WTF does Anderson = Andy?

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I have always been against nns.  Not for othe peoples kids. I think nns are fine just don't want my kids to go by one unless they choose to. Not because thats is what they have been called since birth.   We do call Kaydance Kay Kay when we play around And when she was a baby I called her baby Kay a lot when holding her or trying to calm her etc.  Same thing with Kennedy. We call her Kenny when playing around the house and she was Kenny baby/girl in the same way Kaydance was baby Kay. Anytime out of the house it has always been their full name or when we call for them.  

My grandmother has shared our boy name (top choice as of now.  Could change) with her sister a few friends and church ladies. They have all asked her if we will be calling him Andy.   Um no. If we name him Anderson that is what we wil call him. I we wanted to call him Andy we would name him Andy.

Ugh!  I havent really shared the name with anyone other than my close family and mil. She started listing off boy names and also asked if he would go by Andy.  

 Is this people's way of saying they don't like the name Anderson?  Or are people son caught up in giving nns to every name possible?  

We did t have this before because Landon and Kennedy really can't be given a nn and no one really asked about Kay for Kaydance.

 

kellyalvey

Anderson is adorable and I can't understand where Andy comes from either.  If you chose to name him Anderson and call him Anderson then I would think everyone follow suit with the name.

ames71

I think it's a legitimate question. Many Andrews go by Andy, so it's a fairly natural leap that an Anderson might do the same.

Also, they were just asking, not insisting. Just say, "no, we don't plan on using a nickname for Anderson." You're over-thinking it.

jelina

I don't know these people but they're probably just curious. I think that's a fair question for them to ask. I would just say "no" I want to call him Anderson and hopefully they'll leave it alone.

I asked my SIL the same thing when she named DD Lillian. Are you going to call her Lily? She wasn't defensive she just answered yes or no. I wasn't trying to be rude or insinuate anything by my question.

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I know I'm just being hormonal.  Lol. I just can't stand how people always assume you will use a nn.  It will probably get worse too because we plan to use Jarrett as a mn. I will probably be asked if we are going to call him Andy or AJ.   I will have tobaay nope just Anderson a million times. My mil did say she would call him AJ.  Ugh!  I told her we aren't setting the name in stone and don't even know if it's a boy and that AJ is not his name if we do go with Anderson Jarrett. 

 

AwBeth

ames17:

I think it's a legitimate question. Many Andrews go by Andy, so it's a fairly natural leap that an Anderson might do the same.

Also, they were just asking, not insisting. Just say, "no, we don't plan on using a nickname for Anderson." You're over-thinking it.

This.  I don't think they are criticizing your choice, just asking a natural question.  If you've shortened Kaydence to Kay on a couple occassions, it might make sense if you did that with other children.  And to the pp who said, "Anderson is adorable and I can't understand where Andy comes from either." -- Really??  Because Anderson starts with And, just like Andrew - it's a pretty natural nickname. 

scoutkate

ames17:

I think it's a legitimate question. Many Andrews go by Andy, so it's a fairly natural leap that an Anderson might do the same.

Also, they were just asking, not insisting. Just say, "no, we don't plan on using a nickname for Anderson." You're over-thinking it.

This.  The one Anderson I know goes by Andy.

And they may well be wondering where you're getting Anderson from if it's not a family name.  Is it?

salt78

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They have all asked her if we will be calling him Andy.   Um no. If we name him Anderson that is what we wil call him. I we wanted to call him Andy we would name him Andy.

Call me crazy, but I think this is a perfectly legit question and I don't think that it has anything to do with people not liking the name. Andy seems like a very natural nickname for Anderson.

MrsMandaK

I have a nephew, Andersen!

 My sister got the same thing from people after he was born. People are dumb with their thoughtless comments!

MrsMandaK

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I know I'm just being hormonal.  Lol. I just can't stand how people always assume you will use a nn.  It will probably get worse too because we plan to use Jarrett as a mn. I will probably be asked if we are going to call him Andy or AJ.   I will have tobaay nope just Anderson a million times. My mil did say she would call him AJ.  Ugh!  I told her we aren't setting the name in stone and don't even know if it's a boy and that AJ is not his name if we do go with Anderson Jarrett. 

 

I totally get it! I know it's a 'legitimate' question, but it's still nosey and becomes annoying after a while. People would as me if I was going to call my Charlotte "Char" or "Charlie" all.the.time.  No! Her name is Charlotte. If I wanted to call her Char or Charlie, that's what I'd have named her!

ames71

MrsMandaK:

I have a nephew, Andersen!

