When will you tell?

cookie280

Happy Friday!!!

When are you planning to tell (after getting that BFP of course) parents, close family, extended family, friends, work..blah blah

I would definitely tell my parents and siblings after BFP. MH parents and siblings maybe after 1st doctor's appt (if it's not too long of a wait). Everyone else after 1st trimester (hopefully I can wait).

Would everyone wait til after first trimester or would you tell right away? I'm just curious, because I know I would be too excited not to tell. 

shellb1978

I'm pretty sure this was asked yesterday.

I will tell DH right away, I bought a onsie that says "My Dad Rocks" on it, then will tell his parents and my parents.

Family and close friends- after my first appointment when I know everything is ok.

Friends- will announce of Facebook at 12 weeks.

 

cookie280

Oh I must have missed that post. Sorry!

vpine

Plan to tell both sets of parents right after BFP, not sure why only one side of parents should be told and not the other, that wouldn't seem fair to my DH in my opinion. Friends and distant relatives, we'd share the news after 12 weeks.

kleigh926

cookie280:

Happy Friday!!!

When are you planning to tell (after getting that BFP of course) parents, close family, extended family, friends, work..blah blah

I would definitely tell my parents and siblings after BFP. MH parents and siblings maybe after 1st doctor's appt (if it's not too long of a wait). Everyone else after 1st trimester (hopefully I can wait).

Would everyone wait til after first trimester or would you tell right away? I'm just curious, because I know I would be too excited not to tell. 

Why would you tell your family immediately but wait to tell YH's family? The baby will be half his, you know...  just curious.

Juicy71

I'll tell my BFF right away and my brother and SIL that live 2 blocks from me because I'm sure I won't be able to hide my excitement with them.  We won't tell anyone else until 2nd tri.

nyc7781

Work will know immediately because I will need to stay out of some cases.  My parents will know probably immediately.  DH's family is up to him bc they live in another country.  Everyone else probably 12 weeks

gplove94

Parents, siblings and my BF right away.  Close friends after 8 weeks.  The world after 12 weeks.

NoeliaV

DH wants to wait until the end of 1st trimester to tell anyone. Hmph.

I would like to tell my immediate family after the 1st dr's appointment or after hearing the heartbeat (if they don't do it at the 1st appt). I'm fine with telling his family whenever he would like.

Work? I don't know. Maybe when it gets painfully obvious that my pants don't fit.

The rest of the world? I guess after 1st tri will be just fine. Maybe I'll go Hollywood and just keep mum until, like, 2 weeks before the due date, lol.

Jessa1807

We will probably tell after we hear the heartbeat, or possible after first trimester.

mmb248

We will tell parents, sibs, and our closest friends (who are like family) after the 1st dr appt.  Everyone else, we will tell after the 1st trimester.  Of course, telling MIL anything is the same as announcing it on the 6pm news, so it's entirely possible that there won't be anyone left to tell after we tell her.

Shayliz

Husband - will be watching the pee stick develop with me.

Parents/siblings - will know after the 2nd beta

Friends/Family/Facebook - 2nd trimester, unless we're having multiples, then possibly sooner. 

cookie280

mmb248:

We will tell parents, sibs, and our closest friends (who are like family) after the 1st dr appt.  Everyone else, we will tell after the 1st trimester.  Of course, telling MIL anything is the same as announcing it on the 6pm news, so it's entirely possible that there won't be anyone left to tell after we tell her.

This is why I would wait to tell DH's family... haha 

Indynurse12

NariaDreaming:

DH- Immediately

The Bump- That day

Parents- Probably after the first U/S

Close friends and family - 12 weeks

The rest of the world- 16/20 weeks

 This is pretty much my plan exactly, although I'm sure we'll tell our siblings around the same time as our parents. 

MichelleCap

we will wait as long as we can. I doubt we.... ok I,  will make it 3 months without telling. I will most likely have to tell my parents before then because I work for my Dad and it's a very small office. If there is morning sickness everyone will know it. And I can't exactly tell my dad and expect him to keep it from my mom. SO it really depends on how things go. As for the rest of the family and his family, I have lupus so there is a higher risk of MC so the longer we can hold off tellign anyone the better. So I guess my answer is just my parents if I have to.

lulamagoo

My brother and SIL told my family weeks after they told her family.  To me this seemed mean.  Why are one set of parents better or more important than the other?

