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November 2011 Moms
beedawn
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-FFFC-
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Re: -FFFC-
I'll start...
I plan on leaving work early today and going to the mall.
Also, I have really been slacking with working out and my plans to eat healthier after the baby. I kind of don't feel bad though, until I look in the mirror.
We are supposed to get a massive snow storm here today and it started on my way into work this morning. I probably won't work past noon but really wanted to run some errands this afternoon.
1) I haven't worked a full 40 hour work week since I've been back
2) I don't always wash my hands after going to the restroom
3) I need to get a new dress for my H's christmas party tomorrow. I will probably leave the tags on and return it later cause I'll only wear it once.
So 2 days this week my DH has done some shopping after work. He has lost a ton of weight and defn. needs some new clothes..plus he works and im a stay at home mom so he deserves to treat himself a little. well then yesterday he texts me and tells me hes gotta stop home and then hes running to a friends house they were exchanging some electronic stuff who knows.. well i was kinda irritated because he had already been gone 2 of the other nights why couldnt he wait til the weekend or better yet why couldnt his friend come to our house knowing we have a family and he dont. I had already been with baby ALL day and took care of the boys. I also am the only one that gets up with LO at night. So when my hubby got home at 11 i was so tired. i handed him the baby and said im going to bed and your on baby duty tonight. Well he took her downstairs and i woke up at 5 and went down and got her so he could sleep the rest of the morning and when i went to wake him at 7:40 he was all pissed off.. But i really dont care. Yes he goes to work everyday but he gets time away i dont. I get up with baby through the night plus get up early in the morning to bring my oldest son to school and am up for the rest of the day with the other two. so im sorry if i wanted to sleep longer than 3 hours at a time for 1 night and that i wanted some time to myself is that a crime..
So this one is kind of long and more of an opinin. Last night on the CBS national news they ran a segment on a new law in SC that requires everyone on unemployment benefits to take any job that comes to them, equal to a least 90% of their previous earnings. After 5 months, said person on unemployment is required to take any job that is open, even if it is minimum wage. They had a lady on there who had been on unemployment benefits for a year (a whole freakin year!) who had previously earned $47k. She was b!tching that she would not take a minimum wage job because that would "get in the way of her job search for employment in her expertise". Really lady? Because you're job search has gone so swimmingly? You've been on unemployment for a whole MFing year and you think you are too good to work a minimum wage job? Get off your high horse, out of the governments pocket book and start serving some freaking fries! I have no time for that snobbery.
I'm glad I inspired some lurkers to come out of hiding with yesterdays OPINIONS thread, but I really question how many will stick around and actually start posting more.
1. I'm turning into a bumpaholic. I can't stop reading/posting/laughing. Hubbs thinks I'm nuts.
2. LO was super fussy last night and would only take 10 minute cap naps. He finally got into a deep sleep and I heard him have a blowout. I left it.
3. LO was supposed to have his 2 month shots today at 1:30 so I took the afternoon off. Pediatrian called, their office is closed d/t too much snowfall last night. I don't think I'm going to tell work.
I drink my hot coffee while holding LO. I know, shame on me. But she wants to be held ALL the time.
This isn't really flammable, but I wish TB had a droid app. I mostly lurk these days because I can do that on my phone while BFing, but it is so freakin difficult to post. I want to be less of a lurker and more of a poster, but I guess LO has other plans!
Baby Turtle - November 2014
I felt the exact same way with my 1st child.. then the 2nd i was 50/50 i didnt want to go back but i did and wow i was happy i went back to work i always said i could never be a stay at home mom.. with my 3rd.. i didnt want to go back i wanted to be a SAHM but some days i so want to back to work and be around adults and have a reason to get up and shower and get ready for the day.. most of my time i spend in my pjs.. i feel like blah most of the time but i think once summer hits and i can actuallly get out and do more i will feel better.. i also think going back to work totally helps with shedding some baby weight. good luck..
1) I've been working 8-4 instead of 9-5 since having the baby. Although my FI takes her to and from daycare, I told my work that I needed to switch my hours because I needed to pick up Charlie (that's def not true!) But the other "working" moms only work from 9:30-3:30 each day so I don't feel bad. At least I'm still working 9 hours!
2) There was a discussion this morning on the radio about open marriage. Here's my opinion, if you're going to have an open marriage you might as well label yourself a polygamist. I don't promote polygamy, but if you really want to cheat on your spouse may as well give it a title and call it a day. At least you would be honest about who you're sleeping with besides your husband or wife. Hell maybe TLC will make a show about you! Sister Wives #2!!!
1. I am currently on a conference call for work (I'm at home) and I'm bumpin'. It's been an hour and counting...
2. When this call is over, I have ZERO intention of doing any additional work for the day.
Sorry for the double post. Still trying to figure out how to bump on the iPad.
