feeling a little let down

candi2912

I don't want this post to come across wrong, but I had my baby shower today and am now feeling let down :-( so only 3 people showed up! I feel bad cuz my MIL flew in to host it for me and put so much hard work to make every thing perfect, and only 3 people show up, not the 10+ that said they were going to! WTF?!? I feel like they could of at least called and let us know they changed their minds! I feel like it was just a waste of mine and her time. I think I would actually feel better if I would have never had one! Sorry if I sound like a whinny brat but this really upset me. Though my SO did stay and help with the shower cuz he could tell I was on the edge of tears! 

Sherbet Lemon

I'm so sorry your shower experience was disappointing.  I think anyone would be upset with turnout so much smaller than what they'd be expecting.  On the positive side, you have what sound like a wonderful MIL and supportive SO, and these are the people who will be important in your life and your baby's life years from now. And, don't feel bad about feeling like it was a waste of time - I'm sure your MIL was happy to do something for you, despite how many other people were there. 

mamigee98@yahoo.com

I'm sorry. I would be upset too especially since a lot of hard work went into planning it. SOme people are just so inconsiderate.

MelleTX

Yeah - that is kind of crappy. Sorry that  happened to you. But I hope you at least enjoyed the company of those that were there to celebrate with you.

candi2912

thanks ladies for the support! I did enjoy spending the time with the people that did show. 

celestialnyte

I think I would be disappointed, too. My bridal shower my best friend threw it and DH's side of the family never RSVP'd. I didn't know about it, and she called MH to have him track down his family members to find out if they were coming or not. They all said they were, and then 1/2 didn't show up!

It amazes me how inconsiderate some people can be. It really grinds my gears. 

dojo1

I'd be hurt too and upset for the people that put in so much work.   I'd be feeling like reconsidering some friendships.

Loribelle73

At least you had people show up.  When I got married, no one came to my bridal shower except for my mom and my aunt who were hosting.  A few people sent gifts, but it is sad when it feels like no one wants to spend time with you.

Heather2256

Sorry it didn't go so well. For mine, I'm not inviting anyone from my family except immediate family - considering they're the only ones from my side who showed up to my wedding last year! My grandma (who is the only grandparent I have left) & one of my aunts didn't come to the wedding because they had a birthday party to go to. Um, yeah. It sucked. But those who really cared showed up.

Liz4444

I don't blame you for being upset.  It is extremely rude of your "friends" to RSVP yes and not show up.  That would make me very angry, and I would be questioning those friendships.  DH's aunt and cousin did this at my bridal shower, but we already knew they were azzholes. 

rhubarb123

I'm sorry you felt/feel so bad about the low turn-out.  Obviously those people that said they were coming and then didn't have NEVER hosted a party where numbers matter.  I would probably call them and find out why they didn't show up.  Hopefully they have a very good excuse.  I'd also ask why they didn't bother calling.  I'm sorry...they were rude and I would be rude right back.  I'd put them on the spot.

Karma will take care of them.  Hope they don't have any showers or other important get-togethers coming up soon.

ChristyML

candi2912:

I don't want this post to come across wrong, but I had my baby shower today and am now feeling let down :-( so only 3 people showed up! I feel bad cuz my MIL flew in to host it for me and put so much hard work to make every thing perfect, and only 3 people show up, not the 10+ that said they were going to! WTF?!? I feel like they could of at least called and let us know they changed their minds! I feel like it was just a waste of mine and her time. I think I would actually feel better if I would have never had one! Sorry if I sound like a whinny brat but this really upset me. Though my SO did stay and help with the shower cuz he could tell I was on the edge of tears! 

Oh I'm so sorry about your shower! That is EXTREMELY rude of people not to even call to say nevermind. They could have at least came for a little while and then said they had appointments elsewhere. You do not sound like a whiny brat because you are not disappointed for just yourself. Even if you were just disappointed for yourself, I wouldn't consider you whiny. Sorry momma! 

pinksandbermuda

Wow that is really lame.  At my college graduation party,  none of my "friends" showed up until the end (save one or two) and basically missed the whole thing.  I was so embarassed and pissed since there was tons of food etc. that was wasted. I felt bad that my family went to all of the effort.  I thought it relected badly on me that they didn't care enough to be on time.

Turns out over the years they were just a generally inconsiderate group of people.  I don't keep in touch with any of them.

It sounds like you have a great MIL that cares about you and that is huge, and you did have people come to celebrate with you.  I'm sorry the rest disappointed you.