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Intro and ? about comments

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Hello everyone! I am currently a mother of a 4 month old and recently found out we are expecting our second. They will be 11 months apart. We are very excited and looking forward to having our children so close together. We have shared the news with our family and recieved a negative response from my mother. About how we should have been more careful, "are you even ready?" etc. etc.... Has anyone else here delt with this same type of reaction? How did you deal with it? She has known for almost a month now and continues with the comments....  
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  • rosesandpeoniesrosesandpeonies member

    well my mom couldnt say anything because she had 2 that were 11 months apart (mine are 18 months apart).  I did have a few people say things but just thought to myself.  I am an adult and I am perfectly capable of making my family planning decisions.

     I would personally sit her down and tell her that it is very upsetting and that you are very happy about this baby and you hope that she will support you.  I am pretty blunt though.  I always tell my family how it is if something is bothering me though.

    Congratulations! 


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  • Daisy22Daisy22 member
    Oh yes and it's even worse now with being pg with #3. People need filters!
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  • cdibellacdibella member
    Yes!  We did and ours are going to be 16 months apart and the negativity was from my mom.  She doesn't even live nearby.  What I don't get is that you/I are already pregnant, so comments other than congratulations are worthless. The other thing is that no one is living my everyday life except for me and DH, so there is no need to judge.  I can't even imagine what they are going to say when we get pregnant with #3.   
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  • manderdollmanderdoll member

    We have been pretty fortunate with the comments, we mostly just have people tell us how busy we are going to be (ours will likely be about 18.5 months apart), but I have found mine and DH grandparents to be the most supportive of the idea, I guess because it was much more common to have babies close together in their time.

    I hope your mother can stop making you feel bad about it and can be happy for you, after all the baby is on it's way and she doesn't get a say! 

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