 My sister got the same thing from people after he was born. People are dumb with their thoughtless comments!

salt78

MrsMandaK:

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I know I'm just being hormonal.  Lol. I just can't stand how people always assume you will use a nn.  It will probably get worse too because we plan to use Jarrett as a mn. I will probably be asked if we are going to call him Andy or AJ.   I will have tobaay nope just Anderson a million times. My mil did say she would call him AJ.  Ugh!  I told her we aren't setting the name in stone and don't even know if it's a boy and that AJ is not his name if we do go with Anderson Jarrett. 

 

I totally get it! I know it's a 'legitimate' question, but it's still nosey and becomes annoying after a while. People would as me if I was going to call my Charlotte "Char" or "Charlie" all.the.time.  No! Her name is Charlotte. If I wanted to call her Char or Charlie, that's what I'd have named her!

You get annoyed by trivial things.

We are going to call my daughter Betty, but her name is Elizabeth. Lots of people do have nicknames even if your daughter doesn't. I don't think people are "dumb" or "thoughtless" just for asking you about it.

CiderWench

It sounds, to me, like the people around you are genuinely interested in your pregnancy and your baby. I just don't get why naming children makes women so sensitive and defensive.

GirlWithTheMostCake

Andy is the legitimate nickname for Anderson. I don't think people are being thoughtless in asking if it would be your nickname. It's a real question. Not to be a  bubble burster, but it is very very likely that he will be called Andy. Perhaps not in your household, but someone...somewhere (a friend of his) may start it and you can't really control that past a young age.

MrsMandaK

salt78:

MrsMandaK:

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I know I'm just being hormonal.  Lol. I just can't stand how people always assume you will use a nn.  It will probably get worse too because we plan to use Jarrett as a mn. I will probably be asked if we are going to call him Andy or AJ.   I will have tobaay nope just Anderson a million times. My mil did say she would call him AJ.  Ugh!  I told her we aren't setting the name in stone and don't even know if it's a boy and that AJ is not his name if we do go with Anderson Jarrett. 

 

I totally get it! I know it's a 'legitimate' question, but it's still nosey and becomes annoying after a while. People would as me if I was going to call my Charlotte "Char" or "Charlie" all.the.time.  No! Her name is Charlotte. If I wanted to call her Char or Charlie, that's what I'd have named her!

You get annoyed by trivial things.

We are going to call my daughter Betty, but her name is Elizabeth. Lots of people do have nicknames even if your daughter doesn't. I don't think people are "dumb" or "thoughtless" just for asking you about it.

Nah, not really. It's kinda like when you're 9 months pregnant and you get asked the same questions over and over. "When are you due?" "How many children do you have?" "Is it a boy or girl?" Etc. Of course, people are just being interested but come on...you have to admit it gets a teensy bit annoying after a while. No?

MrsMandaK

ames17:

MrsMandaK:

I have a nephew, Andersen!

 My sister got the same thing from people after he was born. People are dumb with their thoughtless comments!

couliegirl

ames17:

MrsMandaK:

I have a nephew, Andersen!

 My sister got the same thing from people after he was born. People are dumb with their thoughtless comments!

Double That would be like getting all butt hurt when people ask if you are going to call baby Robert, Bob, Bobby or Rob. I have some cousins that are like you, if you call their kid with a 15 syllable name something shorter, the flip the eff out. Even if you don't give him a nn, his school friends will.

salt78

MrsMandaK:

salt78:

MrsMandaK:

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I know I'm just being hormonal.  Lol. I just can't stand how people always assume you will use a nn.  It will probably get worse too because we plan to use Jarrett as a mn. I will probably be asked if we are going to call him Andy or AJ.   I will have tobaay nope just Anderson a million times. My mil did say she would call him AJ.  Ugh!  I told her we aren't setting the name in stone and don't even know if it's a boy and that AJ is not his name if we do go with Anderson Jarrett. 

 

I totally get it! I know it's a 'legitimate' question, but it's still nosey and becomes annoying after a while. People would as me if I was going to call my Charlotte "Char" or "Charlie" all.the.time.  No! Her name is Charlotte. If I wanted to call her Char or Charlie, that's what I'd have named her!

You get annoyed by trivial things.

We are going to call my daughter Betty, but her name is Elizabeth. Lots of people do have nicknames even if your daughter doesn't. I don't think people are "dumb" or "thoughtless" just for asking you about it.

