I'm so depressed and so distanced from my H right now. He doesn't do Anything to help with DS. He has never once even given him a bath, rarely plays with him unless I ask him to and doesn't do anything to help me out. We started trying to have a baby because he wanted a baby (don't get me wrong I did eventually too but he was the initiator so we had our daughter and then tried again right away and got DS. I couldn't be happier I truly love being a mom more than anything but now my marriage completely sucks. If I ask him when he's home in between feedings to help me or to play with DS he just sticks him in a swing letting DS cry and says SHHH! I'm trying to watch TV! It's so sad If I take a shower I usually have to take DS in with my or at least have him in the hallway because DH won't even watch him then or he'll bring him to me crying while I'm in the shower.
I always thought that he would be such a good daddy but it pains me to say that he really isn't. This leaves me to do Everything morning noon and night, (I'm a SAHM), and DS eats every 2 hours so I have no life at all and I'm getting really depressed. I love all of the time that I spend with DS but I'm worrying that my marriage is crumbling and that DS isn't going to have the father figure that I thought he'd have. I don't want to end up divorced some day like my parents because it made for a really crappy life and I want so much more for DS. I guess there isn't much anyone can say or do but I had to get this off my chest since I can't really talk about it to anyone IRL for DH's sake I just don't want to go there right now and out him like that. I'm holding onto hope that things will change.
Maybe this is a common adjustment when a baby comes into the pic???