How would you approach this re: Christmas

mlm1128

I know that my brother and SIL are struggling to make ends meet.  I also know that my single bro helps them out alot, and also has very little spending money.  I told them last year to just buy for the kids, and don't worry about each other.  I don't think they are really in a position to do that, and would rather have them spend their money on their own kids.  My child needs nothing.  Do I make it like we are struggling too, so they don't feel bad? 

Zenya

I wouldn't lie.  I would just say that you'd like to keep christmas simple this year or something.  You can do that without it meaning that you are having financial problems, KWIM?

Brewster

Could you let the kids make each other something or do a book exchange?  Books are fairly inexpensive, so that way they feel like they are still giving something.  Or you could just flat out say no gifts this year.  For me, family time is enough of a gift.  I don't need anything either.

joseysbride

I would say, "I know money is tight for everyone this year, so why don't we all skip Christmas gifts and just use the holidays to spend time as a family?"  Or you could suggest a really small dollar amount, like $5-$10 (this could add up fast, though if there are a lot of kids), homemade gifts, or have all the kids draw names and set a spending limit so that each kid gets a gift to open.

mlm1128

Good ideas, thank you ladies!  I hate to think that people are putting themselves in a hole for a holiday.  Family time is so much more important to me!

Future Mrs. Hogan

I think a book exchange between the kids sounds great.