Friends IRL

weddedwife

Does anyone have any friends IRL who have also experienced a late loss? I'm curious if anyone actually knows someone who has been through this and if they have been helpful to you.

I guess I'm getting to know the ladies in my support group IRL. But we're not really "friends" yet, KWIM?

BeccaMarie

I have made loss-friends since Carter passed. But, looking at my friends that I had before Carter was born, I have one who has lost a child (son was born with a heart defect and lived about a month).

Carolee

My aunt had a 2nd tri loss, but she never talks about it, so other than her, none of my friends IRL have experienced this. In fact, out of my close circle of friends, I'm the only one who has ever experienced pregnancy loss. It makes me feel really alone sometimes. I'm fortunate to have some pretty supportive people in my life though, even though they haven't experienced loss, they've been there for me.

nuttycoconut

I have an IRL friend who has been through this with her first child about 2 and a half years ago. She now has a beautiful baby girl and is pregnant again. She came over when we first lost the twins and brought food a couple of times. She also bought me a journal and recommended a book. I haven't called her to talk about my feelings yet although she has said to call anytime. I guess I've been more comfortable opening up to people I don't know very well in support groups and on here.

LuckEinLuv

My mother in law lost a pregnancy when she was 5 and a half months.  Back then they didn't do any sort of testing so she doesn't know what happened.  You would think she would be more understanding of my loss, but I think she is still of the mindset that you don't talk about things like that.

frogs007

My cousin lost a baby at 20 weeks last summer.  I hadn't talked to her about it but when my boys were born (stillborn at 26 weeks) she came to the hospital and we talked about her little boy and my boys and we cried together.  It's made me feel a bond with her because out of everyone in my family she understands.  She held her dead baby just like I held mine and I know she's hurting just like I am.  I also had two of my professors tell me about their losses (I didn't know they lost babies until I lost mine) one was around 20 weeks and the other was later, the one that had a late loss gave me advice and said some really sweet things.  They both cried with me.  I guess more than anything it's just nice to know that SOMEONE understands and won't say something stupid.