REALLY DH?

telyn

Normally, my hubby is the most wonderful, caring guy in the world. But this morning he was asking about the classes at our hospital I've scheduled us for- birthing class and breastfeeding class- both of which he was totally on board for. I mentioned that after they are done, I might take another breastfeeding class at a birthing center that is more focused on breastfeeding to get more support and instruction.

"Is that really necessary? I mean, you'll know, right? Even if you don't know what to do, the baby will. It's instinct. Your breasts got big and visual for a reason."

I almost launched into a speil from me on how No, I do NOT inately KNOW how to feed a baby and that NO, babies don't just latch and go! But I took a breath and jst smiled and said "It's not that easy. Every other mother I've met says get as much instruction before hand as you can."

He still seem wary, but he sensed that this isn't a place he can really step in. He'll get after the first class. I hope.

Any other with S/O "not getting it?"

iluvmylab

He's a guy, I'm pretty sure this is normal. My dh knew nothing about it, but then again, why would he? I know many women who would think the same thing. 

kcl22

I think that's a very normal response from a man.  They don't know anything about it either way most times. 

Cookiecake7

Yep. DH never discouraged me from going but he mentioned several times that he didn't understand why I needed to go to a class. Then once DD was here he got it!

lauralovesbob

I made DH attend an 8 hour breastfeeding class with me, and we STILL had problems getting started. Breastfeeding is learned behavior, and without seeing examples around (because of mobility of families and "modesty"), how are we supposed to know how?

hewinked

When I first mentioned breastfeeding this child after formula feeding our other 2 children, he kind of made a face and said, "You're never gonna sleep."  Well, it's not like either of our kids slept through the night right away anyway!  Guys don't get it.  He's more on board right now.  He also knows that I'm a planner, so I think he understands why I've been researching breastfeeding and looking into classes for weeks now.  I don't want to go into this blindly.

Matt Dvorak

My DH did not attend class with me, and I knew that he wouldn't. However, he has taken my word for everything related to BFing. I think it helped that his male friends with babies told him about the struggles their wives had when they first started (I was seriously surprised by the conversations he was having over lunch at work!) and he understood that there might be some difficulty and even knew all of the rules for making BFing more successful from the start. He completely supports me with the decision to BF for the first year.

cottonlily84

At my BFing class (which wound up being after DD was born) we arrived first and every single guy would kinda linger in the hall, peeping around the doorway to see if another man was in the room LOL It's not a place they are comfortable, no matter how supportive they will be with you at home.  I mean, they pass around fake boobies for you to feel on...you should have seen all the red faces. 

And you do need all the info you can get beforehand.  And after you have the baby you probably still won't know what the hell you are doing!  All baby/mama combos are different and you can't ever tell how it's going to work out.

vanessa11411

I decided not to take a BF class this time around. I took the class with DD and I didn't get much out of it. BF didn't work out for us since she wouldn't latch on.

This time, I chose to read about it and get as much info as possible. LO is almost 3 months and BFing like a champ. Once I had LO, I made sure to see a LC before I left and everything has been good.

jiffy-pop

Yeah, once DD got here, we BOTH understood how hard breastfeeding was. And I was very glad I did my research and went to the breastfeeding class before having her.

BeetleLinz1125

kcl22:

I think that's a very normal response from a man.  They don't know anything about it either way most times. 

This...but I would change it to "They don't know anything" lol.

I wish I would have taken a BFing class.  DH talked me out of it. 

Seriously, if you want the support and preperation, go for it.  It won't hurt anything to go!

MyaMaternity

He is a guy.  He isn't the one breastfeeding.  Sometimes it can be a very easy thing and you and the baby just know what to do.  Other times it can be very difficult and having extra instruction and guidance can help.  Just do the extra classes.  

blu-eyedwife

Mine thought he was a breastfeeding pro after the class.  He kept arguing with me about which pump I should get.  And in the hospital he kept trying to show me how I was "doing it wrong" even though all the nurses and LCs said we were doing great.