Just wondering what you would think...

Sunshine is mine

A friend of mine is newly pregnant and tossing around names. Her attitude is that when she finds "the one" she is going to use it, even if it means it is the same name as any of our friends' babies. I really admire that. I was actually thinking that I wanted a name (for DD) that not even a distint friend from FB would have named their child.

Don't get me wrong, I am in love with my DD's name. But, I wish I had her attitude when I was pregnant. I could understand while using the name (example) Octavia maybe thinking twice if you knew another one. But if you are using a name like Aubrey, can you REALLLy be offended if someone close to you uses it too?

Annie234567

I don't personally know anyone else with the name I've chosen for LO, but if I found out someone else I knew was using the same name, it wouldn't make me change my mind.  One possible exception would be a close relative, but I don't have any close relatives who are expecting, so fortunately it's a moot point.  I feel like my mother's generation cared even less or my generation wouldn't have so many Sarahs and Jessicas and Jennifers.

ButternutSquash

I don't like any of the names the people I know who have children have used, but if I did I would use it. My using the name doesn't diminish their child in any way and vice versa.

natalie7s19

The more common the name, the less surprised people should be when it's used.

I have a friend who got all up in arms that someone else we work with was considering HER daughter's name for a baby - Olivia. Sorry hun, you don't own it!

However, I probably wouldn't use a name that someone I know IRL had already used. Maybe I'd consider it if I was sure that the babies wouldn't see each other much. 

TripMomma

Meh, I am torn. A friend...not a super close one, named her daughter Lily a few months after we named one of our triplets Lily. It kind of annoyed us to be honest. I get that Lily is popular, but I personally would not pick a name that a friend used.

Keri Marie

I'd love to see someone use one of my kids' names. And I would have still used them if someone I knew had used them too.

strawberrytree

If it's a common name, then no big deal if someone else uses it. I mean, you can't get mad at an acquaintance because they're considering Sophia or Aidan or the like. If it was something much more unusual- let's say Linnea, because I've been thinking about it lately- and they maybe hadn't heard of the name before I used it, I'd appreciate a head's up that they loved the name we had chosen, and were considering it themselves. 

magnoliablossom00

I think it depends on the person, not the name. If its a person whom I respect and have a good relationship with, then I'd never use the name, no matter how much I liked it- just out of respect for that person. If I truly loved it and couldn't find another name, then I'd talk to them about it.

If its a person with whom I don't respect, then I'd use it (no matter how "close" they are in the family, etc).

jonesdouglas

I couldn't name my child the same name as a Friends LO.

Maybe it's just me. However, I just couldnt do it. 

zaramarie81

I dunno. While I get that it's not technically breaking any etiquette rules to use the same name as say, a friend's child, it does cause me to instantly side-eye. We had two Liam's born in the same social circle only weeks apart not long ago. It was just... kind of weird. Can't put my finger on why, but it wasn't appealing to me. Maybe because it was harder to discuss the babies (Whose "Liam"? Friend A or Friend B's?). It just felt crowded. Oh, and regarding my neices and nephews... I could never re-use their names. I totally associate their names with them as people, and I could never do that to my parents who have to keep track of their grandkids. Then again, previous generations had no qualms about naming two grandchildren "Mary" or "John."

groovygirl858

I say if you love a name and feel it is "the one", use it. My only exception is if a sibling named their child the same name. If my sister had a child, I could not name my child the same name she used, but I might use it as a middle name.