Humor me - a non-clicky poll

Mominator

I know that this varies widely, but I would love to hear everyone's different stories.

At what point in the dating process did you know that your DH/SO was the "one" for you? When did you know that he was the one that you were going to marry and (hopefully) spend the rest of your life with? Not when did you get engaged, because that usually comes later, I realize, but when did you "know"?

Jodi&Joe

Pretty early on.  HOWEVER, I was 22 when I met him.  Every guy I spent more than 2 nights with was "the one!" 

LOL!  Nah.  My serious answer is that I knew pretty early on that it was going to be a serious long term relationship.  Like within 2 weeks.  Maybe that's because I basically moved in with him at 2 weeks?! 

As far as marriage?  We had a pretty big argument when we had been dating about 6 months.  We worked our way through that (really well actually) and I remember thinking "I am going to marry this guy!"

Rebekah1021

Well, I have a nervous stomach and it always tells the truth for me. I knew DH was the one for me when I didn't throw up.

eclaires

Pretty early on, but we were 21, so you could probably take that with a huge grain of salt, ha!

Anyway, we could spend days together without getting sick of each other, and never really had any drama - just fun and laughter.  Also, when we started dating, I was still a virgin.  I didn't ever plan on waiting until marriage - my plan was to kind of wait until I felt like I was in a relationship where if it ever ended, I would regret not having shared that with the other person.  I felt like that w/ MH (then boyfriend) and he was my first (and now only).

If that isn't cheesy, I don't know what is.

femmegem

We met on the 4th of July, and by early September we were making plans to get married. We got engaged I think in October (my memory is horrible). I knew before we started talking about it, and I think he did, too.

AndiG

When DH and I met/started dating, he had plans to move across country.  Our relationship was awesome and I was so afraid to lose him, but didn't want to ask him to stay for me...We had a temporary break up becuase he told me he did not want a long distance relationship which in effect would end "us".  Long story short, he decided (I never pressured him) not to leave and the rest is history.

I felt he was "the one" after our first date - we were together 5 yrs before getting married though.

JellymanKelly

Really early - within a few months. It took him longer, and two break ups, before he realized it. That should have been my first red flag. LOL It was really weird the way I knew, though. We were at a football game and he was headed out to get us something to eat. I looked back at him walking out of the stands and thought, "There goes my husband." I didn't tell him this until after we were married, though. 

joseysbride

I was 22 when dh and I started dating.  We both say we had a pretty good idea within the first 2-2.5 months.  We got engaged 6 months in, and married a year later, right after I finished college. 

dsmithplus2

I was 18 and H was 23 when we met...

I knew pretty early on that I wanted to be with him forever. I was comfortable around him in being myself and I wasn't worried about my craziness embarrassing me! (I'm a very nervous person and I tend to feel like if I keep from doing something weird, someone won't judge me - crazy I know, because your going to be judged not matter what). I just knew that if I could be around him doing my weird things, and he stuck around, that he was the one for me...

At 19, I was engaged, and 20 I was married!

Temp108743750006959

We had a rough start -- broke up a lot in the first year. He had already been married once and he was a mess. But I kept seeing him in my future -- like growing old with him. Most people told me to cut my losses but I didn't listen. I finally broke up with him and that turned him around.

We also had a lot of passion -- that's so dorky -- but so true.

I love every second of our marriage so I'm glad I hung in there.

august06mom

Sounds cheesy, but our first date. I was 20. Thankfully, we dated for another six years before we got married. I'm sure if I'd married him at 20, it wouldn't have lasted.

This is not to say we haven't had bumps in the road, some pretty serious ones. But we've both always had a commitment to making this work and have each always been willing to compromise for each other. I think that's what has helped. We've been together for 12 years.

Ms5586

About 2 weeks into dating...but we were friends for 4 years prior to that.

jessicaclare

I'm a cheeseball too. After our first date, I went home and told my mom I was going to marry him someday (I was 19 and home from college for the summer). We were together 4 years before we got married.

ali-1411

It took awhile. We had dated, then didn't speak for a few months. Then started dating again. A few weeks into that second chance, I had fallen asleep on the couch. I woke up to find that he went ahead and put DS to bed, he was three at the time. Read him stories and everything. I knew then that we could be a family. I was 23 and he was 25.

mattswife91805

I knew pretty early about 2 months in. We spent a lot of time together in the beginning and we didn't get sick of each other, that's when I knew. I also had a feeling that he was the one I was going to spend the rest of my life with.

