Should I be mad?

STLamy

So I have been seeing this guy for about a month now.  In the past couple of weeks we have been having a hard time getting together and I can't decide if I should be mad or not. 

Last Sunday he had to go see his family about 3 hours away and we had plans to meet up after he got back.  Well, it took a lot longer than he thought and he didn't get home until about 10pm.  I had told him that I would come to him (he lives about an hour away) because I didn't have to be anywhere Monday morning.  I guess he didn't believe me so when he didn't ask me to come I assumed he didn't want me to. 

Then he left on a work trip for the whole week and he couldn't really call me at all just a few texts here and there.  He got back last night, again a little later than he anticipated but still it was only about 7pm.  I asked him the day before if he wanted to get together or if he thought he would be too tired. (He was putting a lot of hours in...) He said he wanted to see me then last night he is too tired.  That's fine, I was dissapointed but just don't tell me you will come over when you know you will be tired and won't want to. 

He asked me to call him this morning so I did on my way to church.  He doesn't answer.  He called about 1pm which is fine because he knew I was in church.  Then he won't even confirm for tonight.  He said he doesn't want to let me down again.  (And it's not like he is doing anything today that would keep him from coming over) Making plans and canceling at the last minute is just as annoying as keeping me waiting around for a call.  I am almost tempted to make other plans....

On top of this we haven't had sex in about 2 weeks and mama has needs!  (Yes, I know we've only been dating a month and we did move kind of fast on that front.  Please don't judge, that's not the issue here.) So what do you think?  I know there are a lot of extenuating circumstances that were beyond his control but I can't help but be a little upset that I haven't gotten to see him....

BostonGayGal

Decide whether you are feeling mad? That makes no sense. Do you mean that you feel mad but that you aren't sure you are justified in being annoyed/mad/hurt? I can't imagine that you are too established as a couple (if at all) having dated only a month. But only sending a few texts while away and not making plans ahead of time suggests to me that he is not too interested in you.

I suggest being a little less available to him and seeing whether his behavior changes. Going over to his house an hour away at 10PM sounds desperate. 

ChunkyMunkey

I agree with everything BGG said. For only dating a month you honestly seem a bit clingy and guys turn away when they experience that. He's probably feeling overwhelmed and thus comes up with excuses to not see you.

Maybe I'm wrong but that's just the jist I get from this post. Make yourself unavailable and independent, he may come crawling to you.

And no sex for two whole weeks? Sounds rough. 

dufferoo

Hmm. It sounds like you want more than he wants to give, which doesn't make either of you at fault, but might not make for the best relationship?

PrincessFiona9

I agree with what everyone else has said

JellymanKelly

ChunkyMunkey:

And no sex for two whole weeks? Sounds rough. 

 

What is this "sex" you speak of? LOL

 

OP, it sounds like maybe you're more invested in the relationship than he is. 

CPA04

JellymanKelly:

ChunkyMunkey:

And no sex for two whole weeks? Sounds rough. 

What is this "sex" you speak of? LOL

No kidding.....2 weeks?  Give me a break.

achase123

Honestly, it sounds like he's just not that into it.  All of the excuses he's using (too tired, got home too late from seeing family, etc.) are just that: excuses.  Here's a good rule of thumb "if he likes you, you will know it, if he doesn't, you'll be confused".  Sounds like you are confused so therin lies your answer.  I'd break it off.  You deserve better than someone who doesn't make you a priority or really even a thought in their life.

mdotm0904

ChunkyMunkey:

I agree with everything BGG said. For only dating a month you honestly seem a bit clingy and guys turn away when they experience that. He's probably feeling overwhelmed and thus comes up with excuses to not see you.

Maybe I'm wrong but that's just the jist I get from this post. Make yourself unavailable and independent, he may come crawling to you.

And no sex for two whole weeks? Sounds rough. 

LOL all of this!

cmanmom

One of my favorite quotes "Never make someone a priority when they consider you an option"

 

DHYGchica3

CPA04:

JellymanKelly:

ChunkyMunkey:

And no sex for two whole weeks? Sounds rough. 

What is this "sex" you speak of? LOL

No kidding.....2 weeks?  Give me a break.

I'm going on 2 months, which in reality isn't THAT LONG. However, sex would be great about now... lol. Now my mind is in the gutter. Great, lol.

debs672

You know the book 'He's Just Not That Into You'? 

 Read it.  It may open your eyes...