2u2?

tmgrn

Hi all, i have a 5 month old DD and just found out we will be expecting another 1month and 1 week after my DD 1st birthday. I am having a really hard time because I wanted to wait until my DD was atleast 20 months old, and now we will have a 13 month old and a newborn. My DH was thrilled, but I am having issues and seem to be more upset than excited. Anyone have the same feelings?

kagl08

My 2 are 13.5 months apart. We planned it this way and it was still tough for me. I had a lot of feelings flying around. Most of them were ridiculous looking back. I felt like my DD would miss out on a lot of things or that she would be mad at me. Honestly having them this close together was the best decision ever! There was never any jealousy, my DD accepted my DS from day 1. She is so cute with him and the love she has for him is so evident even just 3.5 months later. He's starting to smile and laugh when he sees her too and that is just adorable!

Remember your LO will be 13 months old! That's a lot different than a small 5 month old. At 13 months my DD had started STTN, ate mostly by herself, was walking, saying words and was so much more independent than a 5 month old. You have 9 months to get used to this. It is very hard having 2u2, but the rewards outweigh the hardness almost every day. I can already see my kids being friends and my DS is only 3.5 months old. It was the best decision of our lives having our 2 this close!

smerka

Yep.  Mine are just over 11 months apart.  You will get used to the idea in the next nine months.  It took me a long time - like well into the second tri.  

hecallsmecat

I am due 2 weeks before DD's 1st birthday and, yes I am nervous. Even though we planned this pregnancy (didn't think it would happen the first night we tried again!) I do get a little freaked out when I think about how tough it will be from time to time. But the main thing is to focus on all of the positives. The older one will be too little to feel much jealousy or even remember being an only child, you are already in the newborn phase so you will remember everything and not have to readjust, your kids will be on similar levels in terms of playing and such (not like a newborn and 3 year old who have nothing in common for years), etc.

12bailey18

Take a few days for it to sink in. Your first reaction may not be excitement, happiness, etc. It's OK for it to be a shocking, overwhelming time. It took me a few days to really wrap my head around it. And like PP said, you have 9 months! There will come a point where you honestly can't imagine life with just one and you can't imagine the spacing any other way. Don't worry, it's completely normal to feel that way at first. Give it some time.