how do you get thru being alone when their fussy?

mpstochlinski8

for the most part my boys are great, very content & happy but there are times when the both won't settle down unless I hold them and walk around...its getting tough since they are getting bigger. Any tips on how to handle it when they are both crying and need to be held and you are alone? I usually will just hold them both but its not the most comfortable thing for anyone at this point with their sizes, their 11.lbs & 13lbs and their getting big fast. Im alone alot and its getting harder, any tips would be helpful :)TIA

PS Does it get easier when they get a little older?? when?? lol

MuseumMaven

For me this is the hardest part of having twins - when they both want to be held and I'm alone with them.  I wish I had the perfect answer, but I don't.  All I can say is that I try to calm my "easier" baby first and get him settled somehow, then address the fussier baby.

It's definitely easier for me now that it was at 3 months.  I don't know exactly when it got easier, but I think it was around four months.  You're getting there!

megs_glo

That is when I would use my swings, or go for a walk, or I put one on my back in my Ergo and carry the one in the front - this is my exercise (I still do this sometimes now).  Having a carrier helps a lot, and I love my Ergo - very comfortable.  Good luck and it does get easier when they are older.  I think things got a lot better at 6/7 months - you're more than halfway there!

meldoo2002

I wore them a lot.  When they were small I'd wear one or both in the Moby and as they got bigger I'd wear one in the Ergo and it left me able to hold the other one.  

rachelle2824

A carrier saves us on some days! I have the Beco Gemini (similar to the Ergo) and love it! My calmer baby goes in the carrier while I carry the other so I can easily switch positions with whichever baby is having the fussier moment. I can even breastfeed one in the carrier hands free and have two hands available for the other baby.

dcoughlan

I'm in the same boat, home by myself during the daytime.  My girls are a little over 3 months.  I tend to put them in the swings on/off during the day.  If one is having a meltdown then I put the other in the swing so I can try to calm the fussy one.  Otherwise, if both are in meltdown mode, I try to deal with one at a time, put on music dance around, etc.  

I definitely would love to know what others do.  I am pretty exhausted.  Know it will get easier, but right now is tough! 

ashes1010

It definitely gets easier! Mine are only 8 months but are already way easier than they were at 3 months. They will now happily roll around on their mat playing with toys for up to an hour! It's amazing because it gives me time to get things done while still being able to watch them. 

When my girls are both really fussy, sometimes I put them into their bouncy chairs and sit next to them. I'll give them soothers, talk to them, sing songs, read a book, bounce the chairs etc. At this age, holding both and actually comforting them is challenging. The swing was a life saver in the earlier months. I would put one baby in the swing and the other in a carrier.  

mpstochlinski8

thanks I have a few carriers dont know why I didnt think of trying that! lol My guys dont seem to like the mai tai much but the sling they are cool with. I have only tried the moby once. Its good to hear it gets easier because I find myself saying to myself how the H*** am I going to do this each morning lately and I love them like crazy but my god it can be so hard and heartbreaking to hear them scream or cry. Thanks for the input and if anyone else has more I'm still listening LOL

ColleenS629

I have the same problem but no solution. My boys are big... 13 and almost 14 pounds by now. When they are in major meltdown mode the swings don't work. The only thing that works is holding or wearing them and I can't do both at the same time anymore. What I do (but it doesn't work) is calm one, put him down, calm the other, and switch back and forth because as soon as I put one down he starts flipping out again.

ladyprof

I only have one baby that really needs to be "held" when he gets fussy. E is my good waiter and he will take a paci while I hold and cuddle C. I always try to play with E a little extra later to make up for the fact that because he's not the squeaky wheel, he doesn't always get the grease. Usually "everyone is mad" when it's time to eat - so I just hurry up getting everything ready and feed them into silence. :-)