Does this sound pathetic?

maryhauth

Sorry this is gonna be a major vent. So I am not a single parent but currently my sis in law is while my brother is deployed. She is taking everyone for granted and rubs it in that she is a "single" parent. Which she is not my brother supports them financially and he calls or skypes at least once a day. She has a nanny that comes at least twice a week and her parents are their every weekend, every time I have gone there, there is a different babysitter. I know a lot of single parents but no one is this needy. She calls my husband to do her "fix it" projects, she even called him when the toilet was plugged! Recently she and my brother told my mom that since she hasn't been helping that much that my mom is not allowed to see her grandchildren. Excuse me but my mom lives 3 hrs away from them and works 60 hrs a week, when the heck is my mom supposed to drive 3 hrs to help her out. Not to mention that they are down in the area (10 miles away) every month visiting other relatives and they have never once stopped by to visit my parents. Now because I stuck up for my mom and said it's not her fault she doesn't have time to help her they disowned my husband and I as well. Any advice is welcome or do you think I'm out of proportion?

CFjo2010

If I step on toes here, I apologize up front...

It sounds to me like your SIL enjoys playing the victim.  Her "woe is me" behavior and constant need for help would annoy the crap out of anyone. You said she has a nanny that comes over twice a week and her parents are over there weekly to help as well, so what more does she really need?  How old is your niece/nephew?  Are there any health issues that cause extra strain?

It's terrible the way your mother is being treated.  Good riddance to your needy SIL.  One day, this will all iron out, and it will most likely be when your brother returns.  He probably isn't getting the full story from his wife and doesn't realize how demanding and unreasonable she is being.

I'm sorry you're dealing with all this.  I pray for your brother's safe and speedy return home.

 

TwinkieFiend

Don't worry, I'm sure she'll magically un-disown your husband when her toilet clogs again!

Cam1027

tifanico:

She is nuts and your brother is dumb to put up with this.

And for FFS! She is NOT a single mother.  

I would just stay out of it.  

Alllll of this. Especially the bolded.

Unpopular opinion maybe but having a  deloyed husband does not translate into being a single mom.

 I think you are better off "disowned" from her.