Exactly this. LO is snoozing and I should be cleaning, but am indulging in the humanity-killing "16 and Pregnant." DH asked me to clean the toilets today and the dust in the house is so thick you could plant tomatoes...ugh.
I could have written this except I only have the 1 LO. The last 2 nights DH has said that he would watch LO for me so I can do something else, anything else, but did he? No. He won't feed LO because he always makes him throw up. Then he can't bathe him by himself. So I fed him before handing him off to DH last night, at around 7. Then LO is crying because he wants somethign and we have no idea what it is, so DH puts him in his swing and says he's just going to let him go. So I get up, tell DH he's an a$$hole, pick up LO and he quiets right down. Then DH starts spouting some crap about "Can't I have 10 minutes for myself after work?" Umm, sorry babe, you get every evening to yourself after work, along with every night and every morning. And on top of that you go to your friend's house every other day from 6 pm - 11 pm. I haven't had 10 minutes to myself, aside from showers, in 2 months. Of course I didn't say any of that last bit but oh how I wanted to. But then again I guess I can't really complain. I only have the one kid so really all I do is sit on my ass on the computer all day with a baby in my lap. When he gets off work I'm so relieved to have him in the room with LO so he can tell me if he starts screaming so i can walk around a little, that cleaning house seems fun. I need a break but DH refuses to watch LO while I leave the house. He's worried something will happen and he won't know how to handle it I guess but it doesn't change the fact that I've had a baby glued to me for 2 months. I need a break.
Now for my confession... I don't like to drink. I like being drunk but I hate drinking and I always get hung over, but the last couple of weekends I've taken 1 night and got drunk, so drunk that i know I'll still be drunk in the morning when I wake up so DH has to stay up until midnight with LO, then wake up with him at 4 am, then again at 7 when he gets up for the day. Tonight is that night, and I think I'm going to start drinking in the early afternoon so i have more me time. Maybe around 3 or 4. I wish I didn't have to get drunk to get some rest but it is what it is.
I spent my maternity leave applying and interviewing for jobs and since I've been back to work all I do is look at job websites. I really, really just want out of here! I've only been back for 3 weeks and will have worked every weekend plus regular 8-5. I hate this place.
Also, and this one I feel guilty about, since I've been back to work, I only have time to actually nurse DD once or twice a day. The rest of the time she gets pumped milk because I work so much. I reiterate, I hate this place.
I am a bad mommy in the mornings. LO without fail wakes up at 6:30, then 8:30, then 9:30, then 10:00 ; then 10:30 and in decreasing increments until she decides she is done and ready to be up and moving.
I just can't seem to get in the swing of it and I end up just patting her and putting the binky back in every time she wakes up starting at 8:30. Then she goes back to sleep for a bit. I say that she's like a little alarm clock and her binky is how I snooze her to get 10 more minutes of sleep.
Here's something I've been thinking about confessing for a while, and this gives a nice segway.
DH and I have an open marriage. We don't consider it cheating because we never do it without one another's permission and usually, each other's presence. Lots of people fanasize about it, and we took the next step. We've had this relationship since before we got married and have been happily married for almost six years. It works for us.
FTR, no, our children don't and will never know, and I don't want a TLC show about it lol.
DH and I need to get LO transitioned to her crib. DH is all about it. I am dragging my feet. I am nervous to have her in there by herself at night. I know I need to do it and let it happen, but I just can't.
I have a bedroom that looks like it exploded with clean clothes piled all over the floor and my sheets haven't been changed for a month. I have no desire to do it.
I get jealous that DH gets to sleep at night while I BF the baby. I know he can't BF her, but I still get jealous because I'm tired.
I know I'm very lucky because all in all, LO is an easy baby...but when she is screaming and in one of her fussy fits, it takes all I have to deal with. I complain to my mom, who says that she just wishes I was happy - then I feel guilty - like I'm not enjoying LO as much as I should be.
Finally, DH and I still haven't done the deed. He's truly a trooper. I just have NO desire. And even if I did, I don't know what we would do with LO while we were doing it.
If you're a bad mommy, so am I! LO slept from 8:30-12:45 last night, ate, went back down at 1:15, woke up around 5:30 and DH went and changed his diaper. LO fell asleep during the diaper change, so we put him back down to sleep. He woke up again at 6:30, whined for a few minutes (literally 3), fell back asleep. I was starving, so I got up and ate. As soon as I sat down to eat, LO woke up screaming to be fed. DH got him up and sat with him until I was done eating.
My confession: I find it irresponsible when American Idol contestants say they quit their job to follow their dream of becoming a superstar. First of all, very few of the contestants actually hit super stardom (Carrie Underwood, Kelly Clarkson, Daughtry notwithstanding). To quit your job, especially in this economy, is completely irresponsible. It makes it even worse when the contestant has a family to support. Case in point, in the first night of auditions, there was a contestant who quit his job at a federal prison to audition for the show. His wife is 6.5 months pregnant. I told DH if he had done something that irresponsible, we would have some serious issues.
