Tips/advice for H learning to put LO to bed

KMEss86

DS will be a year old next week and he only falls asleep by nursing. Its how he goes to bed every night and is bedtime is around 7pm. This has never been an issue for us until now, because Im taking classes at night. I have one until 8:30pm and in March im starting a class that ends at 10:30. So H needs to be able to put him to sleep! We were going to start trying now, by me feeding ds and not letting him fall asleep, and then H trying to rock him. Im not too hopeful! 

Any insight is appreciated! 

TiffanyBerry

your husband will have to find his own routine that works with LO.  DH and I have fairly different ways of putting DD down, and what works for one of us doesn't work for the other, even taking the nursing out of it.  LO will figure it out, though it may be a rough few nights the first few times you are out at class late.

C-Charm

TiffanyBerry:

your husband will have to find his own routine that works with LO.  DH and I have fairly different ways of putting DD down, and what works for one of us doesn't work for the other, even taking the nursing out of it.  LO will figure it out, though it may be a rough few nights the first few times you are out at class late.

This.  Everyone will probably be happier if you let them figure it out.  Any change can be tough in the beginning so don't expect it to go smoothly.  But they'll eventually find their own rhythm.  It's like when you first brought you LO home.  You probably wouldn't have wanted your MIL hanging close and telling you the best way to put your LO down.  You two were able to figure out what worked for you.

Good luck!

TiffanyBerry

DH and I do occasionally trade stories on what is working for us, but we have learned that she does NOT accept the same thing from each of us.

rubber_chicken

could you pump a bottle for your husband to give your son?

KMEss86

Thanks for the input. He never did take a bottle, so thats out. Im thinking is he has a full belly from food there might be hope.

MikesMom12345

DS usually falls asleep nursing when I am home, and I don't have a problem with it.  However, I have class one night a week until 9:30, and MIL is able to get him to fall asleep by rocking him and then holding him until I get home.  I always pump a bottle for him, sometimes he drinks it and sometimes he doesn't.  If your husband is willing to hold/rock him until you get home, maybe try that.  DS almost always wakes up when I put him in bed (we bed share, so he falls back asleep after nursing for about a minute), so MIL has never attempted to put him down after he initially falls asleep (around 8). 

DS always falls asleep in a back carry in my SSC, and in his car seat.  If rocking doesn't work for your DH, maybe he can try wearing your son until he falls asleep, or taking him for a drive around the neighborhood?  

C-Charm

TiffanyBerry:

DH and I do occasionally trade stories on what is working for us, but we have learned that she does NOT accept the same thing from each of us.

That's SO true.  Children develop then associate different routines for each caregiver.  I WISH DD would do the things at home that she does at daycare.