What's the right response to...

runrinserepeat

"How are you feeling?"

My well-meaning customers ask me this every time we talk. Honestly, I feel like garbage - my feet are swollen, my back hurts, I'm tired, I have to pee every 20 minutes... but I don't feel like I can tell them that. Do you just lie when people ask? Because I'm pretty sure I don't sound/look fine, but I don't really want to get into it with people I work with.

aglenn

My usual is, "as good as can be expected at this point!"  People are just being polite anyway; they don't really want to hear my litany of complaints. 

pinksweetpea2

I just say, "Fine, thanks."  That is what most people are looking for when they ask anyway. 

Emalline036

You can always smile and just say, "Very pregnant!" and leave it at that.

SapphireDreamRock

I was just thinking about this a couple days ago!  I agree that most people would be happy to hear "I'm fine," or "as good as can be expected at 39+ weeks."  I feel like if I were to give them an answer other than that, they'd somehow be disappointed or think that I shouldn't be complaining.  OR--I'd get the response of "Oh, just wait until the baby is here--you'll miss these days!"  As always, love those words of wisdom!

jmccall79

Ditto to the "as good as could be expected at this point."

Hunterloren

I usually feel wonderful, but if not I tell them that I feel a little rough, but not horrible. You might want to say 'ready for the baby'.

 

sparks2987

My response is usually " I am doing good" or "very pregnant" sometimes I say "I'm hanging in there" if it is someone I talk to regularly.

I would love to say, well concidering  my feet have doubled in size, my back in killing me, this baby is kicking me in the ribs while headbutting my cervix, I am  having contractions, I havent slept more than 2 hours at a time in months and I have heartburn that makes me feel like I am breathing fire...all those things concidered I am doing pretty good to still be here!

soralette

"Pregnant!" with a smile is my go-to, haha. Glad to see PPs doing the same!

boydstm

Depends on who it is. I will be honest with someone I know well and tell them that I'm exhausted, nauseated, in pain, and just ready to be done. People i don't know I usually just say "ready for this little girl to be here."

telatovich

I always say, "I can't complain!  This whole thing has to get a lot worse before it get's better."  But I am SO tired of people asking! 

sanriobaby

jmccall79:

Ditto to the "as good as could be expected at this point."

I agree, this is a good response. Anyone REALLY wanting to know more details will ask and if you're comfortable answering more, you can.

karleegirl

I'm an oncology nurse so usually no matter how bad I feel I knOw most of my patients are worse. So at work I usually say fine, or a little tired. It's so sweet though b/c even with them feeling bad they will offer me to do things for me. If i drop something they will almost jump to pick it up so I don't have too.

MrsLindinger0905

I say "uncomfortable" with a smile! Everyone giggles a little bit and says "yeah, that sounds about right"

lissag24

I tell people, I feel fabulous. It shuts them up and usually doesn't lead to any more stupid questions... I mean really how do I fee.... Like I'm ready to burst, everything hurts and I can't sleep.

Shmogan09

I always say "very ready to meet this little one!"  It implies you are miserable and done being pregnant but also gives people a smile because you mentioned meeting the baby.