Has this happened to anyone else?

Apybrown2010

My hubby seems to be having a hard time completing during sex around ovulation. At first i thought it was my CM, but now i am starting to think that he is thinking about "I have to go" too much during sex and therefore can't go. It is starting to stress me out and make me think we are not going to conceive. I am afraid to even say anything cause it might make it worse. Has anyone else had this happen? How did you handle it?

Apybrown2010

Nope! I don't temp and I don't tell him when i get a positive OPK or when it is ovulation time. 

lycih

Do you initiate other times of the month, or only when you know you're ovulating?
If you're not usually the initiator, and suddenly you are, maybe he's figuring it out that way. 

rrcraz7

Apybrown2010:

Nope! I don't temp and I don't tell him when i get a positive OPK or when it is ovulation time. 

So it's only around your ovulation time but he has no idea that it's your ovulation time?

Talk to him. See if something else is going on. maybe he's just stressed & worried.

4everfalllover

I would have a talk and make sure that you are both on the same page about children first.  If you just started ttc it might just be he is not used to having an orgasm with the idea of a baby being the end result and he needs sometime to get comfortable with the idea.  Also you might be having sex too much, maybe just every other day or just let him know a week before your fertile window, don't mention it right before.  I hate to say this but you kind of need to let him know his role in having a baby, every woman is different but my belief is that your partner needs to be as aware as you are of your body and the process.  Just talk to him.

budgirl007

Sometimes my DH has the same issue...we decided it was A.) Too much sex or B.) Too much pressure.

We have sex ED from end of AF through a day or two past O and that is more than we usually do. We have always had a good sex life, but just did it 2-3 days a week, not everyday lol! By the time we get to O he is tired, as well as feeling the pressure to peform and make that baby! Last cycle we started BD'ing a few days after AF instead of right away, and this cycle we are trying EOD. So far so good!

Ashbear2

He's feeling pressured.

Happened to my DH cuz he felt like "a sperm donor" and nothing more. 

happilyeverafterxo

lycih:

Do you initiate other times of the month, or only when you know you're ovulating?
If you're not usually the initiator, and suddenly you are, maybe he's figuring it out that way. 

Talk to him. You can't ignore it...hopefully he will be able to open up to you about what is bothering him so you can work through it together. Good luck!

megs2011

DH had issues our 2nd cycle. This time he didnt. He always asks me when its baby making time lol. I told him its hard to be spontaneous when he asks me lol.

Apybrown2010

Thanks for the advise. I think I am going to talk to him. We are only having sex a few times a week, so it is not us doing it too much. I think you might be right that he is now associating orgasm with baby and is freaking out. Thanks again.