This child will also be my parents grandchild, just because my brother isn't the one carrying the child does not mean that they don't deserve to know right away.

We will try to tell our parents after the first U/S.  We live out of state, so still trying to figure out how to do it in a fun way when it happens.

We'll tell close friends at 10 weeks.  Others will find out around 14-16 weeks.  No facebook until gender.

ChristyML

DH - If I can wait a day, I'd tell him on V-day (I test on the 13th). If I can't, right as soon as I know.

We are planning a trip home to tell the parents and siblings and it would be nice to be pregnant this month since we already have a plan to visit home this month. I feel kind of bad because my mom lives about 1.5 hours away from DH's parents and siblings, and I don't know who to tell first. It would be within a day of each other, but still. I wouldn't want to have a "party" or get together because it would most likely ruin the surprise.

DH's dad is so excited for us to be pregnant and the last time I talked to him (he called to see how we were doing), he asked if all I told him was it, like he was hoping I was going to tell him I was pregnant. I think we will tell DH's dad first, if we can get him alone (away from my MIL, SIL, and BsIL) and then have him tell his whole family, just because he is so excited. I'm getting excited just thinking about it!

I don't think I'll wait for a dr appt, just because a line is a line on a pregnancy test. Unless I can get in ASAP but most likely not.

As for the rest of the world, I think I'll wait until after the first tri.

MH and I haven't really talked about how and when we tell our families. We're just trying to get pregnant first  

Edited for clarity. 

McFelix5711

I will tell friends before family. I don't want to get my parents excited until I'm am into the 2nd trimester. I haven't told my mom we are trying, although she keeps not so subtly asking! It's not annoying, it just makes me laugh. I tell her we are too busy to have a baby. DH's parents don't ask because they know DH will say it's none of their business! (they ask me though)

My two best friends will know immediately. For all of their pregnancies (three between them) I knew the same day they took the pee test. My other close girlfriends will likely be the first time I see them after I find out I'm pregnant. I won't be able to lie to them, and they all know we are trying. I told DH that I would absolutely tell them if something were to happen, so I see no reason to keep it from them. 

Everyone else will find out after the first trimester. It will be very hard for me to keep it in. I am very open with my friends!!

ChiTown Bridget

Due to my history not until the 2nd tri.

Ashbear2

kleigh926:

cookie280:

Happy Friday!!!

When are you planning to tell (after getting that BFP of course) parents, close family, extended family, friends, work..blah blah

I would definitely tell my parents and siblings after BFP. MH parents and siblings maybe after 1st doctor's appt (if it's not too long of a wait). Everyone else after 1st trimester (hopefully I can wait).

Would everyone wait til after first trimester or would you tell right away? I'm just curious, because I know I would be too excited not to tell. 

Monster in law?

I know I feel the same way just cuz I will get grief from my In-laws- and DH knows it. 

Why would you tell your family immediately but wait to tell YH's family? The baby will be half his, you know...  just curious.

cali4niagirl

DH- right away, not sure exactly how I would do it, yet.

Idk how or when we would tell our families. His lives about an hour north and mine all moved to freeeeakin Florida. So I haven't much thought about how/when but it would be fairly soon. 

I'd probably tell a couple of my good friends early on (those that know we are TTC) but as for telling everyone else, we think we'll wait until 2nd tri.

JumpAroundBucky

I'll tell my two BFFs right away (probably right after DH).

I'll have to tell work right away for safety reasons.

His mom, my mom, & his dad probably after the first US. 

Friends/family, after 13 weeks (That's when we had a m/c last time).

My dad...I'll probably just wait a few years and let the baby tell him. HA! (kidding, obviously...). I'll tell him eventually.  

 

lmb5109

We told IL's a week after BFP since we saw them in person first. Then we had to untell them after the m/c. So we won't be telling anyone till 12 weeks with the next BFP. It was horrible to untell, I need to see baby is safe & sound and healthy first.