The preschool discipline and my dh

Mrs Manners

If you saw my pp, you know our current daycare engaged in completely unacceptable disciplinary acts with kids in ds's class. I won't post the details again because it's likely there will be a formal investigation. Anyway, I updated later last night that I had told dh that they didn't admit to doing those acts, but did admit to threatening the kids with them. To me, it's unacceptable either way and we need to move schools. He was of the opinion I was overreacting and blowing the whole thing out of proportion and he would support my choice but it wouldnt be his choice to move. 

 

Anyway, we have ds's birthday party today and some kids from the class are there and the topic comes up. Dh tells the story to our best friends (two couples) who live over be hour away and havent heard anything about it. They are shocked and outraged. So NOW he gets that it's serious and that's not something I'm just upset about. Also, all of the parents who were in attendance from the school were still upset about it and talking about looking for other schools. So I'm glad that he gets it now but I'm still really annoyed that he didn't reach that conclusion just based on what ds said as well as how I felt, without the input of all these other people.  

Rebekah1021

I think guys just think over react about everything. Glad to see that others turned his thinking around.

DandRAgain

OMG, MEN!  I think many men are the exact same way.  I can't tell you HOW many times I get SOOOOO frustrated when MY opinion or ideas are not good, right, whatever but as soon as he hears the EXACT same thing from a co-worker, his mother, or a friend....well THEN it was HIS idea all along!!!!

Well, the upside is he is on board now and you can move forward without it seeming like you aren't getting support.

Sorry for everything...I wish I had read the first post....I kinda got the jist from the second post.  But still wish I knew all  the who said what....but just from what I gathered, it sounds like a nasty situation and I feel for you....big time.  I feel for the kids even more.

nonoemily

Oh, I'm glad my guy isn't the only guy who does this....

If I try to tell J something about childcare/breastfeeding/whatever, he's immediately skeptical. If he hears it from someone else, he immediately takes it to heart.

IT    DRIVES    ME    CRAZY.

lsufan

Glad he understands how serious it is now, but I so understand the frustration with feeling like he needs other people to validate your opinion.  DH does this frequently.  He lost his job last May (I was a SAHM), and for 6 weeks I told him he needed to file for unemployment while we looked for jobs.  He kept saying he didn't want to do that, blah, blah, blah.  Couldn't give me a real reason.  I just think he was embarrassed that we needed the assistance.  We had dinner with some friends, and our friend (who was laid off the previous year and was out of work for 6 months) mentioned he had received unemployment.  All of a sudden, DH was all for it.  I was so annoyed that he dismissed my opinion, but when a friend said the same thing, it changed his mind.