proudly showing your bump... or not?

Ecamiles

mkflower3000:

I'm really surprised at myself and kind of sad about this, because all I ever wanted in life was to be pregnant and have kids, and now that I am I just feel... embarrassed? I don't know what it is and I'm disappointed that I'm not proud of the little bump that I'm getting! I think some of it has to do with the fact that it LOOKS like a bump, but it's still mostly bloat that I can suck in (although it doesn't feel that good sucking it in, so I don't really) so sometimes it almost feels like I'm cheating if that makes sense? I also haven't told anyone in my grad program yet, and I really only started to somewhat show over winter break - which means that when I come back next week they'll all notice. The issue is that they're all rather judgmental and narrow-minded, so even though DH and I planned this and it was not irresponsible, I know that they'll be negative because it's not how THEY would've planned their lives (they might be nice to my face, but I know they'll say stuff behind my back because that's how my department is). I shouldn't care, but I do for some dumb reason, and I think that's also contributing to my desire to hide the bump rather than flaunt it. Plus, I've always had body issues so even though there's a great reason for the changes, it's hard to see and accept them so quickly (esp since I'm also still in the potentially fat-looking stage)... It's like the emotional part of my brain can't catch up with the logical. I really hope that I can get over this soon, though, because I really want to enjoy being pregnant and I know how blessed and lucky we are - I shouldn't feel embarrassed of it, especially since I don't have any reason to! It's been pretty frustrating but I'd like to think that eventually I'll 'wear' my bump with pride .

Dont let people get you down! Your brain will catch up eventually. It took me my whole first trimester to realize I wasn't getting fat but growing a baby. With the girls saying things behind your back, just smile at them, it's not their life and if they don't like it you could tell them how happy you are every time they say something to you.

Natalie&Mark

New maternity purchases are mostly loose-fitting, but still wearing most of my long knit tops from old wardrobe, which cling to bump.  I did notice in my HDBD pic today that non-maternity tops create this unappealing tent between my bustline and bump, whereas maternity tops tend to have shirring that still shows my "waistline"/underbust.

picklefamily

Well, I dont have a bump yet. At least not one others notice, I of course am aware of every little difference so I see the little bump at the very bottom of my tummy. I still haven't really announced the pregnancy so it kinda looks like I am just gaining weight, but it doesn't bother me because once I do tell everyone they will realize I am not fatter I'm pregnant! Haha So I will be showing the growing bump proudly! My friend hated how big she was so she tried to hide it, but she also gained alot of extra weight.

chillp

I'm 22 weeks and definately have a bump. I am definitely trying t hide it at work. I have only told my HR director that I am pregnant and my direct boss the Country Manager and that was for legal purposes only. I don't want people to start taring at me or trying to talk to me. I don't know what I'm going to do when it gets even bigger. I have never worn so much black in my life.