Nah, not really. It's kinda like when you're 9 months pregnant and you get asked the same questions over and over. "When are you due?" "How many children do you have?" "Is it a boy or girl?" Etc. Of course, people are just being interested but come on...you have to admit it gets a teensy bit annoying after a while. No?

Not really no. I think it's nice when people are interested in my pregnancy. Maybe it's just me.

MrsMandaK

couliegirl:

ames17:

MrsMandaK:

I have a nephew, Andersen!

 My sister got the same thing from people after he was born. People are dumb with their thoughtless comments!

Double That would be like getting all butt hurt when people ask if you are going to call baby Robert, Bob, Bobby or Rob. I have some cousins that are like you, if you call their kid with a 15 syllable name something shorter, the flip the eff out. Even if you don't give him a nn, his school friends will.

Well, double to you. For goodness sake! I'm just letting the poor poster know that I get where she's coming from. I didn't say that I flip out when people try to shorten a kid's name, just that it *can* get annoying to be asked about it over and over again. Apparently...I am in the minority! Ha! And that's ok with me. We all have our quirks, right?

SweetHurricane

All of you are assuming that family will drop the discussion once LO is born. I have a family member who's been asking about a nn for DD (Adrianna) since I was pregnant. DD is now one and they STILL ask about it. It has gotten to be extremely annoying. We named her Adrianna, that is what she will be called. Not "Add", not "Anna", not anything else. If her friends give her a nn based on her personality, then so be it, but I do not intend on calling her something other than her name.

526SadieSadie

ames17:

I think it's a legitimate question. Many Andrews go by Andy, so it's a fairly natural leap that an Anderson might do the same.

Also, they were just asking, not insisting. Just say, "no, we don't plan on using a nickname for Anderson." You're over-thinking it.

Exactly this. 

Mahon Baby

If we have a boy again we plan on naming him Anderson and calling him Andy.  It's not like they're asking you if you plan on calling him Chuck...something totally off base!   Andy is a nn for Anderson and, like it or not, chances are someone at some point in his life WILL call him Andy!  Just a heads up......

 

 

alliejo725

You're totally overanalyzing this.

Anderson is a long name. Long names are given to nicknames. Andy is a natural jump from Anderson.

I'm sorry if this is news to you.

Cissi64

I personally always ask  about names/ NN because I got chewed out once by a Great-grandmother.  She announced that her GGD was  named Morgan Brooke (  I don't like the "flow" of it but that is another story).  I asked when she was going to see little Morgan and she flipped out and said 'They are calling her Brooke!"  Like I was supposed to be psychic and know that already.  I ask so I can call the chidl by the name the parents intend to use os they won't be annoyed if I use the "wrong": one.

femmepink

I like the name Anderson, too, but the reality is that people will call him Andy and that was enough for me to cross it off my list.

People just like to give nn's. There's not much more to it.

sweetpea2003

Just call him Anderson and correct people who call him Andy.  They'll get it .

Honestly, I adore the name Anderson but would shy away from it because of the natural nn "Andy".  I have a really bad connontation to Andy and having my child called that isn't an option.  So I will likely stay away from it.

 

MidwestGidget

alliejo725:

You're totally overanalyzing this.

Anderson is a long name. Long names are given to nicknames. Andy is a natural jump from Anderson.

I'm sorry if this is news to you.

This. If your kid's name is longer than 2 syllables, it will get shortened by people. You can only call him by his full name, but after that, it's out of your control. Heck, he may even decide he wants to be Andy when he's older.

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I know people give nns as they get older and fine with that as long as dc doesn't care. My name is Fawntane and as a kid would not allow people to shorten it to Fawn. While he is a baby and until he is in school I can control it by always calling him Anderson. I think it is rude for someone to call a person a shortened version or nn if they are always introduced and go by the full name.  If he wants to go by Andy that is totally different. It should be up to him.  I used to get really upset that people kept cutting my name short. Lol. Then I started high school and Fawn sounded more grown up.  Lol. I was 12. There is nothing wrong with the name Andy. I like it but line Anderson better and until my child says "call me Andy" he will be Anderson. People are lazy if they can't be bother saying a persons full name if that is what they go by.  Ex.  I work with a lady who's name is Elizabeth. I'm not going to start calling her Liz Lizzie or Beth because I want to.  It's rude and she goes by Elizabeth because that is what she wants.

PhilsWife07

My son is Andrew and we just call him Andrew. Sometimes his Great Grandpa calls him Andy. I don't get my panties in a bunch over it and I recommend you don't either.

And it's not like the leap from Anderson to Andy is all that big... it's not like she's calling him Bobby or something. Relax.

