Anyone avoiding holiday babies?

Indynurse12

GhostMonkey:

You are fully aware that about 5% of babies arrive on their due date. It can (safely)be anywhere from 3 weeks before to 2 weeks after. So your December baby could be born in November or January. Or you could be due in February and end up with a December baby.

You can skip if you want, but I think it is a ridiculous reason to skip a couple months. There are holidays every month, there will always be something going on that would be a reason to skip a month. A child's birthday will only get overlooked if you as the parent allow that to happen.

Right now, I would love an end of December baby. Extra tax deduction for this year with little OOP cost, plus I accrue all my vacation and sick leave January 1, so I don't need to roll over much, just enough to get me to year end.

 

 

I hadn't thought of that, but that's a REALLY good point. There are some things you just can't plan. 

awylie4408

melkel559:

Jessa1807:

I will be the odd one out.  Yes, I will avoid for the cycle that would give us a near Christmas baby.  DS was born Dec. 18th, and we have a nephew that is Dec. 15th.

We will be infinitely grateful for a baby whenever it happens, but we will TTA that cycle if it comes to that. 

Was starting to feel like the only one thinking like this! Like I said, of course I want a baby too. I am not even so much worried about the giving birth around the holidays part. That's a one-time thing. I feel more like it would be no fun for the child. Every year you share your birthday with Christmas? I think birthdays are one of the things that make each of us feel special & it would stink for it to be overshadowed by the holidays especially since people are so crazy busy then. DH agrees with most of the above. Of course the child would be happy that they were born, but I bet they'd be even happier if it were any other month & people were actually free to celebrate with them

 

i can understand both sides.  yes I want a baby too!  BUT i also dont want to spend the holidays in a hospital with my OTHER children at home.  I want to spend christmas with my children, ALL my children.  But a baby is a miracle and will decide on its own time when it wants to be due or born.  So I dont think I will avoid trying to make a baby, but I certainly wouldnt be completely bummed if it didnt happen this particular cycle.   I was talking about this the other day with a friend who knows we are TTC.  **IF** we get pregrant this cycle, the baby will be due around the first week of November.  So for me, this means, it will be a scheduled c-section,  and will probably be the last week of October.  This made me a little sad to think that I might be in the hospital while my other children are going trick-or-treating.  And while this is just not THAT big of a deal, I also dont want to miss it.  There are hard decisions to make when you have to take other children into consideration.  I guess if this was my first baby TTC then I wouldnt care about the holidays getting in the way.

BellaLux

Nope! I'll take a BFP whenever I can get one:-)! And this is coming from someone who's birthday is 12.20.

LiteraryFoodie

BLuvsE:

My birthday is Jan 3 ... and frankly it sucked as a kid to have it right after Christmas/New Year, but now it's kind of cool because I'm guaranteed to see family/friends close to my birthday which makes it easier to get everyone together for dinner or something. And New Years Eve/Birthday Parties are super fun!

We are officially TTC starting in March so...if we get pregnant on the first try that's a Christmas baby. If that happens I'll always make sure to make birthdays extra special. I know sometimes my mom let me celebrate mine late so my friends could come (Jan 3 was hard because we were usually still on Christmas break and people were travelling).

This was me too (Jan 3), and I was always jealous of people who had birthdays during other times of the year because they could have more exciting birthday parties. In the Northeast, the weather is always cold and icky on Jan 3rd, school is usually out, or it's the first day back after break so no one is really around to celebrate. Sometimes it felt lonely, and often people forgot about it :-(

Especially as I got older (into college/high school) my birthday really started to get lumped in with Christmas and no one wanted to celebrate it anymore which made me feel really crummy. I probably should have spoken up more, but I felt selfish doing so. I don't think I would specifically TTA during a cycle to avoid a holiday; however, because of the way people have treated my birthday it's really important to me to make each of my future children's birthdays unique and special celebrations and to celebrate them on the actual day. 

melkel559

Thanks for your perspective! I appreciate and certainly understand everyone else's responses as well...but this is more along the lines of what I was fearing. It is a good point though, as one of the ladies mentioned, that the baby could be early or late. Dec-Jan is really not what we wanted because we live up north as well. But, I am torn! I don't want to quit trying. We'll see...

peppermint=kisses

No not at my age!! I have two boys born in July & August and always said I "like" Summer babies but at this point I'll be happy with any month.

CiderWench

Not me. I'm hoping for a November/December baby. Ultimate holiday gift, IMO.

sugarhoneylove

brookelynpaisley:

Ah lovey. It's the most wonderful time of the year, when people stress over babies that don't exist yet having birthdays too close to Christmas.

