why are people such a$$holes?

annabelle.27

My husband and I were in a store today and the cashier asked when I am due and what I am having. I told her we're having a boy and she made a face and said "Oh, well, that's not the end of the world" in a tone of voice that implied that having TWO boys is bad news.

I can't even recall how many times I've had similar comments made to me. A week or two ago I was talking to a client at work who, upon learning I am expecting a boy, said "Oh, well. How soon will you be trying for the third? I imagine you guys will try again for a girl?" (for the record: we're not).

Why do people say things like that? I know that I'm not announcing what we are having in a tone that implies that I think this is bad news, yet people seem to automatically assume that it is. Am I the only one who has had to deal with this shiite?

JeepGirl508

I love peoples comments....not! Everyone will always have an opinion about something....try not to let it get to you...as frustrating as it can be.

lancyjo

I can't imagine dealing with this from multiple people. My MIL has been a jerk about us having a girl, and its everything I can do to not let her have it. 

Youre a far better woman than I if you're keeping your mouth shut in response to these people. A baby is a blessing, regardless of the gender... And your family planning isn't a matter for public discussion.  

kristin172429

I really don't understand why people say things like this or if they realize how absolutely douche-tastic it makes them!  You are talking about a new life.  Your off-handed remark about how this baby is not the gender you think we should have/want/whatever is so incredibly rude.  This is a new little person we are bringing into the world that we are going to love and cherish and we don't need your snide remarks.  

I always want to ask them if they would look in the adorable face of a two year old and tell them "oh, it's too bad you weren't a [opposite gender].  your parents would have liked that better.  maybe they can try again and do better than you." - cause this is how heartless it is to me when someone says that kind of crap.

CSchilling

Im with you on that one... this is my first BUT I have always said I am only have two kids and if it happens to be two girls or two boys, so be it.  I will feel truly blessed by whatever God wants to give me!

goldenleaves

I hate that!

We got a lot of "Oh, how perfect, I bet you were hoping for a girl this time!"

Yeah, we were just hoping for a baby!

Shmogan09

Oh I am so with you on this one!!  People do it to me all the time!  It's really hard not to get offended, they look at my DS with this sad look.  I want to say Uh this kid is the best thing in the WORLD and I would be the most blessed person ever to get another little boy just like him!  Why oh why do people think you have to be sad if you are having 2 boys!?  I am thrilled and we too are done.  Whenever people say "when will you try for a girl?"  I just say oh we are having a permanent fix done after this one... I always wanted 2 regardless of gender".  

People are so friggin ignorant who think you have to keep trying and trying for the other sex whether you want more kids or not.  

You basically hit on my biggest pet peeve this whole pregnancy.  I wish I could put a sign on my belly that says "yes it's a boy, yes I am happy, no I am not trying for a girl, and why is non of your f***ing business!" 

fredpuma

Someone asked me the gender the other day and I said girl, and she said "Oh, I bet you were hoping for a boy."

My mouth hung open and I'm sure I turned red from being so embarrassed.  I said no, we're really excited.  I couldn't believe someone would say that.  stupid b!tch acting like I should be disappointed about having this girl...... 

People touching me without asking, and making comments about how I wont be able to finish 2 weeks of school afterward are the other big things that bother me, but it makes me irrationally angry when people act like I should be upset about not having a boy.  I've had a few people argue that she's a boy because of how I'm carrying, too, which also rubs me the wrong way.  I've had like 7 million ultrasounds, and have seriously like 10 pictures of her lady parts. 

melissajo2011

When we told people we were having one boy and one girl, so many people said "That's perfect! A whole family in one shot." As if we would be less of a family if we had 2 girls or 2 boys, or just one baby? We would have been happy no matter what. People really don't think before they speak.

aracelyluna

I have a coworker who has told me something like that. I was upset, but that lady has no filter and always makes stupid comments about everything. I hate sitting in meetings with her. This is our first and if we end up with all boys I would be thrilled.

Lawren

I'm so annoyed with people's comments as well. People say some really rude things to pregnant women and they are offensive. I left work the other day so down, but my doggie cheered me up as soon as I got home.

FWIW, I would love a houseful of boys

KimberlyTownson

Shmogan09:

I wish I could put a sign on my belly that says "yes it's a boy, yes I am happy, no I am not trying for a girl, and why is non of your f***ing business!" 

 

They should make t-shirts like this! LOL  This is my 4th baby but will be my fiance's 1st. We're having a girl and he's sooo excited but people are like "But didn't you want a boy for your first?" Or that we should be having a boy since it's my FI's 1st. Really? I missed the part where I suddenly became Burger King with the "Have it your way!" motto. If anyone has anything to say and they can't be nice they should either not say anything at all or just say  "Congrats!" and leave it at that.