I sometimes wonder...

Ilikepeanutbutter

About a lot of the ladies on this board that seem so crazed about getting a BFP, while I understand the board is about Trying to get Pregnant, which would make sense for those trying to get pregnant, but the constant posts about when will you announce your BFP on FB, who will you tell first, who wont you tell, when you do get your BFP how will you tell your DH, your parents, his parents, your friends, etc. Or the constant posts of worry when it comes to planning a vacation on the off chance you may be pregnant.If a vacation did happen and you were pregnant why wouldn't you go? Your pregnant not dead! I just feel that these women are already very anxious to be pregnant and adding or participating in these such polls or conversations I would think only make things worst. Yes it is a hard for some and for others even harder, but for most of the general population getting pregnant is not that hard, people have been doing it for a very along time with far less resources than we have today. I was very lucky and got pregnant both times first try and believe me I know I was lucky, but none of all of the above mentioned never mattered to me until I was actually pregnant. I even took a trip to Mexico 4 months pregnant, trip was planned before I got pregnant and I most definitely was not going to cancel the trip because I was pregnant. I was a pregnant bridesmaid twice once 8 months pregnant and once 5 months pregnant and I had an amazing time at both and the idea that someone would worry about that stuff really blows my mind. I am sure you all know the saying "Life happens while your busy making other plans" I find it to be very true! I would think sitting on this board day after day participating in all the silly future baby type polls and discussion is only going to add to your already stressful situation of trying to get pregnant which I am gathering from this board it can be quite stressful for some. When you do get pregnant and I genuinely do hope that for all of, remember that you have 9 months to plan for baby, more than enough time!! This board along with others can be a great resource for information about charting, tempting,etc so I am all for that, but could do with out all phantom baby posts and the how am I going to surprise -fill in the blank- posts. Every time I read those the girls responding seem so desperate and I feel bad for them. There has got to be more to like than these message boards!

janice9821

1. This hurt my brain to read.  Paragraphs and grammar, please!

2. I agree that some of the "what-ifs" can get excessive.  When women get pregnant is very much out their control, even when charting and timing things perfectly.  There's no sense living your life for "what-ifs".  However, not all of us are as lucky as you - it can take a long time to get pregnant.  If you get pregnant immediately, of course you wouldn't worry about "what-if".  There's no going back at that point! 

3. Sometimes, especially if you've been trying for a while, it's nice to have other women to talk to about the process, even if it's all speculation.  Especially if you haven't got many people close to you that you can confide in.  It's a nice support system. 

janice9821

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LanaBob678

janice9821:

1. This hurt my brain to read.  Paragraphs and grammar, please!

2. I agree that some of the "what-ifs" can get excessive.  When women get pregnant is very much out their control, even when charting and timing things perfectly.  There's no sense living your life for "what-ifs".  However, not all of us are as lucky as you - it can take a long time to get pregnant.  If you get pregnant immediately, of course you wouldn't worry about "what-if".  There's no going back at that point! 

3. Sometimes, especially if you've been trying for a while, it's nice to have other women to talk to about the process, even if it's all speculation.  Especially if you haven't got many people close to you that you can confide in.  It's a nice support system. 

Completely Agree!

angel41sweethrt

WOW.....Please use paragraphs next time!

Anyways, Infertility affects 10-15% of reproductive aged people! So yes, we are here to talk about our issues getting KU. Personally me and my husband have been trying for 18 months and still no luck! And this board has been a great resource for me (and many others) to use as a support system! It's so nice to have ladies that are going through the same thing as you to talk to.

 I agree that some stuff might get a little excessive at times. But at the same time when someone like myself has been trying for so long, you do have time to build up all the "what ifs." Most people on the board didn't get KU as easily as you did- that's why we are here. I'm not quite sure why you are on this board....espically if you get pregnant so easily!??!

mrsjollybrown

I find your post very distasteful for this board. As you say you were lucky and got pregnant the first time you tried. You don't know how hard it is to get pregnant. I'm on my 12th month of trying. You don't understand why women would be willing to give up vacations or miss family members weddings because they are willing to do WHATEVER it takes to make it full term to pregnancy.

Its easy for you to say what you wouldn't do when you haven't been in these shoes.  

 

MissGOP

As I tell my students, please break up your paragraphs for clarity. Large blocks of text like this are hard for the eye to read and nearly impossible for a reader to sift through (without skimming, missing some info, etc.). I don't mean that in a snarky way; just wanted to let you know why this was hard to read and why paragraphs are so important.

Not sure about the point of your post. Yes, maybe you think some women shouldn't get so stressed about ttc, but the fact is that they do find it stressful (for so many reasons you can't comprehend unless in their shoes).

Everyone processes life, copes, and receives support differently. It is rude and judgmental to call it "desperate." You don't have to understand it. It doesn't impact you. And I hope no one ever questions your emotions in this way.

LanaBob678

mrsjollybrown:

I find your post very distasteful for this board. As you say you were lucky and got pregnant the first time you tried. You don't know how hard it is to get pregnant. I'm on my 12th month of trying. You don't understand why women would be willing to give up vacations or miss family members weddings because they are willing to do WHATEVER it takes to make it full term to pregnancy.

Its easy for you to say what you wouldn't do when you haven't been in these shoes.  

 

This is soooo true. I usually don't say to much about it but I would be willing to miss out on a whole years worth of events if it meant we could have a take-home baby. We have been trying for about 3 and 1/2 years and have had 2 losses. Last year I found out more about why it's been so challenging for us to get pregnant and after more talk with my Dr we now know when I do get pregnant there is a strong chance I will be on bedrest most of the pregnancy. After learning this, whenever we make plans we have been sure to keep all of that in mind so that we do not make plans that financially or otherwise pin us down because we know we can't be positive we'll be able to make the commitment.

OP- your comment is a bit offensive!

AGlaze

OP - Just because someone like to plan does not make them desperate. We all live our lives outside this board. I am planner when it comes to everything and not planning makes me stressed.

I find it sad that you have to make a full post about reading posts that annoy you, no one is making you read it.  Get off you fing high horse and stop judging internet stranges and calling them desperate by what they post. 

rinascita

mrsjollybrown:

I find your post very distasteful for this board. As you say you were lucky and got pregnant the first time you tried. You don't know how hard it is to get pregnant. I'm on my 12th month of trying. You don't understand why women would be willing to give up vacations or miss family members weddings because they are willing to do WHATEVER it takes to make it full term to pregnancy.

Its easy for you to say what you wouldn't do when you haven't been in these shoes.  

 

 Well put... also, if you don't enjoy the board or the posts - you don't have to read them?

 

Ilikepeanutbutter

Sorry about the lack of paragraphs, using my iPad and I don't know how to make them. Anyway Ghostmonkey, I was speaking for myself (I think that was pretty clear) and don't think anyone needs to share my opinions. The post was just my random observation, does not make it wrong or right. And to those who say I don't know how lucky I am to have gotten pregnant so easily, trust me I do. Someone does not have to suffer through IF to be extra thankful for their baby. Lastly, no need to lurk, I have been reading these boards since I got pregnant with my first in 2008 so I have been around!

abfromva

I don't understand the point of your post. Everyone here is a willing participant. I don't think tons of people stick around here if it is not the right fit.