Lo turns 1 two weeks from today! We are still nursing and i plan to continue for a while. I'm not sure i want to do complete child-led weaning but i plan to take it day by day and see how we are both feeling about it. Right now, LO is nursing 6-8 times in a 24 hour period (morning, before nap, before lunch, before nap, before dinner, bed, and 1x/night). I offer a lot because i've always had a fear of early weaning and always nurse right before offering solids. I'm can't remember the last time i really waited until he "demanded" to nurse.
I think that after he turns one i would like to gradually cut back to morning, nap, nap, bed, & 1x/night. I don't think i have a problem nursing other times if he is sick, hurt, stressed, etc. I fear that if i wait until he asks he will stop nursing completely because he's so busy and dis tractable. Here are my general questions...
1. Is 4-5x/day a "reasonable" amount to nurse a 1 year old?
2. What is the best way to gently get there without having a negative impact on either of us or our nursing relationship?
3. Everyone is telling me that if i don't wean him now it will be "impossible". I know that toddlers will self-wean usually sometime after 2 years old. If i miss this window right now, but i don't want to wait to self wean, am i going to be creating more harm to him later if i do mother led weaning closer to 18 months?
4. Are these mixed emotions about nursing/weaning common? How do you deal with them?
Sorry for the long post. Besides my LLL group i don't really know any other BF moms and my extended family thinks nursing past 1 year is "disgusting".