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JCGreene85
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long shot..thoughts and questions : )
JCGreene85
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My coordinator at work asked if I would be interested in being the manager of my department in our new store in Wilmington, NC. I am pretty excited for the opportunity and I have a lot of thinking to do. I have already talked to my Mom, and although it will require a lot of moving things around/selling the house/ moving/ finding a new DC provider ect she is on board with moving too. It would put us in between 2 of my brothers. One is in Savannah and one in DC. After about a year I could be up for a coordinator position since the # of NC stores is increasing. I would love to raise Wy in a small town. The fact that there is a beach nearby is an even better plus.
So... I have no intention of telling EX until I/if interview for this and get it. Problem is I would have to move within a month and until then I will be going back/forth to interview for my new team.
What would happen to our CO, ect? Would it stay the same? Could he stop me from moving? Would he still have to pay for transportation since he moved "first"? I think the fact that he refuses to pay CS and tries to blackmail me into keeping his job a "secret", AND he moved without notice to me might hurt his argument.
Sorry for all the questions. I am excited about this but don't want to say anything to my lawyer until I am sure this is an option.
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Re: long shot..thoughts and questions : )
I don't know about your state laws, but I would look it up or ask an attorney.
I thought about moving from MA to TX for a job, but the law in MA says even if he doesn't have legal custody of the child, he has the right to deny me from leaving the state with my son. Some states may have a variation of this.
Agree with the no intention of telling EX, also be wary of who you do tell because I do not know your circle but in mine I have to be very careful because I know it could get back to him if I tell certain people things, nothing that I should not keep from him regarding DD but things about my life he has no business knowing.
On the CO - I spoke with my lawyer recently and she said that in my state (so check in yours) unless anything is brought to court to ammend - the case cannot be transferred to a different district. i.e. - He (or you) could not move to have your case re-located to a different district just because.
On notice - In my state (again check yours) you have to let the other parent know x amount of time before or as soon as you know. So I don't think you would get in any trouble since you won't know about things until the last minute. It's not like you know you have the job today.
Happy that you have this opportunity! Especially if your support system goes with you and you get closer to other family. Proud of you too!
He already lives in a different state and requires a flight to get to you, right? I think that much will help your case. There's a small airport in Wilmington, and a fairly large one just an hour and a half from there, so it might end up being a wash for him as far as visitation goes.
I heart Wilmington. I haven't been in several years, but it's a neat little town. Cost of living is decent, pretty average for the South. It would be a good place to live.
P.S. What kind of store is it?