Angela814

We'd been dating for 3 months when I knew. We were both 20 at the time, but we came from similar family backgrounds. We had the same moral values. We just worked together.

WBs_Bride

After about 6 weeks, I think? We drove from Philly to Boston (like Auntie) for a wedding and not once during the 7-hour drive did we even turn on the radio. We just talked--and talked and talked. We clicked really well, and I knew it was probably going to last starting at that point.

DustiRoseNY

I would refer to him as my "husband" to my friends even before we started dating.  We met in college and I always knew he was the type of guy who would make a great husband to someone.  He was older (served in the military before college.) We were friends for a few months, slowly started dating, and I was hooked.  I knew I wanted him to be my husband from the first kiss, but I wasn't convinced he felt the same way until a few months later.  We dated 5 years, got married, and have been together for almost 12 years.  

just.a.lurker

We both knew pretty early in.  We got engaged after 4.5 months of dating, and got married 6.5 months after that.  I never thought any previous boyfriend was "the one," even one I dated pretty long term.  I just had a completely different feeling with DH.

mlm1128

We were friends for a long time before we dated. By the second actually date, I knew. And it scared the beejesus out of me quite frankly. I left that date, and called my bff in a panic.

veloelle

I was engaged before DH. I totally thought he was The One. But, I was so stupid and too young. We were engaged when I was 22 and he was 28. I broke it off because I truly did not love him. Looking back I should have never accepted the proposal, I just felt like it was the "logical" thing to do after dating for X months.

I met DH in college while I was dating/engaged to exFI. DH and I started dating a few months later and I was like AAAHHHH, this is what a good relationship feels like! But, I figured he was my rebound summer fling and didn't really get serious for a few months. Once we started exclusively dating, I moved 600 miles away and we still dated. I knew a few months after that. DH proposed after we'd dating about 18 months. We'd known each other 2 years in college, dated for 18 months and had a short 6 month engagement.

FormerlyKrista555

I had known him since we were kids, and had dated him years and years ago for a very short time.

For me, it wasn't a heavenly moment... it was more common sense.  I had been through a terrible divorce, and shortly after that, reconnected with Nathaniel. I knew from knowing him for so many years, that he would make an excellent husband.

I was right. He's awesome.

beanzer

I knew after our first date that I was going to marry him. ?I even called one of my friends and told her.

J&A2008

Flameworthy: on some level I knew the night we met that he was the guy I needed

I'd say it was about six months before I was certain.

mamarazzi

We started dating when I was 17. H apparently knew really early - gave me a ptromise ring after a few months.  Judging by the way that freaked me out, I obviously didn't feel the same way at that point.  I think I sort of realized he was "it" and that's why I was so scared. We ended up dating for 4.5 years before we were engaged but we talked about marriage a lot way before then. 

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stacynikki

Before we even started dating. He asked me out and I said no because I could tell he was the kind of guy you marry and I was looking to have fun. We had the same social circle so we hung out a lot before I moved away and when I came to visit. When I was in the process of moving back a couple years later I told my friend that I was going to marry him some day and we had never even been on a date! He asked me out again when I moved back and a year and a half later we were married.

peekaboo716

I guess I would say when we had our first argument. It was about 3 months in, and I panicked at the thought of not having him in my life. He's really a dream guy, and I am so lucky to have him.

Mrs Manners

After our first date, I told my friends I was going to marry him. I wasn't sure he even wanted to go out with me again, but I knew we would end up together somehow. We moved in together three months later, bought wedding rings a year later and then put the brakes on a got cold feet. We ended up getting married 5 years later. 

Glendi428

I can't pinpoint the exact moment I *knew* (I suppose it was a gradual evolution) but I vividly recall our second date... a few hours into the night, he excused himself to go to the bathroom, and as he walked from the bar I watched him and thought, "Wow. He might really be THE ONE." Over the course of the next few weeks, it was pretty much a done deal for both of us.

ETA: I was 26 at the time, and he was 28... I was pretty confident in my gut instincts by then.