hide it til about 14 i started showing with DS#2 at about 10 wks and couldnt hide it past 12 wks and with this one i had horrible bloat starting at 4wks and by 7 weeks its now just a baby bell

Arielle27

At 11 weeks I figured I showed too much NOT to tell... when I started telling people I got a lot of 'yeah, I realized a few weeks ago'!