My experience with transitioning a toddler from bedsharding and ? if you have done it

SnowflakeBride06

When we moved 3 weeks ago, I decided to start putting LO to be and down for naps in her own room on a floor bed.

I had wanted to wait for the move because I figured it was my change to 'change the rules' and she went a long with it.

She was used to sleeping with us at night so when she woke up after we went to bed I would bring her to bed with us.

What has not changed is that she nurses to sleep still for naps and bedtime and still nurses a bit at night with me.

 The first few days/week was tough with lots of wake ups and crying when I was not there and she was in a new place.

She is also teething so I found a dose of motrin is helping.

Now she takes her naps fine in her new room and goes to bed fine in her new room (just steps away from our room)

But I still bring her to bed with me when she wakes up after 11pm.  I dunno, I have gone to bed without her and brought her in with us later like 1am but then I feel delirious from waking up and getting up.

If I keep bringing her to bed is this going to set the trend that its ok to wake up and I will bring her to bed? If I want her to eventually sleep in her bed all night? Not that I don't love the snuggles. 

panicked228

I just stopped nursing to sleep and bed sharing two weeks ago. We placed her in a pack n' play in our room while we're cleaning out what will be her room. When she would wake up, we would just shush her and lay her back down. We did NOT pick her up or talk to her at all. It took about two days of her waking up through the night, but now she goes down without so much as a fuss. Naps are still challenging, but now that she's sleeping 12-14 hours a night, she doesn't need a long nap.
   In my opinion, it is best to just bite the bullet and deal with no sleep for a few days. Don't look back, even though it's easier and you're sleep-deprived!

bridesouth

DS is 15 months old and when he turned a year old I stopped bedsharing and nursing him at night.  I put him in a pack-n-play next to my bed.  For the first several days when he would wake up at night I would comfort him however I could WITHOUT nursing him and WITHOUT putting him in bed with me (this included, rubbing his back, rocking, walking the house, etc.).  After that, when he'd wake at night I'd comfort him but with less intrusive measures (shhh him, pat his back, NO picking him up).  After this time frame, when he'd wake at night, I'd let him cry for a while (I'd time it and would not let him go more than a set period of time).  If he cried past what I was comfortable with, I'd again offer just mild comfort measures.  If he woke up at 6am or later, I'd nurse him and sometimes put him in bed with me for a little while.  Now he's in his crib in his room and sleeping through the night.  Slow and steady.  I agree that you have to stick with forward progress and if you don't want LO to become attached to a practice (i.e. getting put in your bed any time she cried during the night), I would not do it.  It is hard and trust me, I was tempted many times to revert back to our old ways, but it was worth it.  Making the transition very slowly worked for us because with each new adjustment, it seemed DS was ready for it.  Goodluck!