Can this end up backfiring on me?

ChunkyMunkey

So STBXH has been transferred to a workhouse (jail) and will serve out the remainder of his time there. His release is scheduled for March 3rd. In my OFP hearing they COed me to bring Roman to visit his dad supervised by ex's grandma at least once per month until his release. Roman has yet to see his father (he was transferred on the 17th) due to the fact his supervisors were playing games by not calling me back nor answering my calls or even showing up at the jail.

Then I finally reached STBXH's grandmother yesterday who is the designated supervisor and she told me that my ex does NOT want Roman to come visit him while he is in jail. I can totally understand why as my ex used to see his own father in jail and doesn't want his child going through that. So I told her that that was fine with me and if he changed his mind to call me and I will meet her there with Rome.

I did document the phone call and wrote down what she said but I am wondering if this can be used against me after he gets out of jail. He has been known to lie about events in his case and I don't want him to claim that I refused to bring Roman to see him. His grandma is sort of a twisted woman as well and would back him up most likely. I can retrieve the phone records obviously to show the constant phone calls I made on visiting day that went unanswered by both ex's g-ma and his best friend.

So, what do you think?

alwaysbreathe

Can you have the gma write a statement about Ex's request to not be seen while in jail?  I could see it going either way depending on who the judge is.

ChunkyMunkey

*sigh* That's the issue. His grandma knows squat about technology and refuses to see me so getting a hand written statement or email from her is impossible. She can't stand me so I doubt she would do anything to help me.

I also can't get a direct statement from him as he is not allowed to have ANY communication with me in any way, not even 3rd party.

I suppose maybe they could listen to that particular phone call as they record all calls in the jail? Part of me really doubts he would take it THAT far but he is unpredictable. I will look into the whole recording the phone call thing and see about reaching her again. 

sweetie0228

Can you ask your lawyer  to set up a conference call and you and the grandmom confirm the refusal of visitation in jail in front of the lawyer and possibly a court stenographer to have the affidavit.

scout426

Send the same letter you would send email as a certified letter.  That way she has to sign for it proving she got the letter.  In the letter state that per the conversation x has decided not to use his visitation and that if the following was not true to either email you or send notice via cert. mail with in __ time frame.  She can play the old lady card all she wants but certified mail has been around long enough to understand how it works.  Good Luck but please cover your tracks bc it looks like they are trying to pull one over on you.   

ChunkyMunkey

scout426:

Send the same letter you would send email as a certified letter.  That way she has to sign for it proving she got the letter.  In the letter state that per the conversation x has decided not to use his visitation and that if the following was not true to either email you or send notice via cert. mail with in __ time frame.  She can play the old lady card all she wants but certified mail has been around long enough to understand how it works.  Good Luck but please cover your tracks bc it looks like they are trying to pull one over on you.   

That is a fantastic idea since she is so hard to get a hold of even by phone. I will get this typed up and sent out immediately. Do you have any suggestions on a good time frame to give? My divorce was just sent into default last week and I should be getting a hearing date shortly. I'm thinking 14 days?