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Moving forward with known donor

hlkehlke member
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We asked a friend of ours to be a known donor at dinner three weeks ago or so.  Right before we left for Costa Rica, he let us know that he and his wife had read the stuff we gave them (the known donor chapter of the Brill book) and were comfortable moving forward.  As in, they have said yes! (for now, provided we don't run into any problems)

The next step is for him to go get some testing done (he has the list from the book), and for us all to sit down and iron out some logistics (who we're comfortable telling, how we're going to deal with the distance, etc.).

 So unless something changes, we have a donor.  My first feeling was "oh my god, this is really happening".  It has felt pretty abstract until now. 

Same sex couple TTC with donor sperm.  I am 35 and carrying.  Endometriosis and DOR.
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish

IVF #1 - antagonist.  Empty follicle syndrome.  1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist.  Ovulated early.  3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
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  • 2brides2brides member
    that is awesome!
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  • Fabi&NitaFabi&Nita
    YAY!!! Congrats to you both!! 
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  • LolaBelle515LolaBelle515 member
    Yahoo!  Many, many congratulations. We used a known donor and it's been a great process thus far.  Good luck!
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  • seattlekariseattlekari
    How exciting! Good luck as you work out the details!!!
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  • KershnicKershnic member
    Guess you picked the right dessert!!  Congrats and good luck figuring out the details!
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  • JazibelJazibel member

    How exciting :)   We used a known donor and couldn't be happier with the decision (for us).

    Good Luck!! Smile

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  • tdmklmtdmklm member
    Exciting! Congratulations!!!!
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  • ball.and.chainball.and.chain member
    The French Apple Cake never fails!  Congrats and good luck!
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  • TaylorandMelTaylorandMel member
    Glad to hear that things are moving in the direction you would like!  It seems like there's plenty of folks here that have known donors who can be of support-- that was a no way for us, so I don't really have any advice other than get an iron clad contract of what everyone wants so it doesn't all change in a couple years. I've heard way too many horror stories from people who didn't have it all done by a lawyer.
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  • hlkehlke member

    Thanks everyone.  I'm sure it was the apple cake that sealed the deal.

     C just started charting and she just started a new job, so I think we won't start TTC for at least another three months.  But our donor is only going to be driving distance until July, so we hope to get in some cycles by then.  After that we'll have to figure out either shipping or travel for insems.

    Same sex couple TTC with donor sperm.  I am 35 and carrying.  Endometriosis and DOR.
    AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish

    IVF #1 - antagonist.  Empty follicle syndrome.  1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
    IVF #2 - antagonist.  Ovulated early.  3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
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