I suppose the second part of my confession should be that I watch American Idol religiously. I even have a blog about it.
DS1 goes commando all of the time...I jsut can't get the kid to wear underpants!!!!
Last night, we had friends over for dinner...I baked cupcakes for friend and his daughter's b-day.....I let DS2 have THREE cupcakes b/c he kept begging for them, and I was trying to have some ADULT conversation (like gold for SAHMs) so it was easier to just shut him up with cupcakes!!!!
And....I wonder where the get their love for sweets?? I find myself sneaking yummy food from them a lot in the afternoon.....our neighbor made these amazing cinnamon toast crunch cupcakes the other day, and I went to a secret location and ate it. It was the last one and I didn't want to share. I need my afternoon pick me up!!!!
Omg this is me i always make my hubby stop at the store on his way home to get me a hershey bar and i get up in the middle of the night to eat.. i also eat a whol box of swiss rolls or the little debbie brownies or cupcake things.. my hubby gets so mad. and then last night i made cinnimon rolls and i was mad it took him so long to get home so i ate the only 3 left.. all to myself so he didnt get any.. i know ill regret this someday but i just cant help it
DD threw up this morning (not just spit up like full on throw up coming out her nose and mouth.) and a little bit got on the living room floor and I didn't clean it up because I knew the dog would come along and eat it. Sure enough when I walked past less than 30 mins later it was gone.
I've been starting to plan my wedding and found the perfect place. They offer a small package that includes the basics to have a small reasonable wedding for under $5,000 but I really really want the all-inclusive bigger wedding that is $15,000. Hopefully, I can find something in the middle.
This. Plus we moved about a month ago so there are still boxes everywhere. I feel bad about not getting more done around the house while DH is gone at work. But DS sleeps longer when I hold him-I know I should put him down and try to get stuff done but then he only sleeps like 15 to 30 minutes and I enjoy the quiet. Plus I love the snuggles!
Wow! For real? Well, I have an open mind to whatever anyone chooses to do in their lives. I am pretty sure a girl I work with has the same kind of marriage. I also work with a few gays and a couple lesbians. (hair bizz, you know). Whatever floats your boat, I say!
Wow. Interesting. Can't say that I've ever known someone (IRL or on the web) with an open marriage...as far as I know, that is...
I generally use DS as an excuse to sit on my butt and do things like playing on the computer and crocheting and reading. I don't like to put him down though when he is asleep because he wakes right up 95% of the time.
My sink is also piled high and the floors need to be done desperately...
It's nice. But it does involve a great deal of trusting your SO. We have developed some 'rules' that we both think are appropriate and function freely within those limits. It helps keep things spicey lol.
Please share your rules/how this works. I'm dying to know.
My FFC- my brother and I have been "feuding" for years. Its sad and makes me cry. But I have to remind myself to stay strong and hold my ground. I know its family and you never know what could happen in life but I feel all his comments and actions are inexcusable. I avoid gatherings where unknown he'll be. Our family isn't big enough for me to attend and ignore. My nieces birthday is Monday She wants to go to dinner with the family. My brother has already RSVP'd yes so I'm strongly considering not going. FI absolutly will not go. I miss seeing his kids
Please please please tell me you "re-cleaned" it later!!!!
And that, my fellow bumpies, is how you do FFFC! No more of this "I ate too many potato chips" nonsense. Well done!
Ok, mine- I have 2 cats, and one has a tumor in his abdomen and is in liver failure. We're putting him down on Wednesday while DD is at preschool. My confession is that I really wish it was the other one.
Yes! I have been trying to think of a proper confession after reading this but everything pales in comparison!
Here's mine. I still have not sent thank you notes to some people from my shower. I was working on them in groups before I had DS - I did my Mom's side, my Dad's, DH's mom's side and then I never did his Dad's side
Lol. I did wipe it down once she was asleep I just didn't worry about trying to do it one handed while holding her and all that to get it cleaned up immediately.
I thought of another confession because I am sitting here feeling *kind of* bad about it.
DH called me at 4:30 to say he wouldn't be home from work til 7 (5:30 is normal). I made him feel super guilty even though I had just got home from picking DS up from my Mom's house after she watched him for 3 hours while I went shopping. DS went to sleep as soon as I got home and is still asleep. So I have had most of the day to myself but I still made DH think I was exhausted.
The rules are:
1) We ask each other's permission.
2) We have to both like or at least not dislike the extra person
3) We have to know the person at least a little, no one off the street. This way, there is less of a chance for drama later.
4) The other person has to agree to both of us being there and/or participating and understand that it's 'recreational' only. No long term commitments. If everyone agrees, we can repeat as desired, but if it's no fun for someone, then all bets are off.
5) Condoms are mandatory, we don't care what BCP you're on. And I've had the depo shot, but you can never be too safe. Plus STD's. But it's always been among friends, so that's never been an issue.