PhilsWife07

ames17:

MrsMandaK:

I have a nephew, Andersen!

 My sister got the same thing from people after he was born. People are dumb with their thoughtless comments!

Ditto. If asking if he's going to be called Andy is "thoughtless," I'd love to visit the world of puppies and rainbows you inhabit.

ilovemygirls

LOVE Anderson.  My DD has a little buddy named Anderson- and he is called that.  I think part of it is how you present it- and correcting people if they do refer to him as Andy.  Kind of like my friend Nicole- she's never been a Nicki and never will be.  Great name- and I've been around enough to know you would be honoring your brother with his mn and that is awesome

jandb2011

When I named my son Wesley, people always asked if I was gonna call him Wes.  I would just say, "no" or "I don't like Wes".  They got it and no one was offended or anything.  What did suprise me a couple times though, was when someone would then ask if I was gonna call him Lee, then.  Since I didn't like Wes.  I gave the same answer.

Now I don't even have to say anything to anyone.  My son will correct them all on his own.  They ask his name.  He says Wesley.  They proceed to call him Wes and he immediately says (usually with a raised voice), "my name is Wesley!"  I just smile. 

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jandb2011:

When I named my son Wesley, people always asked if I was gonna call him Wes.  I would just say, "no" or "I don't like Wes".  They got it and no one was offended or anything.  What did suprise me a couple times though, was when someone would then ask if I was gonna call him Lee, then.  Since I didn't like Wes.  I gave the same answer.

Now I don't even have to say anything to anyone.  My son will correct them all on his own.  They ask his name.  He says Wesley.  They proceed to call him Wes and he immediately says (usually with a raised voice), "my name is Wesley!"  I just smile. 

This is exactly my point. The child says I'm Wesley. Wtf would you then call him something else?  Yeah it is part of his name but he said his name is Wesley which means that is what he wants you to call him.    

BlindysWife

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I know people give nns as they get older and fine with that as long as dc doesn't care. My name is Fawntane and as a kid would not allow people to shorten it to Fawn. While he is a baby and until he is in school I can control it by always calling him Anderson. I think it is rude for someone to call a person a shortened version or nn if they are always introduced and go by the full name.  If he wants to go by Andy that is totally different. It should be up to him.  I used to get really upset that people kept cutting my name short. Lol. Then I started high school and Fawn sounded more grown up.  Lol. I was 12. There is nothing wrong with the name Andy. I like it but line Anderson better and until my child says "call me Andy" he will be Anderson. People are lazy if they can't be bother saying a persons full name if that is what they go by.  Ex.  I work with a lady who's name is Elizabeth. I'm not going to start calling her Liz Lizzie or Beth because I want to.  It's rude and she goes by Elizabeth because that is what she wants.

This is different than what the lady asked. It would be one one thing if she said "oh, little Andy, that's cute." or "Anderson, I love the name Andy, so that's what I'm going to call him." She only asked if the name would be shortened. Which is a fair question.

salt78

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jandb2011:

When I named my son Wesley, people always asked if I was gonna call him Wes.  I would just say, "no" or "I don't like Wes".  They got it and no one was offended or anything.  What did suprise me a couple times though, was when someone would then ask if I was gonna call him Lee, then.  Since I didn't like Wes.  I gave the same answer.

Now I don't even have to say anything to anyone.  My son will correct them all on his own.  They ask his name.  He says Wesley.  They proceed to call him Wes and he immediately says (usually with a raised voice), "my name is Wesley!"  I just smile. 

This is exactly my point. The child says I'm Wesley. Wtf would you then call him something else?  Yeah it is part of his name but he said his name is Wesley which means that is what he wants you to call him.    

This situation is completely different from yours though. No one just randomly started calling your son Andy. They merely asked if you were going to use it as a nickname. I think you are having a big overreaction to an innocent question. 

mlf625

My son's name is Anderson.  It's a family surname and means a lot to us.  I will never call him Andy.  I fully realize in school, he may choose to go by Andy ... but he's Anderson at home.  DH is a Jonathan who has never been called Jon, so I don't think it's that unrealistic to expect to only use his full name.

ETA: that said, when we shared his name (after birth) with people who aren't related to me and don't get the significance, we were often asked "oh, will you call him Andy?"  A simple no sufficed.  I wouldn't sweat it too much. 

FrecklesInside

I think it is an ok question - yes, people want to give everyone a NN, but Andy could be a NN for Anderson and so they are curious.

If you want to call him Anderson, you would just call him that always in front of everyone and correct others if they call him Andy.