E-mail from Ex

MsJosie

Now I haven't heard from my ex in 3 months, he has seen LO twice in 7 months. (his choosing, not mine) then all of a sudden I get an email from him on Friday demanding that he see LO. My attorney advised me to email him back to tell him that he is not to contact me directly anymore and any future contact must be done through my attorney. And, that he must give at least a 72hr notice of when he wants to see her. So, what does he do?? He emails me back asking why??? I have not responded to him, I think I'm just gonna sit back and let him sweat it out. BTW, we go to court Friday for our child support hearing finally, and to put the cherry on the top. EX QUIT  his job and is lying about how much money he is bringing in from his trust fund so he can pay the minimum amount and still expect to see her when demands it or it's convenient for him. I just don't get it... What the hel* is wrong with these guys? They are soo stupid and think their shi% don't stink!!

turtle1120

Am I missing something here?  Didn't you say that your Ex has no rights to see your DD?  Why would you let him see her at all if he has no court ordered visitation or anything?

jandb2011

Don't respond to him at all.  You've already told him he needs to communicate through your attorney, so if he really wants to know why, he'll contact him/her.

Your ex sounds a lot like mine.  Mine doesn't have trust fund, but likes to get jobs where he's paid "under the table", so he doesn't have to pay as much child support.  He's never done anything for DS's Bday or Xmas and has only seen him once, but last April he emailed wanting me to send my son to him for a month, in the Summer (at this point he hadn't even paid CS in  over 6 mths).  Ex and I live in seperate states, so this would mean a plane trip that he wanted my 5 yr old to take alone and for me to pay for.  Needless to say, it never happened. 

I just don't understand why our ex's are soooo oblivious.

MsJosie

I don't want him to have anything to use against me in court. If I don't let him see her, I don't want the court to think I'm purposely trying to keep him from her. The few times that he has seen her I was always there and it was always in a public place. I would never go to his house. It's been over a year since he abused me and I am still terrified of him and scared to death for my baby to be near him as well. I know that if he does get visitation I want it supervised, but my attorney said that will only last for a few months and then he will get unsupervised and I know that he will trash talk me and try to brain wash my LO to turn on me. He's a great charmer... I hope that she will be smarter than to fall for his BS when she gets older. Now that he quit his job, he needs to go back to California where he came from after our court date Friday. Still not getting child support!!! There is no reason for him to be here in Illinois (my home state)!

turtle1120

If there's no court order in place setting forth visitation, then there's nothing for him to "use against you" in court.  He has no rights to her.  That's his fault, not yours.  If I were you, I wouldn't respond to him anymore.  I'm assuming he has your attorney's contact information?  You told him to contact her.

I'm not getting child support yet either and my DD is older than yours.  Illinois sucks.  Welcome to the club!  LOL.