Hospital or Birthing Center?

4mgarcias

In the spirit of staying positive I have decided to switch my obsessive planning compulsions from planning IVF to looking to the end result of giving birth.  I know, I know super premature but it's distubingly fun .

Due to my medical history I have always expected to be considered a high risk pregnancy but yesterday our RE told us that he (because there is no longer a septum in my uterus) doesn't see why I would be considered high risk. 

So now I wonder what we would chose with all the different options available.  Birthing centers look cool and the benefits seem great but I think my fears would prevent me from going that route.

What would you do?

Mrs.McIrish

Honestly, I think this question is not a good one for this board. Many of us have failed several IVF cycles and aren't thinking about a birth just yet.

ETA: Better suited question for PAIF.

lynn0926

Mrs.McIrish:

Honestly, I think this question is not a good one for this board. Many of us have failed several IVF cycles and aren't thinking about a birth just yet.

ETA: Better suited question for PAIF.

This! I take it one step at a time. Right  now I am focusing on weather or not I will be able to have an ET. Then there is still so much after that. I gave up thinking about what I will do when I have a baby because who knows if there will be a when. 

AmCheri

I agree with McIrish and Lynn. While I'm all for positivity (and appreciate where you're coming from), I've learned the hard way to stay in this moment. One day at a time. We've made the mistake of getting ahead of ourselves more than once and it made our failures all the more difficult. 

MandaS08

AmCheri:

I agree with McIrish and Lynn. While I'm all for positivity (and appreciate where you're coming from), I've learned the hard way to stay in this moment. One day at a time. We've made the mistake of getting ahead of ourselves more than once and it made our failures all the more difficult. 

Ditto!  Not that its bad you're positive, I just can't let myself get that far ahead!

Good luck!

cottonlily84

I think it's great that you are positively looking forward to the future.  Trust me those 9 months go by SO fast and all the choices will make your head spin.  I sure made many important decisions when we were TTC; it was just one less thing to do when pregnant.  And what else can you do while you're sitting around waiting but think and plan.  I wanted to use a birthing center but I did wind up high risk so I had to deliver at the hospital.  All the extra time planning came in handy!  It would be wise to use your time now to look into both those options in your area.  Every birthing center and every hospital is different.  You can also post questions like this on the 3rd tri, natural birth, and 0-3 sections to get feedback on what others have already done. 

4mgarcias

Mrs.McIrish:

Honestly, I think this question is not a good one for this board. Many of us have failed several IVF cycles and aren't thinking about a birth just yet.

ETA: Better suited question for PAIF.

First, I had no intentions of offending anyone...Second, I have also had a failed IVF cycle and lost NINE pregnancies.  I have also not lost the hope of attaining a pregnancy and being able to take it to term.  Really, If you did not like the question you simply could have moved on to a different post that you liked better. There's no need to tell me what is or is not apprpropriate. 

I was contemplating not coming on this site anymore because it only enables obsessing over every detail but I really liked the support here...thanks for helping me decide NOT to come here anymore.

4mgarcias

Thank you for being the only person to not tell me what you would do without being negative about my question.  I wish you the best of luck in all you do.

NMscubagirl

4mgarcias:

Mrs.McIrish:

Honestly, I think this question is not a good one for this board. Many of us have failed several IVF cycles and aren't thinking about a birth just yet.

ETA: Better suited question for PAIF.

First, I had no intentions of offending anyone...Second, I have also had a failed IVF cycle and lost NINE pregnancies.  I have also not lost the hope of attaining a pregnancy and being able to take it to term.  Really, If you did not like the question you simply could have moved on to a different post that you liked better. There's no need to tell me what is or is not apprpropriate. 

I was contemplating not coming on this site anymore because it only enables obsessing over every detail but I really liked the support here...thanks for helping me decide NOT to come here anymore.

You don't need to not come here anymore because someone on this board gently and politely let you know that this type of post is not generally well received on this board. She was right, look at the responses you got. It is great that you are being positive and looking at that, but many people in this situation don't. Plus your post is not very easy to just ignore as the title is pretty clearly about birthing. No way to just not look at it. This isn't about who's been through more than someone else, (I am very sorry for your losses), there is a board culture here and that is what PPs were letting you know about.

This board is full of wonderful compassionate and respectful supportive women and all we ask is that continue in every post. Part of being respectful is not putting things out there that could be hurtful to people in our situations without a warning of some kind. You asked us to think about birthing a child and many people said sorry, that's just not for us right now. I have posted things before that have made people uncomfortable and I learned from that mistake and moved on. That is all that needs be done. No one suggested you were intentionally hurting anyone or being intentionally insensitive, but as I am sure you know from your trying past, sometimes even unintentional things can be hurtful to others.

You have been an enjoyable part of this board, so please lets move on from this. Continue to post here, support others and get support yourself. We can all use as much support as possible during these rough and trying times. GL to you.