Guilty vent

stever

Tomorrow DS will be 2.5 years old and today was the very first time my dad looked after him. I had to go in for my NT scan and kids aren't allowed so Dad stepped up.

It was very nice of him considering it took us more than 2 hours. However, we got back and the first thing I noticed was an overwhelming smell of cigarette smoke. Now we were gone for a decent amount of time and I know Dad went outside to smoke, but it still gives me the heebie jeebies. 

I don't mean to sound like the super-judgy ex-smoker I am, but my dad has no idea how much the stench lingers. He's been gone for an hour and I can still smell it. 

Now I feel bad for complaining about my dad when he did me a favor

LauraLynneC

It's a totally fair vent.  We are currently not speaking to my inlaws (since before Thanksgiving) because of a disagreement over smoking (they practically chain smoke). 

2 hours doesn't seem like that long of time to go without a cigarette to keep your place from smelling like it.  It would be a courtesy in my eyes.

Please don't feel guilty.  Thank him profusely for helping out and then you'll have to figure out if/how to adress the smoking.  But at a later date.  He needs to know you're grateful for his help.  They're 2 seperate issues.

Good luck.

BrideBuddies

Next time suggest they go to the park and stay out of your house! 

I've never smoked, but I have friends who do. They have no idea how bad they smell after just one cig.

Strunella

Don't feel bad.  My mom smokes and it has been a big issue since DS has come into the picture.  Her gifts reek of smoke, and while I try to accept the gifts graciously, sometimes it's hard when they stink and I want to yell for the 1000th time, "STOP SMOKING!!!"   When DS was a newborn, I was torn between letting my mom snuggle with her first grandchild while making sure that she didn't smell of smoke.  It's definitely a frustrating predicament to be in.

newbee36

Uh I can feel your pain. I had to deal with my mom here for 4.5 months while she was visiting and yes, talking care of DS! The best we could do is was her not to smoke while with the baby, and have only 4ish cigarets/day. After every "session" washed her teeth. Of course she could smoke outside only. Luckily it was warm weather so the windows in the house were open day and night. It was still upsetting. And BB is right. While I was a smoker (12 years ~2 packs a day) I couldn't realize how bad it was.   

vanverth

My nephew lives with us (short verson of long story -  got in with the wrong crowd at his old high school).  When he comes back from visiting his dad and mom, he reaks of smoke.  I can smell him accross the room.