Still trying to manipulate me, it's getting kinda funny.

ChunkyMunkey

So STBXH had his friend 'pass on a message' to me. Supposedly he said that he will do ANYTHING I ask of him if I don't go through with the divorce, he will never drink again and do any classes I require of him. He just doesn't want to lose the family he loves so much. Funny thing is that these are all promises he made me numerous times before and has never once kept. What makes this time any different?

Then at the end of the conversation his friend told me that he said that if I go through with the divorce completely then we are totally done forever and he will never come back to me and I will have lost him. I literally started laughing. Isn't that the entire point of a divorce? I left you because you are a psychotic abusive drunk and have no intention of coming back. Nice try at trying to manipulate me once again. Dumbshiit.

Just had to share, men can be so stupid.

cautionwillburneyes

Sometimes the things they say do kind of strike a person as funny.  After I served my crazy XH with divorce papers after he threatened, stalked, and burgalarized me he had the nerve to say to me, "People just don't fall out of love with me!".  I thought to myself...I only married you because I was young, pregnant and stupid..not for love.

CPA04

XH still does the same thing, but for him, I think it's the quest of domination that causes him to get his kicks.  Getting his XW back after everything that's happened would be the ultimate power trip.

Just this week he told me that if he won the lottery, he'd move back to where DS and I live and buy the house next to us.  WTF!?

He also said he hates the current situation and wish things were different.  "Read between the lines" to understand what he was saying he said.  He wants to spend time together, just him, me, and DS (for DS of course...) Give me a break.

(This was all at pickup this weekend.  I was literally pushing them out the door, saying "OK, DS, let's put your mitten and hat on, time to go bye-bye!".  I think XH would have stayed at my house as long as I would have let him.)

I don't respond to his antics.  I am now above the manipulation and see it for what it is, so I'm able to say without a doubt that I would never fall victim to his abuse again.

 

achase123

Two tactics in one shot.  I'm going to do x,y,z and never ever ever be a bad DH again.  BUUUUUTTTT just know that you best jump on this golden opportunity I'm so generously offering you now because if you do not, that door is going to be close 4EVA!  Buh bye, don't let that door hit you on the way out.