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A long overdue update and thanks

I came over here to read a post I made before Halloween looking for some thoughts on my son wanting to be Bat Girl for Halloween and realized that 2Mommies2Twins said to post an update so I figured I would...not that anyone was waiting for one, lol.

We went to Target probably the day after my last reply and they did not have the costume so I showed him Batman and he freaked, he was mad at me for even showing it to him so I promised him I would order him the one he wanted when we got home.  He wore it and looked adorable, because I made him wear black leggings and a tight long-sleeve shirt under it (it was too cold for a sleeve-less dress and it did not have covered his butt completely b/c he was too tall) so it looked more like Batman and no one noticed.  The part I felt really bad about was he started to be self-conscience about it and told someone that he was Batman but in private he was really Batgirl...which is sort-of funny b/c he is not into super heros at all and knows nothing about any of them but just liked the costume which he has not put on since.

He does still wear nail polish sometimes, he is wearing it since yesterday but said he wants to take it off before school, he will keep it on his toes.  And he still dresses up in girl dress-up, and it now extends to dresses sometimes and he insisted on DH getting him a Chinese dress when he went to Hong Kong.  He still never asks to wear anything girly to school but has worn dresses when my Mom and Aunt have come over.  He did want to wear a dress out the other day but I told him he could at home as much as he wants but he had to wear regular clothes to get pizza.  I have a feeling this is going to become an issue in the future, I have no idea how I will balance letting him be whoever he wants with protecting him from being teased, I know you cannot totally protect your kids but he is super sensitive so it is impossible not to want to.

So I am off to catch up on CTbride's blog and wanted to say thanks again to everyone who commented.

Jen - Mom to two December 12 babies Nathaniel 12/12/06 and Addison 12/12/08

Re: A long overdue update and thanks

  • thanks for the update ... I'm sure he was a SUPER DUPER BAT GIRL and  BATPERSON in general. 

    Sadly, kids are cruel and my goal in life is to just make sure that my girls and any children we have  in the future are kind and understanding to everyone.  Most of childrens opinions ( i feel ) come from their parents and this sets the tone.  SO pat yourself on the back because hopefully your son will know what its like to be different and know its ok and he may help other kids... I know this may a bit naive in my part but I have seen it I have 17 neices & nephews and know that just attending our wedding has impacted them for the better and made them attuned to different lifestyles and know that Love is all around and comes in a ton of varieties.  now that we have the twins some of the younger kids were a little perplexed but once we explained they got it and ... I got a phone call to hear a funny story ... Two of my neices were playing house and they wanted to have wedding and when their brother did not want to participate in the wedding ( be the husband) they threw their hands up and told their mom .... Mommy we will just get married like Auntie M and J  this made my heart flutter and their moms because we realize how awesome it is that they are growing up to now there is no difference.  

    - J

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  • You might want to check out the blog Raising My Rainbow: https://raisingmyrainbow.com/

    Its a great read. 

    Good luck! 


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  • imageLittlejen22:

    I have no idea how I will balance letting him be whoever he wants with protecting him from being teased, I know you cannot totally protect your kids but he is super sensitive so it is impossible not to want to.

    I understand this completely. 

    But I have a feeling that with a mama who has such an open mind and open heart, he will be just fine.

  • I'll echo Meeg's comment to check out the raising my rainbow blog, she's doing great things with her son too. Feel free to stick around and keep us updated. You're doing awesome things for your son, sending support your way!!!

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