 

As for me, not at all.

RequiresExalted

CatahoulaMom:

Is it that time of year again that this question starts coming up once a week?

Unfortunately. 

peafowl88

I would just like a baby, doesn't matter when....

MiniSteph

My birthday is three days before Christmas. I don't remember it being too bad growing up, my parents did a great job of making sure we celebrated my b-day separate from Christmas. My MIL celebrates my birthday in July.

Nope, I will take a BFP any time, no matter when the due date will be.

cynthiar2003

No. Because of my control-freak personality, I have determined that if we actually conceive on our first try in March (which will totally happen, right?), the EDD would be around November 30. If no-go in March - we will go for it again in April.

1. I went from "eh" about having a baby to "I need a baby NOW" in about 2 seconds. I have no patience and will take it whenever!

2. DH and I were actually hoping we could have maternity leave around then.

 So, again, no. 

kiek2009

Same as everybody else. H*ll no! I'm a December baby and I hated being a December baby. But if I have a kid in December, he or she is just going to have to suck it up. I just want a little one. The sooner, the better. 

budgirl007

No way! DS was a summer baby and we were trying for another one but it didn't happen! October is a very busy month for us: anniversary, DH bday, my dad and 3 brothers bday, but we want a baby whenever we are blessed with one so we will continue to try until we get that BFP!!

megs2011

I thought about it but knowing how hard it can be I quickly tossed that thought out the window. My BIL's bday is Dec 27th and his bday and Christmas were always kept separate. I agree with PPs... I'll take a baby any time of the year.

kelly321

With DD we started TTC in May to avoid a holiday baby. The lesson I learned from her is 1) if you're using effective birth control, you can time the earliest you'll get pregnant, but that's about it as far as timing goes, and 2) even if you do get a baby that you think is coming at a great time, it could ruin all those confetti-plans and come prematurely anyway. DD was "only" 6 weeks premature, but an acquaintance was due in Feb and had her twins at 23w2d in November (they're doing fine but still in the NICU). Really - you can't plan babies unless you're extremely lucky. And even then - you didn't plan it and then follow through with the plan like you're making a scrapbook. You got lucky.

The only thing that worries me now about a winter baby is RSV and other viruses if I have another premature birth. If it's healthy and full term, it can come on Dec 25th for all I care.

guesswhat?

As many other ladies have said we definitely won't be avoiding a holiday baby.  DH's bday is Dec 30 and mine is Dec 28 so what's one more birthday added to the mix right?  We just want a healthy baby to bring home.

ktdid804

Definitely not putting anything on hold!  As PP have said, I just want a baby, no matter what the EDD!

OneHotMama89

Nope. Granted, I don't really want my child to have a birthday that falls on Christmas, New Year's, etc but if that's the way it happens the kid is just going to have to suck it up. Haha.

iamcamsis

My birthday is 12 before christmas.. I have never had a problem growing up when it came to birthday and christmas being so close together.. I have a cousin who's bday is the day after christmas, a cousin who's bday is vday, a cousin who's bday is halloween.. None of us have issues when it comes to holidays and bday.. just treat the bday like any other day.. You know it will come 364 days before it happens again.. Its really not an issue.. Unless you make it one.. 

 

I dont care what time of year I have a baby.. I just want one.. or two.. Or who many decides to come..  

JMack827

Off bc, but the hubs and are trying to wait to avoid the holidays (and most of winter if possible) I have a November birthday and I always hated getting the "happy birthday/merry christmas" presents. Besides, it's a great motivator to get healthy before my pregnancy, since we're planning to start officially trying in June, I know that I have to get in better shape and start eating healthier before then. Doing okay so far, lost 6 lbs in January and started eating more fruits and veggies and we don't eat out hardly ever, compared with what we used to.

cdzcapok

Hi melkel559- I realize this response is a bit late, but I wanted to tell you that I was a Christmas baby and I never had any issues with it.  In fact, I think it is great because nobody ever forgets my birthday.  Also, my family always made it a point to have a birthday cake and a special celebration for me.  It is nice to be surrounded by your family for your birthday   I am new to the terminology (CD 2??), but if it is not too late I say go for it! Good luck!!

illinigal

Absolutely not!  

jenncamp

Originally, yes I did not want a holiday baby.  However, I also worried about a summer baby.  I am a Kindergarten special education teacher and see that sometimes children who have summer birthdays are on the young side both academically and maturity.  But not always.  However, I will be happy to have a baby any time of the year and believe it will all work out in the end whether it is during the summer or holidays.