Please help, my 3 y/o wont go poo in the potty

jessicap70486

I'm really starting to get to my wits end with DD. She's been going pee in the potty for almost a year now and I knew that poo would take longer, but my goodness! I've tried making her clean herself, making her sit on the potty until she goes(she never does), putting her in time out, reading books, watching movies, talking about it, heck I've tried bribery with her. She's gone poo twice in the potty pretty much by accident over the last year.  Dh and I don't know what to do with her anymore though. Any advice? Anyone else having similar problems? She wears her underwear during the day and sometimes she poos in them and sometimes she will wait until bedtime when she has her pull up on. I can't send her to school in Aug with her pooing in her pants, I don't want her to get made fun of or put the stress on her teacher. Ugh, TIA

Brewtowngrl

Steps

1.  Tell her it is ok to poop in her pull up at anytime, but all she needs to do is ask for one.  

2.  Next tell her to poop in her pull up in the bathroom so she is at least in the right room.  Close the door.  Give her privacy.  

3.  Sit her on the potty at poop times.  Close the door.  Let her have privacy again. No pressure.  

We put a huge prize for pooping on the potty on top of the fridge. It was the Thomas roundhouse.  It was in his sight, but he could not reach.  He knew what it was for.It took months after he pee trained, but once he did it he never stopped.  He always did it in his room too.  One day I was busy with DS2 and just put him in the bathroom at his normal time.  Totally ignored him.  I don't like doing my business with anyone around either.  

jerol

DD#1 was pee trained at 2.5 years. It took 6 months to poop.  Not as long as you but it was a rough road.  I did EVERYTHING!  What worked...totally ignoring it.  Her daycare teacher said "she will do it when she is ready."  So I stopped bribing, asking, getting upset, pleading, talking about it, etc.  I was exhausted.  And I went to pick her up and she had pooped.  And never looked back.    Hang in there!  It will happen!  If she is constipated try Miralax daily.

jag101

I'm having the same trouble. She sneaks away the second we turn our backs. I'm at my wits end as well.

Jena503

Stop it with the negative consequences and relax. August is a LONG time from now.

If you can get her to poop in the pullup like the pp suggested, then let her see you put the poop in the potty. Tell her that's where it belongs. My DD was obsessed with the idea that everything has a family (as in, oh this toy car isn't in the right place, it needs to be with its family...). So I told her the poop was going to be with the other poop... that it would be with its family. Weird I know, but it made sense to her and I think it helped that she knew her poop was going to the same place no matter what. (She still talks about it. I have no idea what the teachers think of that!)

livinitup

DD was potty trained for pee and poop around 2 1/2 and then regressed to only pooping in her ovenight pull-up. She's hold it until bedtime and even asked for a diaper during the day. The best thing I did was let her poop into the diaper whatever she wanted to. It was confusing becuase she DID poop in the potty for a while and then changed.

I finally said, its her body and her poop and she can choose. I gave it no energy. I let her have a diaper when she asked. I dumped the diaper in the toiler with a smile saying "this is where it goes". It didn't take long for her to choose the toilet. We did a happy poopy dance whenever she chose the potty and did a poop. Within a few months she was on the toilet full-time for pee and poop. It just happened on her schedule.